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Yes, I've left quite a few. I had to leave a relationship recently which wasn't doing me any good... it wasn't a romantic relationship though. It was an on/off friendship that was driving me nuts. Seriously... either you're my bestie or you're not
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Dariamus wrote:

Serious relationships are never easy to leave.

Even bad ones.


Eh, I think it depends on the person, I've never been in a really bad relationship but I'd have no problem leaving one. And I've known others who were able to leave them when they got really bad even if they were in it for years, of course I know others who found it difficult.
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I'm addict for dramatics.

No I have a terrible thing of being with someone instead of being alone, is the relationship horrible and emotionally abusive? Yes.. Will I leave it? Unlikely.

I have had two girlfriends were we got together and broke up 3 times a week and it was always her fault literally she would start and then ask for me back and I would agree the only thing this ever did is when it came time for the final breakup I was so emotionally dead to the relationship I didn't care anymore. I would always get back together even if my feeling were gone, because hey it beats being alone right?

Even now in my current relationship its painfully obvious my bf loves me but I can never love him and even if it's cruel of me to stay in it knowing my feelings wont change I'll still stay.

I remember a friend of mine me and her had feelings for each other but decided never to get together because we were both so incapable of ending a relationship we would stay together forever even if he hated each other because neither of us would be able to break up with the other. The weirdest thing Is I'm pretty cold but lonliness is not something I want to deal with again. I'm ok with all the bad as long as I know they are there at the end of the day even if I have nothing for them or feel anything with them.

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Wasp-Zero wrote:

I have this weird part of me that at a certain point I become ice and can walk away from basically anything.


I'm the same way.
I'm pretty cold, and I even walk away from good relationships (on a regular basis) or chances at a good relationship. I haven't had much experience with bad relationships, but I'm sure I would be able to walk away from one if it ever came to that.
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What I said was the same thing that 100 other people said, yeah but it depends on how serious.

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It depends, partly, on who you are and what kind of attachment style you have.

People who were brought up in more rigid, 'cold-love' environments and develop fearful-avoidance attachment styles are less likely to commit themselves fully to any sort of relationship, be it friends, family, or more. In some situations this might not be a bad thing, leaving bad relationships can be a very easy thing for these people. On the other hand it is found that most fearful-avoidant people struggle to find much satisfaction from any sort of relationship, valuing independence and autonomy above all.

There seems to be a kind of balance between (relationship committal and satisfaction) and (intrapersonal/interpersonal security). Anecdotally speaking, it's hard to be happy with someone if you aren't even a little happy with yourself. In any case, it's a field of study that's undergoing a lot of research and review right now.

Of course, attachment styles is a blanket term; but the trend is there and very, very real. You could read a bit more of it from the links below:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/compassion-matters/201307/how-your-attachment-style-impacts-your-relationship

This one is more of an academic paper, but pretty interesting if you give it a try:
http://psp.sagepub.com/content/18/5/536.short
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If goes on for too long or too much.
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eclair-lumiere wrote:

Yes, I've left quite a few. I had to leave a relationship recently which wasn't doing me any good... it wasn't a romantic relationship though. It was an on/off friendship that was driving me nuts. Seriously... either you're my bestie or you're not


Ikr
But If a significant other hasn'the given me a tummy rub or made me Ramen within the first year, it probably won't work out.
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Ikr
But If a significant other hasn'the given me a tummy rub or made me Ramen within the first year, it probably won't work out.
/sarc



Yep, you know what I'm talking about since I told you in a PM.

In a romantic relationship, ideally I'd like them to be my butler
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Ikr
But If a significant other hasn'the given me a tummy rub or made me Ramen within the first year, it probably won't work out.
/sarc



Yep, you know what I'm talking about since I told you in a PM.

In a romantic relationship, ideally I'd like them to be my butler

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I guess you need a masochist bf? :p
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Oh lord
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I guess you need a masochist bf? :p


Hmm well that would be nice actually

I did have one at one point. He was a major masochist and enjoyed more than just being made to be a butler. Shame that didn't work out.
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Oh lord
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I guess you need a masochist bf? :p


Hmm well that would be nice actually

I did have one at one point. He was a major masochist and enjoyed more than just being made to be a butler. Shame that didn't work out.

If u go down to your local bdsm shop you can probably find another one.
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I feel like I should interested in this story, but I am.
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TrickedMJ wrote:


Dariamus wrote:

Serious relationships are never easy to leave.

Even bad ones.


Eh, I think it depends on the person, I've never been in a really bad relationship but I'd have no problem leaving one. And I've known others who were able to leave them when they got really bad even if they were in it for years, of course I know others who found it difficult.


I've had to help a few friends leave relationships they could not leave on their own.

One of them is missing most of her teeth.

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I go from 100-0 real quick
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