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I don't see the point in it truthfully.

What do you guys think of it?

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2015/06/23/144-years-of-marriage-and-divorce-in-the-united-states-in-one-chart/
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It's not just the US, it's all western countries. But what do you expect when marriage is all about the women, from the ring, the dress, the day, it's all about her and it's the mans efforts and money that goes into it. Then the fact that most divorces are initiated by women, up to 90% of the time for those around college ages, but in general it's around 70% of the time, sauce; http://www.divorce-lawyer-source.com/faq/emotional/who-initiates-divorce-men-or-women.html

Then the fact the man is screwed over in every way possible, losing a lot of his assets and money, most times he isn't even considered to be the main parent if kids are involved, even if he has a prenup agreement a lot of the times that doesn't hold up in court. So at the end of it all, he loses half his shit, his house, kids, even if the bitch cheated he still loses it all.

So with all this, people wonder why marriage is on the decline.
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It's not just the US, it's all western countries. But what do you expect when marriage is all about the women, from the ring, the dress, the day, it's all about her and it's the mans efforts and money that goes into it. Then the fact that most divorces are initiated by women, up to 90% of the time for those around college ages, but in general it's around 70% of the time, sauce; http://www.divorce-lawyer-source.com/faq/emotional/who-initiates-divorce-men-or-women.html

Then the fact the man is screwed over in every way possible, losing a lot of his assets and money, most times he isn't even considered to be the main parent if kids are involved, even if he has a prenup agreement a lot of the times that doesn't hold up in court. So at the end of it all, he loses half his shit, his house, kids, even if the bitch cheated he still loses it all.

So with all this, people wonder why marriage is on the decline.


Harsh.

But tell it like is lol.
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men suck
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men suck


^This!!
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I was in a relationship for 9 years that didn't work out. We never had any kids or got married and now it is as if she never existed. I think marriage would had complicated things considerably.
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Marriage is on the decline but it will never become something that doesn't happen.

The problem is people sign into a contract to early then end up breaking it now-a-days people don't want to risk putting everything into one relationship and want backup plans which i guess i can understand.


Marriage shouldn't change a relationship at all except add a bit more security and legally recognize you as married however there is way to much emphasis on it and it just works negatively in alot of situations.



I hope to get married someday but i can understand why people now want to be more carefull.
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DanteVSTheWorld wrote:

It's not just the US, it's all western countries. But what do you expect when marriage is all about the women, from the ring, the dress, the day, it's all about her and it's the mans efforts and money that goes into it. Then the fact that most divorces are initiated by women, up to 90% of the time for those around college ages, but in general it's around 70% of the time, sauce; http://www.divorce-lawyer-source.com/faq/emotional/who-initiates-divorce-men-or-women.html

Then the fact the man is screwed over in every way possible, losing a lot of his assets and money, most times he isn't even considered to be the main parent if kids are involved, even if he has a prenup agreement a lot of the times that doesn't hold up in court. So at the end of it all, he loses half his shit, his house, kids, even if the bitch cheated he still loses it all.

So with all this, people wonder why marriage is on the decline.



Pretty much Marriage needs to be built up again to be equal and until it happens i don't see marriage going up again.

Personally i wish i could sign a legal contract with my SO saying if either of us cheats they lose 90% of the assets etc which i think would be fair but apparently that is not ok...
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DanteVSTheWorld wrote:

It's not just the US, it's all western countries. But what do you expect when marriage is all about the women, from the ring, the dress, the day, it's all about her and it's the mans efforts and money that goes into it. Then the fact that most divorces are initiated by women, up to 90% of the time for those around college ages, but in general it's around 70% of the time, sauce; http://www.divorce-lawyer-source.com/faq/emotional/who-initiates-divorce-men-or-women.html

Then the fact the man is screwed over in every way possible, losing a lot of his assets and money, most times he isn't even considered to be the main parent if kids are involved, even if he has a prenup agreement a lot of the times that doesn't hold up in court. So at the end of it all, he loses half his shit, his house, kids, even if the bitch cheated he still loses it all.

So with all this, people wonder why marriage is on the decline.


^this.

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I have a friend who is staying with his "wifey" even though they aren't married officially. He has his reasons, it's just one if those thing you knew was coming, like with lower military recruitment and increased poverty.
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DanteVSTheWorld wrote:

It's not just the US, it's all western countries. But what do you expect when marriage is all about the women, from the ring, the dress, the day, it's all about her and it's the mans efforts and money that goes into it. Then the fact that most divorces are initiated by women, up to 90% of the time for those around college ages, but in general it's around 70% of the time, sauce; http://www.divorce-lawyer-source.com/faq/emotional/who-initiates-divorce-men-or-women.html

Then the fact the man is screwed over in every way possible, losing a lot of his assets and money, most times he isn't even considered to be the main parent if kids are involved, even if he has a prenup agreement a lot of the times that doesn't hold up in court. So at the end of it all, he loses half his shit, his house, kids, even if the bitch cheated he still loses it all.

So with all this, people wonder why marriage is on the decline.


I disagree with this. Marriage declines in western countries due to a desire for freedom from youth. Also children learn from their parents, I don't know about you guys, but my parents' marriage is wonky, bordering on dead. I don't want that!

Don't blame women for everything, it takes two to get married. Divorce is suppose to keep both parties on a similar life style, the only reason men might lose more is due to women not making as much as men; your complaint is an aftereffect of the glass ceiling. The kids I understand, but that is a societal issue. Men don't get lumped in as the parent, because current society DEMANDS the women take care of the kids; you can see it with maternity leave, but no paternity leave. The emphasis on women only parenting and the stigma of a father who stays home to care for the kids as wimpy/loser is unfortunate.

Lastly, most marriages fail. Most couples do not have good communication and interrelationship skills, hence their kids probably won't either. It's an endless cycle.

I hope I'm wrong, but I'm worried that the discussion on this thread is leaning towards blaming women, which is absurd. Men and Women simply need to decide to work through their marriage. No one party is fully at fault when a marriage fails and results in a divorce unless violence is involved
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This is due to the fact women are no longer loyal they sleep around and only care about money. Society is set up to cater to women.
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Well considering marriage is a complete joke, and a bad one at that, it's not surprising..
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Well considering marriage is a complete joke, and a bad one at that, it's not surprising..


Why is it a joke?

Two people being together for life isn't a joke at all.
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