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JuJu26 
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Saying "Fuck Off" to somebody always scares them a bit. Since I swear like a sailor, I do try to keep it under control so I can interact with other people better.
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I don't think many people can tell me what I can say or not say. Context is so important. There is a big difference if you are being targeted or if someone is just being a jerk.
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Well, I never swear, so...

I agree that it's important for people to understand the meaning behind it. Because I never swear or use overly profane language, if I called somebody a slut, a whore or a b**** as a joke (which will never actually happen), I doubt it would be taken very well. On the other hand, I have seen and heard such words used jokingly between groups of friends, and nobody took offense.

I don't really like such language, but I've become desensitized over the years. In elementary school, I was so innocent that I didn't even like to hear the Lord's name taken in vain (plus, I didn't know of more than two swear words--not until sixth grade, at least).


You should read my post about it. Profanity isn't actually sinful. I'm assuming this is why you feel the way you do.

I could be wrong, though.
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I think it's entirely rational to assume some words are being used in a bigoted manner. All my interactions with said people were on a fourm, with people I didn't know well. It leaves a lot to be asked.
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aoyagi10 wrote:

Well, I never swear, so...

I agree that it's important for people to understand the meaning behind it. Because I never swear or use overly profane language, if I called somebody a slut, a whore or a b**** as a joke (which will never actually happen), I doubt it would be taken very well. On the other hand, I have seen and heard such words used jokingly between groups of friends, and nobody took offense.

I don't really like such language, but I've become desensitized over the years. In elementary school, I was so innocent that I didn't even like to hear the Lord's name taken in vain (plus, I didn't know of more than two swear words--not until sixth grade, at least).


You should read my post about it. Profanity isn't actually sinful. I'm assuming this is why you feel the way you do.

I could be wrong, though.


I did read your post before I posted my own (I read all the ones on the page). I understand that. Many people of my religion swear, including family members. It's more of a personal preference. I don't like swear words because I think of them as filthy, probably because of some of their definitions/allusions. I'm not trying to be rude here--it's just my personal opinion of them.
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For me it's all about intent and the only way words will offend me is if I allow them to. In this day and age people shouldn't be so quick to take everything that's said to them to heart (particularly on the internet)
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aoyagi10 wrote:

Well, I never swear, so...

I agree that it's important for people to understand the meaning behind it. Because I never swear or use overly profane language, if I called somebody a slut, a whore or a b**** as a joke (which will never actually happen), I doubt it would be taken very well. On the other hand, I have seen and heard such words used jokingly between groups of friends, and nobody took offense.

I don't really like such language, but I've become desensitized over the years. In elementary school, I was so innocent that I didn't even like to hear the Lord's name taken in vain (plus, I didn't know of more than two swear words--not until sixth grade, at least).

My step father helped to expand my colorful vocabulary at a young age. According to my mom, I had already said words like coon and fuck before first grade. XD

(To clarify, with all his faults, my step dad wasn't racist; he used the word coon as a joke to his other black friends under the doctrine of Being Black Means That You're Allowed To Say It.)
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In general...in my experience...people are assholes. An the people who truly aren't are labeled as disingenuous. Its universal law...
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You show me a while man who's never said nigger and ill show you a two year old.
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Context and intent is generally more important than the most accepted definition. This is in part because...

Words lose their meaning the more they are used.

Language is in motion. Words are transitory.

In addition, "Russians" was translated to "occupiers"



I've been told it makes me seem unintelligent--a demonstration of a lack of vocabulary--or constantly reminded its unattractive and unladylike.

Swears can easily become a go to word and can give the appearance of having a smaller vocabulary. While many times I use a swear just to verbally express a " ", I try to keep it to a minimum around others. ...when I'm not gaming anyway.

In terms of attractiveness, I find people who openly express their energy and enthusiasm to be fun and can be specially attractive in women. As long as you don't come across as obnoxious or threatening, swearing can apply to that. Tone, place, and moderation are important.

Best to communicate wisely, as to not be misinterpreted or misunderstood. Similarly, it's best to not be misunderstand or even purposely misinterpret.

That's something everyone should try to keep in mind. If you find something offensive, particularly from someone you care about, you'll go a lot further if you relay your impression or ask what they mean by it before making conclusions that might end a relationship or narrow your view.

I inadvertently let slip "Ah, get out the way you fucking nigger" and my friend got mad at me.

I'm sure it probably wasn't the most thoughtful comment. You have to be responsible though if you're going to start using abstruse or rare definitions. Good to hear your friend was open-minded in the end, but you can't blame others you're not familiar with if they took it in a way that was unintended.
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Please tell me I'm not the only child that had been dragged to the shower and made to swallow soap. All it took was one swear word, and I hadn't even known what it had meant at the time. After that I didn't start swearing until late high school...the rest is history.

Thankfully we had bar soap at the time. My sister got liquid soap.

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PrinceJudar wrote:

Please tell me I'm not the only child that had been dragged to the shower and made to swallow soap. All it took was one swear word, and I hadn't even known what it had meant at the time. After that I didn't start swearing until late high school...the rest is history.

Thankfully we had bar soap at the time. My sister got liquid soap.



I didn't really use profanity when I was a child. I really only picked it up after being in the military. At that point, it became such a habit, I had a hard time not using "fuck" every other word.
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It's all in context if you're with friends and you know they like to joke around like that then it's fine. What people don't seem to get is there's a difference in saying words in a joking manner vs saying the same words in an angry manner. I'm not much of a curser myself but I wont tell someone they can't say certain words anytime because of race/political correctness. Growing up I had a black friend and a hispanic friend they were the best of friends and called each other every name in the book. Thinking about it now the jobs they choose fits them to a t, both opened a diesel mechanic shop together and are doing quite well.
Then when my black friend brought over a new guy to our group and the hispanic guy in our group said the word my nigga the new guy wanted to punch him out right away. Needless to say all of us threw him out untiled he apologize and understood the dynamic of our group.
I really think people need to develop thicker skin especially if you can't read the context of a situation well.

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Posted 1/7/16

PrinceJudar wrote:

Please tell me I'm not the only child that had been dragged to the shower and made to swallow soap. All it took was one swear word, and I hadn't even known what it had meant at the time. After that I didn't start swearing until late high school...the rest is history.

Thankfully we had bar soap at the time. My sister got liquid soap.



Oh as a child? Well as a child, if I swear in front of my parents, I get beat up for it. I would rather get grounded or swallow soap than get bruises and scars
Posted 1/7/16

SatoMadoka wrote:

I don't think many people can tell me what I can say or not say. Context is so important. There is a big difference if you are being targeted or if someone is just being a jerk.


Wrong. That can get you fired from your work. Then you go on to say the truth, context is the key. Its really a thread about one's rights to being a jerk, if they feel like it.

Sure, but karma's a bitch, eventually.


pikohn wrote:

You show me a while man who's never said nigger and ill show you a two year old.


Everyone's said it, but not everyone uses it. I'm not sure what the message is , we should all say it so that it'll lose power? This thread. I don't think PVs thread got silenced because of censorship, it got silenced because it was offensive. Cause and effect. Not respecting others is why. I want the right to live in Donald Trump's mansion, but the donald might not like it.
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