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What is your major key to reaching your dream? What drives you? What do you need to know, to have, to be right now? I just want to hear from others about there new years, or nice stories about achieving goals. There is just way to much negativity for me at this moment. So it's not really a drive for attention, I just really want to hear positive things about other people. Not positive comments directed to me. If that makes any sense? I just want to hear the little stories of how you bring or have received some form of light.


I've experienced a lot of defeat, a lot of disappointments. I thought this new year would be different, but 8 days in and I'm already spiraling out so much faster. I know things are difficult, i know somewhere it'll be worth it. I guess my issue would be that I am just at a point where I don't see any sunshine (so to speak).

To sum it up.. every muscle, every bone, every fiber of my being is telling me to give up. That little voice in my head that's telling me to drive forward, that it'll be worth it... is becoming silenced.
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I'm not too sure what my dream is, but I do know what drives me. The simplest things, the awe and mystery of everything. Kinda hard to explain but for example earlier today I went to a park near my house and swung on the swings, it was riveting to say the least and it brought me the utmost joy.I guess it's the silly playful things in life that I live for, things that are spontaneous, not forced.

I think this quote complements what I'm trying to say, " People say that what we're all seeking is a meaning for life. I don't think that's what we're really seeking. I think that what we're seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances within our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive." - Joseph Campbell
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I'm not too sure what my dream is, but I do know what drives me. The simplest things, the awe and mystery of everything. Kinda hard to explain but for example earlier today I went to a park near my house and swung on the swings, it was riveting to say the least and it brought me the utmost joy.I guess it's the silly playful things in life that I live for, things that are spontaneous, not forced.

I think this quote complements what I'm trying to say, " People say that what we're all seeking is a meaning for life. I don't think that's what we're really seeking. I think that what we're seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances within our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive." - Joseph Campbell


That is a nice complementary quote.
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i keep taking steps, as tiny as the steps are, as long as i am moving forward i am going to get somewhere.
i can be scared, i'm allowed to do that because most of my life begins when i'm out of my comfort zone.
i won't allow myself to be complacent and comfortable with it, because if that happens i get lazy and pushed down by negativity.
i'm learning to love myself and with that, learning to believe in myself.
i smile to myself, i treat myself like going to the cinema alone; why? because i'm fine with that.
i enjoy my own company.
on the way to university, i'll see a pigeon dawdling down the path and i'll laugh, smile at it with my cheesy grin because i think it looks so stupid. it's fat body and twig like legs; tiny, quirky things i would usually ignore in my life, i notice them, and they really make me laugh or appreciate it when i add a little meaning to them.
it's hard. i'm almost desperately trying to ignore a pain in my chest but i know it's temporary.
i can beat it, i'm going to fight it and win.
everyone is fighting their own fight, i'm fighting mine.
i know i'm not going to give 100% all the way, i know not i'm going to do things as expected,
but hey, that's fine with me.
i will slip and fall but i'll get back up.
i'm going to do it my way.

Posted 1/8/16
I don't believe it's possible to achieve your dreams, my dream is to become the best guitarist ever. The bar is set that high because I already know dreams are impossible but it will give something to work on for the rest of my life.
Posted 1/8/16
I'd love to make a popular video game one day, either that or become an animator. I guess you could say what drives me is the need to share my "creativity" with the world.
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I started writing at a small site just over a year ago with no degree in journalism and I was able to work my way into Anime Expo as media. Now I'm writing for a new website, and we're going to E3 this year. I just want to make a living writing, but it's hard. I can get into whatever convention I want and acquire review copies, but making a living is much more difficult. Even people with a degree don't necessarily make a lot of money. Still, I'll be writing for bigger websites someday, and I'll go to college too. I've come pretty far for someone who didn't graduate high school.

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Sorry for the essay like response:
The key to reaching my dream was realizing what my dream was and that was the most difficult decision I have ever made. Since childhood, I was raised to go into the medical field: parents had me take all the right courses and major in the right sector. I went along with it because I thought “I’m good at science and have fun, I like helping others, this seems like the right career choice.”

Flash forward to 2015 a couple of degrees later and a couple of specialty certifications later, while sitting through Shakespearean literature (that i was taking to offset physics) I realized how I never enjoyed any of my science courses as much as I did as reading Titus Andronicus and Much Ado About Nothing or as much as I enjoyed learning world mythology. I always enjoyed literature and poking fun at the many discrepancies in English language rules.

So there I was, Nov 2015, trying to figure out what the best career would be for me, after spending so much money on relocating for college, college itself, and relocating after college, all my work experience, everything, everything was nowhere near geared toward my new life goal. It was bleak, life sucked, I questioned everything, like should I just stick with healthcare, I’ve already come this far? What will my family think? Who will write my letters of recommendation? Will things get better? Am I making the right choice? what the heck is the “right” choice? etc. I was miserable while trying to figure out life, being super broke from so many college graduate program applications with 80+ application fees in addition to regular monthly expenses, and trying to not be worried about everything. I wanted to quit everything, some people may think this may not be a big deal, but for me this is a huge deal.

SO that was all the sad crap, NOW the “it gets better” part I have excellent friends, I have amazing professors, and they listened to what I had to say, supported my choices, told me it would be difficult, and later gave me suggestions of ways that I could attain my goal. One professor suggested a program that was perfect for what I want to do and I applied, I was lucky to get an interview and hopefully things will work out for the better. If that doesn't work out, that is okay because I have a plan B, C, and D. Even if you don’t have anyone in your immediate circle that can help give advice and there are plenty of mean folks online, there are forums like this where you can find a support network.

I try to think of things this way:
can i fix the situation?
yes: analyze and find a solution, don’t see a solution? ask someone for help, no one around? research, still nothing? ask folks on the internet (you are bound to get some response)
no: then why am i worrying about this?, still worrying, remember that I can only fix so much, worry a bit less, and find something fun to do to forget about it.

Back to your questions:
What is your major key to reaching your dream?
Figure out what your dream is, what makes you happy, think about whether this goal you are after small/large will make you happy with yourself and comfortable with your perception of yourself.

What drives you?
not wanting to feel as craptastic and horrible as I felt chasing a dream that was 1) someone else’s and 2) the easy dream to chase. Realizing, there are so many obscure/weird careers/goals to chase, there are equally as many; if not more, paths to reach those dreams. Noting, we are not on an assembly line, we are different with our own imperfections and we will each have our own paths to reaching a goal.

What do you need to know, to have, to be right now?
You may not know what your dream is yet, how you find it is obviously completely up to the individual. However, be honest with what you want, no matter how “unique” your desires may be. The dream you chase right now may not be the overall dream you are going to chase either, but take each step toward that dream; even if it turns out to not be your overall dream, as a learning experience and use that as a springboard to chase your next dream.

Remember, it is totally okay to fail, we all fail, we all have days/weeks where we hate life or are unhappy. If we listen to that "I want to quit" voice instead of the "hey, it might get better" voice, then you make the active choice to keep feeling unhappy, you surrendered the option to find a solution. So choose not to stay unhappy and if you cannot find a major goal to chase, focus on a smaller one that will get you through the week/month. Once you have so many accomplished goals, that will help you develop your overall goal.

Hope this helps and sorry about ranting on forever !
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potentsativa wrote:

I'm not too sure what my dream is, but I do know what drives me. The simplest things, the awe and mystery of everything. Kinda hard to explain but for example earlier today I went to a park near my house and swung on the swings, it was riveting to say the least and it brought me the utmost joy.I guess it's the silly playful things in life that I live for, things that are spontaneous, not forced.

I think this quote complements what I'm trying to say, " People say that what we're all seeking is a meaning for life. I don't think that's what we're really seeking. I think that what we're seeking is an experience of being alive, so that our life experiences on the purely physical plane will have resonances within our own innermost being and reality, so that we actually feel the rapture of being alive." - Joseph Campbell


I think you've got the right idea, I would encourage you to try and hold on to that curiosity. Strive to learn and grow and experience as much as you can for as long as you can. Also, great Joseph Campbell quote. If you haven't already you should look up his thoughts on eternity and the function of life, it's similar to the one you posted.
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I think they won't meet my expectations.
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motivation...
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