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how do you respond to someone who block you?
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Posted 12/28/15 , edited 12/28/15

melodyXXnur wrote:
well.if it was me. i would have not even care about it though. but my friend is such a nice person. she just..being nice. maybe alt acc can works for her


Making an alt account is not good advice.

1) Simply making an alt account is against CR 's site rules.
2) If someone makes a second account for the purpose of getting around a block then that's even more against the rules, and if it's reported to mods they'll get a warning at the least and will possibly be banned as well.

If someone doesn't want to receive messages and is serious enough about it to set up a block, and another person persists in trying to contact, then that's rude and disrespectful on the part of the person trying to contact them and could even be considered harassment.

(BTW, I've moved this to the Advice, Info, Recommendations forum.)
Posted 12/28/15

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melodyXXnur wrote:
*giggles* i bet you love peace and silence.


Happens sometimes.


i love peace and silence too. but i just hate to be ignored by someone that i know. like friends
Posted 12/28/15

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melodyXXnur wrote:
well.if it was me. i would have not even care about it though. but my friend is such a nice person. she just..being nice. maybe alt acc can works for her


Making an alt account is not good advice.

1) Simply making an alt account is against the rules

2) If someone makes a second account for the purpose of getting around a blockthen that's even more against the rules, and if it's reported to mods they'll get a warning at the least and will possibly be banned as well.

If someone doesn't want to receive messages and is serious enough about it to set up a block, and another person persists in trying to contact, then that's rude and disrespectful on the part of the person trying to contact them and could even be considered harassment.

(BTW, I've moved this to the Advice, Info, Recommendations forum.)


you've got the point. but it is also not wrong if someone just do something for their friendship right? things can get better. im talking for a scope for two friends who had a small fight.
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Posted 12/28/15
whats this been blocked technoligy you speak of ?

you just not let it bother you pple get blocked for alot of reasons weather you say something offensive or maybe the person is a elitist with a stick up there but who thinks there to good to play beginers you just gota not let it bother you
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Posted 12/29/15
Shrug it off. If you have a mutual friend you could ask them to pass on a message, but as someone who has been blocked a number of times, it's for the best. Rarely does good come from continuing contact with the person. Everyone who has blocked me was the result of an argument, with one exception, they refuse to accept facts and so they blocked me because they didn't want to hear me keep saying they can't become a vampire, or grow wings, or something else not physically possible. The other time it was my ex. Long story short he didn't want to admit he was in the wrong so he blocked me. Once you accept its happened, things are a lot easier.
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Posted 12/28/15 , edited 12/28/15

melodyXXnur wrote:
you've got the point. but it is also not wrong if someone just do something for their friendship right? things can get better. im talking for a scope for two friends who had a small fight.


It depends on the individuals.

Personally, I'm pretty protective of my personal boundaries and if I took a step, like blocking someone from PM, it would mean I really did want some time away. If someone pushed at me for attention, and circumvented safety that I'd set up for myself, even if they meant well, I'd be at the least annoyed, but could easily feel angry that my boundaries weren't being respected.

I think if another friend reached out to me to say something like "So and so is feeling badly about the fight, and really wants to get in touch with you. Do you think that can happen? When?" then I'd feel better about that. It would give me a chance to express whether or not I was feeling open to making up, and to think about how the other person was feeling, and would be an opening for me to say either that I needed more time, or for me to say, okay I'll unblock them, please let them know they they can write to me. Or even for me to take the first step in PMing them after lifting a block.

Your friends may have different needs and expectations. However, I will repeat that creating second accounts is against CR's rules. If it is reported that someone is creating second accounts for the purpose of contacting people who have blocked them, then the moderators here, of which I am one, view it as harassment and take it very seriously.
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Posted 12/29/15 , edited 12/29/15
Well if she has a group that she made and is always on you could try and contact her there . Then again I was never blocked from someone so I do not know .
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Posted 12/29/15

melodyXXnur wrote:

you've got the point. but it is also not wrong if someone just do something for their friendship right? things can get better. im talking for a scope for two friends who had a small fight.

You don't get to decide that. If it just being a small fight between friends is true they'll take down the block after they've had some time to themselves. If it's not then your impressions are one-sided and immaterial in any case. Whoever it is had the right to do what they did and whoever was blocked does not have the right to impose on them further.

Doing otherwise is just saying what I want is more important than what they want, which is the kind of behavior that's worth a block in the first place.

Instead of digging a deeper hole just give them the space they want. The most I'd consider is sending an indirect apology and ask to still be friends through one of their friends, but if they turn it down or ignore it that's their decision. And note that it's not the go-between's job to negotiate or intermediate, just to pass on a one-time message if they agree to.
Posted 12/30/15

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melodyXXnur wrote:

you've got the point. but it is also not wrong if someone just do something for their friendship right? things can get better. im talking for a scope for two friends who had a small fight.

You don't get to decide that. If it just being a small fight between friends is true they'll take down the block after they've had some time to themselves. If it's not then your impressions are one-sided and immaterial in any case. Whoever it is had the right to do what they did and whoever was blocked does not have the right to impose on them further.

Doing otherwise is just saying what I want is more important than what they want, which is the kind of behavior that's worth a block in the first place.

Instead of digging a deeper hole just give them the space they want. The most I'd consider is sending an indirect apology and ask to still be friends through one of their friends, but if they turn it down or ignore it that's their decision. And note that it's not the go-between's job to negotiate or intermediate, just to pass on a one-time message if they agree to.


Your advice is true. I'll pass it to my friend
Posted 12/30/15

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melodyXXnur wrote:
you've got the point. but it is also not wrong if someone just do something for their friendship right? things can get better. im talking for a scope for two friends who had a small fight.


It depends on the individuals.

Personally, I'm pretty protective of my personal boundaries and if I took a step, like blocking someone from PM, it would mean I really did want some time away. If someone pushed at me for attention, and circumvented safety that I'd set up for myself, even if they meant well, I'd be at the least annoyed, but could easily feel angry that my boundaries weren't being respected.

I think if another friend reached out to me to say something like "So and so is feeling badly about the fight, and really wants to get in touch with you. Do you think that can happen? When?" then I'd feel better about that. It would give me a chance to express whether or not I was feeling open to making up, and to think about how the other person was feeling, and would be an opening for me to say either that I needed more time, or for me to say, okay I'll unblock them, please let them know they they can write to me. Or even for me to take the first step in PMing them after lifting a block.

Your friends may have different needs and expectations. However, I will repeat that creating second accounts is against CR's rules. If it is reported that someone is creating second accounts for the purpose of contacting people who have blocked them, then the moderators here, of which I am one, view it as harassment and take it very seriously.


Your advice is true. I'll pass it to my friend. And she is not on this site so don't worry. Okay?
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