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Posted 1/5/16
I don't know honestly.
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Nope.
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yeah, if he can count, do math and read I'm fine with it. kids need a sexual release. they need to know the consequences that sex can lead to
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deadscreen wrote:

yeah, if he/she can count, do math and read I'm fine with it. kids need a sexual release. they need to know the consequences that sex can lead to


But what if the consequence is pregnancy? Too late to fix the problem now.
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descloud wrote:


deadscreen wrote:

yeah, if he/she can count, do math and read I'm fine with it. kids need a sexual release. they need to know the consequences that sex can lead to


But what if the consequence is pregnancy? Too late to fix the problem now.


I meant they need to be educated about that stuff so that doesn't happen if they didn't want it to
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deadscreen wrote:


descloud wrote:


deadscreen wrote:

yeah, if he/she can count, do math and read I'm fine with it. kids need a sexual release. they need to know the consequences that sex can lead to


But what if the consequence is pregnancy? Too late to fix the problem now.


I meant they need to be educated about that stuff so that doesn't happen if they didn't want it to


When you said "sexual release" it sounded like.......ya. But that's why we have our kids take health class. Or at least it's supposed to educate them on it.
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Depends on his maturity, but probably. When I was that age and any sexually explicit content was on TV, say, when I was watching a film or something, it was always going to happen- that something sexual at some point would appear while my mum just so happened to be in the room (I say her specifically because my dad was more lax about it, depending on the content involved). She'd always say 'Cover your eyes' or 'Look away' when honestly I wasn't bothered. It was only awkward because she made it awkward, and I don't feel that's the right way of handling things. Of course this is all assuming that my son would turn out like me, but so long as he'd have the mental maturity I wouldn't have a problem with it.

Especially since by that point there'll probably be other kids at school and so on talking about how they watch porn and masturbate and all that. If I'm not with him to introduce him to certain words or definitions or if it comes to it- images, someone else inevitably would when I wasn't around. Ultimately, I feel the less you make sexually explicit stuff seem like a big deal or a taboo to them, the less they're going to feel desperate to experiment and potentially act irresponsibly. For example, if he's at school and some kid mentions a 'blow job', I'd honestly rather he feel indifferent due to already knowing what that means, than be inquisitive and then think 'What the fuck?' when he finds out (or worse, gets told the wrong thing and does something harmful/has something harmful done to him in the future). And I certainly wouldn't want him to be the kid that the other kids tease due to his ignorance on the subject.

Now that's not to say I'm going to switch some porn on and say 'Come join me, son' but you know, if there are characters having sex in a show, or there's a boob or whatever, I wouldn't instantly switch the TV off or anything, because all that does is lead to further confusion and ignorance, and them potentially finding the answers in worse ways. If anything I think it can be turned into a useful opportunity to explain what's realistic and what isn't. Kids are your canvas to paint on, and they always crave explanations to that which they don't understand. I'd rather make sure they're informed by me responsibly, than irresponsibly by porn or some other 13 year old who probably has no idea what he's on about. Honestly I'd rather get it over and done with, than leave them hanging in the dark while they have potentially unsafe ideas put into their head. That being said it doesn't really matter in my case since I don't even plan on having kids, but if I did that's how I'd go about it.
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No.

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As a parent, no - I wouldn't be okay with it. For my male or female child at that age. Pornography is, in many ways, like a drug. It can become addicting and can numb you to sex. As one with a family history of addiction to a variety of different things (drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, etc), I'd definitely oppose letting my children access something which can be addicting. It creates unrealistic expectations for sex. It also creates a subculture of people trapped in sex work.

So no, I would not want my children accessing sexually explicit material. I would and do try to restrict access to the internet to my children currently. They are currently all 6 and under, so that's not hard. As they get older this is going to get more challenging. If they were to access it, I'd talk with them about it...
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Depends on how mature the child is and how explicit it is, 13 is probably a bit young. 15 is more reasonable.
Posted 1/5/16
Not really
I would rather NOT know though
I'm sure it won't stop him finding out one way or other to view it
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Yeah, why not.
In my classroom we used to exchange p0rnstars names, and every guy had some knowledge on it.

It's better for him to watch that than to watch some hardcore-weird hentai. I don't want him to get traumatized.
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No not really. I mean I know it happens but I wouldn't enable it.
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anikevin wrote:
It's better for him to watch that than to watch some hardcore-weird hentai. I don't want him to get traumatized.
lol.. so long it isn't gore, fully brutal art's then fine but the "normal" hentai is mostly not so bad just meant to arouse.
like alot of pleasure (sometimes they say 10x.. lol) and loads, and its great when they are being unreal so its.. well unreal.. also the more calm ones or rather manga like is quite fun if they well balance good enough.
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