First  Prev  1  2  3  4  Next  Last
Post Reply Are you able to easily leave a terrible relationship?
205 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
F
Offline
Posted 2/2/16
Yes
17749 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
33 / M / outer wall, level...
Offline
Posted 2/2/16
yeah, its been 8 years married. dated for 3 months. wedding was happy. 3months later, i was still happy. 6 months in, i realized i didnt feel loved. she love me, but i didnt feel it. we are too differnt people. 1 year in i decided to focus on myself. 3 years in i cant work anymore.
5 years in, life turns to shit for both of us, and she leaves, leaving me on the street. she threatned to call the cops on me if i even went back for clothes. 8 years in, and im tired of it. im on disablity, and i get all of 316 a month. so yeah, im tired. after 8 years ive had enough. i have no say in our lives, i have no say in our finances. we move when she wants to. so im tired. fuck this. im out. even if that means being homeless camper man in the forrrest, fuck it. i should have left at year 1, but hell, when i said 'till death do us part' i actually ment it. now i just dont care. i cant live like this anymore. even if i never find anyone else, at least i have a say in my life.

sorry for the wall of text, but yeh its not easy to leave a serisous relationship.
97903 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
68 / M / Columbia, MO
Offline
Posted 2/2/16
As long as you don't keep telling yourself that when they see the reinvented me it will change for the better or convince yourself that the potential that may never arrive outweighs the harsh reality of incompatibility right now you can leave. There will be baggage (always is) but in time life will get better and you will survive.
1580 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
25 / F / MO
Offline
Posted 2/2/16
Just got out of one myself. First relationship I have ever been with so it scares me that I have like...molded my mind into thinking that its ok? I wasnt looking for anything serious but this guy still wanted to date (even though I told him about my lack of need for a relationship) and everything was fun and adventures and food and snuggles and movies...until it wasnt. He started pushing for more serious things and when I would tell him that I wasnt interested he would drink heavily. He never, not once put his hands on me, and I am sure he never would have turned abusive towards me. But taking care of someone like that can be mentally and physically taxing. After 8 months of dating, this past Sunday I finally told him we had to stop. I am scared that with this being my first relationship I have hard wired myself in some way on how I see relationships and that;ll I'll have this warped sense of what is healthy and what isnt...

Haha sorry to take over the forum this way...all of my friends are also his friends so I feel like I can't really share my feeling with anyone "out there"
Sogno- 
45631 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 2/2/16
hmm never had the problem i usually get dropped first...
Posted 2/2/16

Dariamus wrote:

Serious relationships are never easy to leave.

Even bad ones.


This is so true
4084 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
M / United States
Offline
Posted 2/2/16
I never have problems dropping relationships. It could be because of my overly rational mind, who knows. I have friends with this issue though, and it bothers me so much. I have seen people drive themselves to insanity over toxic relationships. I wish that toxic relationships were easy to leave for people, but that's not the case.
6088 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
25 / F / US
Offline
Posted 2/2/16

Yes.
7111 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
20 / M / Arkansas
Offline
Posted 2/2/16
nah they all leave me lolololoolololol
Posted 2/4/16
The only thing I can't easily leave is my bed.
13577 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
21 / Australia
Offline
Posted 2/4/16 , edited 2/4/16
I don't know do I look like I'm not a virgin to you?
37140 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
Offline
Posted 2/4/16
Yes but I wouldn't be around long enough for it to turn terrible anyway.
7738 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
20 / M / Disboard
Online
Posted 2/4/16
I'm able to easily leave good relationships let alone bad ones
401 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
17 / F
Offline
Posted 2/4/16
In my case, of course! I drop everything that's not good for me.

Those who can't do it clearly have issues with themselves. They probably have low self-esteem or believe that being alone is the worst but in the end, they're just weak and afraid.
15947 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
20 / Cold and High
Offline
Posted 2/4/16 , edited 2/4/16
in some cases its because they know the reasons why they are bad, but want to help even if they go extreme and sometimes a 3rd party has to step in to help as they could see there is a problem for both, one don't see that this don't help and the issue is deeper then that.

and much more reasons, scenarios.
First  Prev  1  2  3  4  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.