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Posted 12/26/15 , edited 12/26/15
make some youtube videos on your music & make $$$ out of it... if you get lucky, you will the next justin bieber

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Posted 12/26/15
Sounds like your father might be a religious extremist. I would just stick through it and tolerate him, no matter how bad life is getting. It will be worth it because of the education.
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Posted 12/27/15
Happiness is important, but you want to think about it in the long-term as well. Instead of picking a degree, consider getting your associates and handling all your general education requirements. It'll give you a bit of a bump in job prospects, and you can save up once you're working to study music or whatever it is you really want to study. It would mean more time with your parents, but in the long term it would give you more independence and freedom to go into any field. You have to do a bit of risk/reward analysis before you choose something for your future, but as an observer with only partial information that seems like the most beneficial option to me.
Posted 12/29/15 , edited 12/29/15
Make a Youtube channel and put all your music there. See how that goes.

Stick with your degree. Money is important.

Religion is a personal matter. Who said that you had to pray when you're told to pray? Lol.
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Posted 12/29/15 , edited 12/29/15
I went back to school after taking a gap year to figure out what I want to do in college. I think it's important for you to have a direction. I went to work in the industry that I've always dreamed of being a part of (since I was a kid) but I came out jaded. Thankfully I found out and decided to major in something else. Even if you're unsure about it right now, I hope the course that you're taking is something you have interest in and not because of peer pressure or society's superficial standards of living. You may not learn much in college but a degree is important in the long run. I know very experienced acquaintances who got the sack because of a lack of paper qualifications.

You can consider taking a gap year from college and try work out your music career. I would encourage you to speak to your parents about your thoughts after doing your research first (for your music career). I believe that communication is the start to problem-solving, be it a conflict with your parents, superiors or friends.

All the best to you, I hope you find a way soon.
Posted 12/29/15

Chaquieor wrote:

Make a Youtube channel and put all your music there. See how that goes.

Stick with your degree. Money is important.

Religion is a personal matter. Who said that you had to pray when you're told to pray? Lol.


Probably because if you don't, you get your hands chopped off or some shit
Posted 12/29/15


^ i second this; i've been in a similar situation
Posted 12/29/15

ZENI7H wrote:


Chaquieor wrote:

Make a Youtube channel and put all your music there. See how that goes.

Stick with your degree. Money is important.

Religion is a personal matter. Who said that you had to pray when you're told to pray? Lol.


Probably because if you don't, you get your hands chopped off or some shit


My religious friends don't pray out-loud, from what I've heard.... OP could be humming a tune in his head.
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Three things:

1. Unless these parents of yours have been actively trying to kill you, they don't actually want to kill you on purpose or on accident. So, that's better than the rest of the world.

2. The world doesn't care if you die from whatever it does to you.

3. In some cases, the world will actively try to kill you. (I know about #3 from personal experience.)

If you care about what your parents think, you care about what your parents think. I know that seems obvious, but it's something that's hard for a lot of people to accept when they're working on growing up. You want to say, "Hey! I don't care what you think, mom and dad! I'm my own person!" Really, you care what they think if pretending you DON'T care what they think causes you any kind of inner turmoil. You want their approval. It's normal to feel conflicted about this at this time in your life. Those feelings of conflict inside of you are emotional growing pains.

My advice? DO NOT DROP OUT OF SCHOOL!!!! Especially for art. OMG! Don't do it. Unless you like not eating for days or having no money to fix your teeth or buy glasses or whatever when you have a problem. Don't do it unless you like NEVER, EVER being able to have a car to drive to your minimum wage job. Eeek! Graduating college -even if the major your parents make you do isn't your preference- gives you a competitive edge for ANY job over a non-graduate.

Instead, even if you have to do it in secret at first, start establishing a stable social group and financial support structure away from your parents while still living with your parents. Prepare to leap to living like a mature adult by acting in ways that are mature!

Don't live with them for the rest of your college career if you don't want to. Don't move in with the first band-member that bats their guitar strings at you, either. Take a few months at least to get something set up that really is good for you. Then, when you leap, even if they aren't sure at first, you can do what you planned without worrying about their approval. Once they see you're stable in your new set-up, they'll approve.

And the religion thing? Well, isn't that your business? Once you don't live there, it's none of their business. You can say whatever you want to say to keep the peace after that, if you want. You can spill the beans if you want. If you're no longer dependent upon them, you can choose to tell them or not and it won't wreck your life.

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Most colleges and universities are 90% stress, 10% learning, 100% about stealing your money. Don't you find it suspicious that all the successful people come from the top ten colleges and every other college produces small-time people that don't go onto anything?

It. is. a. s.c.a.m.


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Swallow your pride and stay with your parents. No matter how "bad" they are, the outside world is 10x worse. You are unlikely to make it on your own, anyway.


It's not about pride. It's about being miserable. I can finish college but I don't even know what degree I should be going for. Music is my passion but for sure my parents would never allow me to pursue that. I would have to grind it out here for 2 or 4 years depending on what degree I'd go for. I have a vision, I can't waste away in this house walking down a road I don't want to walk down.


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Allen750 wrote:

Most colleges and universities are 90% stress, 10% learning, 100% about stealing your money. Don't you find it suspicious that all the successful people come from the top ten colleges and every other college produces small-time people that don't go onto anything?

It. is. a. s.c.a.m.


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40YearOldVirgin wrote:

Swallow your pride and stay with your parents. No matter how "bad" they are, the outside world is 10x worse. You are unlikely to make it on your own, anyway.


It's not about pride. It's about being miserable. I can finish college but I don't even know what degree I should be going for. Music is my passion but for sure my parents would never allow me to pursue that. I would have to grind it out here for 2 or 4 years depending on what degree I'd go for. I have a vision, I can't waste away in this house walking down a road I don't want to walk down.





I realize that. But it seems that a college degree gets you a better paying job. I'm going for an education degree. Hoping to teach High School. My parents accepted it so it worked out in the end.
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Let me tell you something my friend, and this is the truth, and you should take my words seriously, learn from me, because you won't get advice like this anytime soon, so take it. I want you to read something, it is the years of my life that have gave me purpose, chasing my dream. All you have to do is click the spoiler tag bellow. The rest.... is up to you.

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Posted 1/26/16 , edited 1/26/16
Stay in college
the personal experiences shared here ^ aren't going to help much
there are people that learned a lot in college
there are people who haven't
end of story

right now, you have two options and one is definitely safer than the other

i hate to say it, but unless you have a truly unique gift or talent in music, you're most likely going to fail - and not just fail, but fail super hard
it's not me trying to be mean, it's just how the world of music/art is these days

my mom went to juilliard and was the best violinist (besides the concert master) in the south korean international philarmonic orchestra, but she still had a lot of trouble after putting that on the resume

your situation really sucks with your parents, but you're going to just have to push through that bullshit

for now, just think for at least an hour or two every day about what you want to major in; you're going to be even more miserable coming out of college if you pick on the fly and choose something that you hate - i did that at first too and left one school entirely because i knew i was heading down an unhappy road

I'd still make music on the side and upload it on places like Soundcloud or YouTube though (in case that's the type you're talking about) because you could be a hidden gem of talent that all of us are unaware about; never hurts to try
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All I can say at this point is that Germany has free university and you should go there, or take a year gap... you'll be glad you did.


ibrahim2712 wrote:


Allen750 wrote:

Most colleges and universities are 90% stress, 10% learning, 100% about stealing your money. Don't you find it suspicious that all the successful people come from the top ten colleges and every other college produces small-time people that don't go onto anything?

It. is. a. s.c.a.m.


ibrahim2712 wrote:


40YearOldVirgin wrote:

Swallow your pride and stay with your parents. No matter how "bad" they are, the outside world is 10x worse. You are unlikely to make it on your own, anyway.


It's not about pride. It's about being miserable. I can finish college but I don't even know what degree I should be going for. Music is my passion but for sure my parents would never allow me to pursue that. I would have to grind it out here for 2 or 4 years depending on what degree I'd go for. I have a vision, I can't waste away in this house walking down a road I don't want to walk down.





I realize that. But it seems that a college degree gets you a better paying job. I'm going for an education degree. Hoping to teach High School. My parents accepted it so it worked out in the end.


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Allen750 wrote:

All I can say at this point is that Germany has free university and you should go there, or take a year gap... you'll be glad you did.



I don't speak German though
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