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Not sure what you mean by "gift." In the sense of roses, jewelry and fur coats I don't think that's a requirement.

But thoughtful gestures with material presence and/or use are very good for the maintenance of relationships, romantic or otherwise. If you go to a drive-through, get an extra food item 'just in case.' Even if it's cold and slimy by the time the person can get it and doesn't want it, they will appreciate that you're thinking of them.

If you know they like tea, and you see some interesting teas on sale, get one or two as a present to show you're thinking about them. You 'win points' whether they use the tea or not.

EDIT: And maybe this will read as sexist but in my experience working around a lot of women, the majority of women like having 'conversation starters' where they can brag about you to others and get positive feedback. (Wow this sounds so calculated but everyone benefits I think.)
Posted 1/7/16
I don't think so
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Looking at it, marklebid above me describes very well how I feel about the idea of gifts in a relationship.
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depends on the occasion.
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Every relationship is different.

Go with what works for you and don't worry about what works for other people.

My wife enjoys fresh flowers occasionally.
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Where I'm from, no, never.
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Maybe handcrafted gifts, but not necessary.
When the gift is bought from store, would it be clothes or some wacky new devices, it gives slight feel of "I have nothing else but money for you", if there is some unique twist in it, like handcrafted items or paintings are unique.

I guess the reason why its not necessary is because relationship has already its perks which are quite like gifting. You may be able to ask for help from another and that thought of security and trust makes it so.

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GotenLoooovesCorn wrote:

Since ancient times cavemen would slay animals to impress the ladies. There's no escaping it.


Lol, I would have made a crappy caveman. Bunny rabbits are just too cute to slay. You think bringing some seaweed instead would have worked for me or is Caveman me doomed to a lonely existence?
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TheOriginalStraynge wrote:


GotenLoooovesCorn wrote:

Since ancient times cavemen would slay animals to impress the ladies. There's no escaping it.


Lol, I would have made a crappy caveman. Bunny rabbits are just too cute to slay. You think bringing some seaweed instead would have worked for me or is Caveman me doomed to a lonely existence?


I grew up hunting and fishing. Nothing is quiet as impressive as a canvas sack full of half-dead frogs.

Posted 1/7/16
No, my best friend never exchanges gifts, and we're closer than family since childhood.
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No. Both parties probably enjoy them though.
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No, but it's a nice gesture sometimes.
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No.

Just like relationships.
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Gifts aren't necessary in relationships.
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It depends on what their love language is.

Mine were tied for Acts of Service and Quality Time. I came in almost dead last for Receiving Gifts. Everyone's different.

http://www.5lovelanguages.com/
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