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Posted 12/25/15

stars201 wrote:

I only send buddy requests to people who I deem are cool.
If we don't gb chat or pm each other, it's okay with me. We don't have to talk. I don't expect anything at all.
More than half of the people I have as buddies don't even talk to me lol. I still kept some of them there though.
If you reject my buddy request, that's fine too. I don't get offended with stuff like this.

For anyone who does add me, I accept all of them.
Later, I'll end up deleting them if I don't see them being active in their account or I see their account being abandoned.


Thank you! I'll be completely honest. It was your request that really got me thinking about this at lot and feeling like a rude person, and it's been bouncing around heavily in my head since then.

BTW, I miss your santa hat. But what can I say, I fully intended to have a festive avi for at least a couple of days, and I totally failed.

(There's always New Years I guess )
Posted 12/25/15
Well I hope that they talk every now and again, otherwise I just delete them. I don't see the point in adding someone if they don't.
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Posted 12/25/15
Most importantly though, I expect that my CR buddies make CR a place I want to return to.
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Posted 12/26/15
I never send them out and turn down the boat loads i do get. Never could understand why you would send it to some complete stranger.
Posted 12/26/15
Not much, just to be nice and pleasant. That's all.
Posted 12/26/15
I haven't passed anyone a request. When I'm in the mood to accept requests, I accept requests regardless of who they are, for no reason other than to not exclude people. And when I'm not in the mood to accept requests, I exclude everyone. I expect nothing from anyone. I'm off-put when people send me messages in general because I feel obligated to come up with something relative to reply with.

I think I view most people who pass me friend requests with contempt because I don't normally get friend requests, and when I do, it's from the opposite sex, roughly a few minutes, hours, or days after I've posted a picture of myself somewhere. No, I mean, nobody has cared for five months, and then you post a picture, and a few moments later you have 10 requests. This hasn't only happened once, it's happened over and over again, wherever I go. It's just too obvious now.
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Posted 12/26/15
I've only just returned to CR after a 4 year hiatus, heh... but when I was active there were a few I spoke to often. Even made some great PSN friends so there's that. In general I'm actually not a very good friend online... I might take too long to reply or even forget completely. Sorry, I'm doing my best!
Posted 12/26/15

AutumnWolf wrote:

I've only just returned to CR after a 4 year hiatus, heh... but when I was active there were a few I spoke to often. Even made some great PSN friends so there's that. In general I'm actually not a very good friend online... I might take too long to reply or even forget completely. Sorry, I'm doing my best!


So what did you do for the four years instead?
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Posted 12/26/15 , edited 12/26/15

lucipurrNS wrote:


AutumnWolf wrote:

I've only just returned to CR after a 4 year hiatus, heh... but when I was active there were a few I spoke to often. Even made some great PSN friends so there's that. In general I'm actually not a very good friend online... I might take too long to reply or even forget completely. Sorry, I'm doing my best!


So what did you do for the four years instead?


That was me "forgetting completely." xD
Posted 12/26/15

AutumnWolf wrote:


lucipurrNS wrote:


AutumnWolf wrote:

I've only just returned to CR after a 4 year hiatus, heh... but when I was active there were a few I spoke to often. Even made some great PSN friends so there's that. In general I'm actually not a very good friend online... I might take too long to reply or even forget completely. Sorry, I'm doing my best!


So what did you do for the four years instead?


That was me "forgetting completely." xD


Ah.
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Posted 12/26/15

lorreen wrote:

Do you expect them to PM you? Write in your GB? How often?

Do you just make and accept buddy requests as an acknowledgement of "I like you" without any expectation of much additional interaction?

I sometimes receive buddy requests and I always feel a bit awkward about them.

If it's someone I honestly can't recall who they are, I don't accept.

If it's someone I've had some brief interaction with largely related to my role as mod, I usually don't accept.

If it's someone I've had a fair amount of interaction with in forums or who I've seen post a fair bit and like ...

well, sometimes I accept and sometimes I don't and either way I feel guilty.

Because due to both time available and preference I mostly stay connected with CR people through the forums. I'm a very bad buddy if you want someone to chat with in gb or privately.

Right now I have 6 pending buddy requests. I'd feel bad rejecting them--last I checked, I liked all of them. But I feel like I might be letting folks down by accepting and then having nothing change in our CR-relationship.

Do any of you share this problem? What do you expect/want from your CR buddies. How do you decide who to accept and who to reject?



I don't have many friends myself which is fine because I realized from my fb account that it gets faky and useless when you have too many friends with whom you don't even talk. Therefore, I make sure that I do interact with the ones I have on CR when I get the chance.
It also depends on why you're on CR. In my case, after attending my very first anime convention and talking with few other anime lovers, I realized that it was a lot more fun and beautiful than I thought. I just felt like I belonged with those guys, don't care if they call me nerdy too, because I can talk with most of them about stuff than I can't with others. I don't expect to make hundred of friends either. Having just a few ones with whom I could argue on anime and even talk about other stuff feels nice, especially taking into account that I used to feel so lonely being the only one in my entourage watching anime.
In your case if you feel content with the way things are in your life, and only want to watch anime, you really don't have to force yourself to make friends. It's completely fine. It's your own happiness, don't copy others thinking that's the way it should be. Nonetheless, if you indeed make some friends I believe you should at least get to know a bit about each other. You could be surprised. Besides people have their own life too, so nobody expects you to be connected 24/7, just talk when you feel like it. Most important, you should ask yourself what is it that you want.
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Posted 12/27/15
I'm accepting of anyone who wants to be buddies. I'm open to making friends all over the world. CR is the place to make such connections. Every CR user has a story, a reason, a belief that I am interested to know.
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Posted 12/27/15
Social media introvert.. ;------; (I'm the polar opposite in real life, but it's the online life that is like scaaaarrryyyy)

Could they plz contact me as often as possible so that I wouldn't be concerned about writing to them. Friends are nice and it means less boredom when having downtime from real life... ^--^
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Posted 12/28/15
when I first started coming on here I thought id be a good idea to request friends and add people but I don't even talk to them. idk. it works for some people
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Posted 12/28/15
I just accept all of them. If they end up being rude or annoying, i delete them.
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