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How do you feel about people expect you to like/agree to something because you are a boy/girl?
Posted 1/18/16 , edited 1/18/16
How do you feel about people expecting you to like/agree to something because you are a boy/girl? You know people who expect you to like something because you are their friends?
Expect you to like something because you are their family?
Expect you to agree with them all the time with them?
Expect you to lie for them?
Expect you to love everything they love?
Expect you to always think or act a certain way around them?


How do you feel when people act surprise when you think or act differently than they are?
Like when people send you stupid messages on facebook and ask you to like something. Because you are a man or a girl. Like this because you believe in god. Like this because you love anime. Like this because you love music.
Agree with me because I talk to Jesus. Vote for me because I am a republican or such.
Why do people even bother to say things like this? What am I supposed to agree with you on everything because we have the same skin color? Or because we are the same race?

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I find it annoying.
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I never use a like or dislike button
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People like this sorta piss me off.
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I feel like punching them. It gets annoying.
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Posted 1/18/16 , edited 1/18/16

KarenAraragi wrote:

How do you feel about people expecting you to like/agree to something because you are a boy/girl? You know people who expect you to like something because you are their friends?


I don't see that as a bad thing, they're just trying to share their interests or want to talk someone about it. I've never been in a situation though where I feel like I must agree or whatever.

As for those dumb '1 like 1 prayer' messages on facebook, well I rarely even go on there anymore it's just spam central.
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If it happens to me A LOT, I get annoyed. If it's just a once in a while thing.. I'll simply find it ignorant and slightly hilarious hahaha

You really should give these kind of people a break, because if they came from a place like that.... then it's what their used to and all they truly know xD Educate these fools and carry on!
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Posted 1/18/16 , edited 1/18/16
I think the reason it's so annoying is that it's passively insulting.
"Like if you love music" is basically saying, "If you don't like this thing, you don't love music."
And your brain is like, "WTF? I like music. What, just because I don't like your dumb thing I don't like music?"

Same with stuff like "Real men should _____." or "True fans will _____." or "True activists should_____."
It's an indirect attack on your character, like you don't measure up to someone's imaginary standards.

So yeah, I don't like it.
Posted 1/18/16
Stereotypes are a pretty negative way of grouping things in my opinion, but with the world being so varied I suppose we do it to make things easier on ourselves.

To answer the question: Stereotyping in the hands of someone who's looking to feel better about themselves, will always find themselves being disliked.
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Posted 1/18/16 , edited 1/18/16

KarenAraragi wrote:

How do you feel about people expecting you to like/agree to something because you are a boy/girl? You know people who expect you to like something because you are their friends?
Expect you to like something because you are their family?
Expect you to agree with them all the time with them?
Expect you to lie for them?
Expect you to love everything they love?
Expect you to always think or act a certain way around them?


How do you feel when people act surprise when you think or act differently than they are?
Like when people send you stupid messages on facebook and ask you to like something. Because you are a man or a girl. Like this because you believe in god. Like this because you love anime. Like this because you love music.
Agree with me because I talk to Jesus. Vote for me because I am a republican or such.
Why do people even bother to say things like this? What am I supposed to agree with you on everything because we have the same skin color? Or because we are the same race?



People who know me know that I'm a bit of a wild card. I might be agreeable one moment but pointing out things that don't make sense the next. Strangers expect me to like stuff such as sports and cars and games when I really don't have much interest in any of these things.

I like to vanish for long periods of time and I don't like going through trouble that is avoidable. For this reason, most people expect me to bail when things get tough. Usually, I do. Especially when it's drama over dumb crap and it doesn't benefit me to be a mediator. I've mediated out of good will too many times, so I don't do it anymore. It's nothing but trouble.

The only way to really get me to stick around is to make me feel like I owe a debt. But once I think I've repaid it, it's back to square one.

I might lie to people if the benefit outweighs the consequences, but I prefer not to and make this quite clear. If I'm being a crutch for someone, it's likely I'll just bail out and leave after the first few instances if I see a continuous pattern.

I'm not perfect but I think the way I behave is pretty reasonable (not saintly, but reasonable). I'm not very impulsive and tend to weigh the costs and benefits before I act. I have to be convinced in order to change. I think my experiences are just as valuable as those of other people, so I don't compromise if someone is trying to make me feel like their experiences are somehow more valuable and mine aren't.
Posted 1/18/16
i personally dont care
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Posted 1/18/16
When someone makes such consistently blanket statements about people, that just makes me not take their opinions seriously.

Ignore and move on.
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Posted 1/18/16 , edited 1/19/16
I dont know
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