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qualeshia3 wrote:

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I have a problem with conflict. I hate it. I hate the feeling I get when I'm near it. I can't stand arguing with people because it leaves me feeling terrible. I can't even handle heated debates because I get nervous and on edge. I try to be a good enough person by not pissing people off. I can't stand getting someone angry because I would feel horrible for it. My thoughts will become dark and heavy if I make anyone upset. I try to please people and make them happy because I don't want them to stay mad at me or hate me. I can't handle being hated because it's like the person wants me dead. All in all I can't handle confrontation because I feel bad for the other person. I've been this way since I was a little girl. I would like to change myself for the better but don't know how. Has anyone ever felt this way? If not then do you have some advice. I know I'm asking a lot from you CR users but anything helps. Yes, this is a problem that will take time but I worry. I get that I am too nice of a person and that can lead to certain problems. I was unsure if I should make this thread because it might be troubling but I wanted to. So any advice would be helpful.


How do I just suck it up and handle this problem that I have with conflict?




Nothing wrong with it. 90%(exaggeration) of a person arguements is a waste of time. A battle of who can talk louder than the other and discuss nothing of great importance. Your not missing out on anything, or so I would like to think.


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Annoying.
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well that's me
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RINO = Republican in name only
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Not socialized? No, that's not right... Um, introverted? Maybe.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

My Turn:

I have a problem with conflict. I hate it. I hate the feeling I get when I'm near it. I can't stand arguing with people because it leaves me feeling terrible. I can't even handle heated debates because I get nervous and on edge. I try to be a good enough person by not pissing people off. I can't stand getting someone angry because I would feel horrible for it. My thoughts will become dark and heavy if I make anyone upset. I try to please people and make them happy because I don't want them to stay mad at me or hate me. I can't handle being hated because it's like the person wants me dead. All in all I can't handle confrontation because I feel bad for the other person. I've been this way since I was a little girl. I would like to change myself for the better but don't know how. Has anyone ever felt this way? If not then do you have some advice. I know I'm asking a lot from you CR users but anything helps. Yes, this is a problem that will take time but I worry. I get that I am too nice of a person and that can lead to certain problems. I was unsure if I should make this thread because it might be troubling but I wanted to. So any advice would be helpful.


How do I just suck it up and handle this problem that I have with conflict?




Realize that no matter what you do you will make people mad at you. If you debate people some will get annoyed at you. If you give in too easily people will get annoyed that you keep switching sides. If you accept what everyone tells you then people will get annoyed that you have no mind of you own.

You can avoid conflict but then you just become a tool for others to use.

Here tell me a few things your passionate about or like and I will pick one to insult and you can argue back at me.
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Annoying.


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Meek. It's a positive trait.
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for me it was insecurities, I wasn't sure of myself and just avoided things. Now I don't care I'll speak when I want or don't want. I don't go out of my way to offend or cause problems if that makes sense.
Sometimes I see people who shrivel at challenges as weak and if their fight or flight kicks in they'd be the ones to freeze up and do nothing.
There's a difference from avoiding crappy situations and being afraid of them.
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It's better to avoid those kinds of people when you can, I learned that..

Being sensitive is a lost art especially on social media. Don't change that for others, stay true to yourself.

I wish you good fortune. If something is wrong, let them know, and if they don't stop, get away from them or remove them from your life.



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It's better to avoid those kinds of people when you can, I learned that..

Being sensitive is a lost art especially on social media. Don't change that for others, stay true to yourself.

I wish you good fortune. If something is wrong, let them know, and if they don't stop, get away from them or remove them from your life.





I'm a bit of a dummy so I couldn't understand what you wrote that well..but are you suggesting it's better not to be affiliated with sensitive people?
Posted 1/17/16 , edited 1/17/16

Erisee wrote:


lunarxx wrote:

It's better to avoid those kinds of people when you can, I learned that..

Being sensitive is a lost art especially on social media. Don't change that for others, stay true to yourself.

I wish you good fortune. If something is wrong, let them know, and if they don't stop, get away from them or remove them from your life.





I'm a bit of a dummy so I couldn't understand what you wrote that well..but are you suggesting it's better not to be affiliated with sensitive people?



I said its better that she is sensitive and its better not to let others change that , that its better to be just as she is, which is wise and a rarity on the internet if I may say so myself....
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Erisee wrote:


lunarxx wrote:

It's better to avoid those kinds of people when you can, I learned that..

Being sensitive is a lost art especially on social media. Don't change that for others, stay true to yourself.

I wish you good fortune. If something is wrong, let them know, and if they don't stop, get away from them or remove them from your life.





I'm a bit of a dummy so I couldn't understand what you wrote that well..but are you suggesting it's better not to be affiliated with sensitive people?


I said its better that she is sensitive and its better not to let others change that , that its better to be just as she is, which is wise and a rarity on the internet if I may say so myself....


Ah! Gotcha. Sorry if I was seemingly bearing fangs at you.

--I agree with you to an extent, I think being a sensitive person means to care, but I do sense a tinge of fear in her dealing with people who have contrasting opinions.

This world is nothing without varied individuals, so I think at some point she'll have to gain more confidence in what she says otherwise both her perspective and self-esteem will stay unchanging.
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