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How often do you feel depressed or bad about something? What do you do to make yourself feel better? Is there anyone you know who helps you feel better? Does a person need someone to rely on to make it through life?
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I try to remain in a normal state to the best of my willpower, however you are bound to fall into hard times and feel depressed. I go through stages, one good month/ one bad, being on medication etc previously but that generally is a band aid until you reach the source of your troubles.

I try to seek the reason why I'm down and try to either take my mind off it with either work/ anime or other things, usually this is where it's something no one can help with or I can't resolve myself.

I don't 'rely' on people for-say, it does however make me feel better to explain my issue with someone so I can get a 'third' party opinion on the matter, even if it's a general chit chat over lunch or something.

I have learned to take the initiative these days if I've felt depressed/bad about something that has occurred with another person because for myself; over-thinking scenarios or not hearing the other side of the story just makes me worst. I try to understand why/what/when it happened and come down on a reason, sometimes you'll find it, sometimes you won't but at least you tried to understand why your feeling that way.

I think talking to other people will help you, even if it's a little but it's down to the person whether they have the willpower to do something with it.

Only my opinion/experience, I'm sure others will vary. I know you like hearing peoples thoughts on these matters Nalaniel
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Mivaria wrote:

Only my opinion/experience, I'm sure others will vary. I know you like hearing peoples thoughts on these matters Nalaniel


Indeed. It's quite interesting to hear about other people's lives.
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Off meds I'm depressed 24/7 but since I'm heavily medicated I haven't really felt depressed.

Every one needs some human interaction no matter how anti social. Have one or two best friends will definitely make a difference!

as for me when I'm depressed I usually like to go shopping to cheer myself up. I also relax and try to forget about my problems by berrying myself in art and hobbies. Keeping busy keeps you from obsessing too much.
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1.simple. I Go outside, and look up at the sky, take a deep breath and feel the fresh air. I realize that I am not the only one with a problem. So I begin to smile, not knowing why, and it brings me serenity.

2. I Go outside at night time, away from the city lights, and I look up at the stars. I wait until I see a shooting star pass by my sight, I begin to ask the night sky a question, I make a wish. " I want to see what truly matters to me, and again I will begin to smile, not knowing why, and it brings me serenity.

3.I put on my headphones, I escape from the sound of reality, and I begin to listen to music that takes me away. I sit down, open my sketchbook, and I draw. Every stroke of the pencil, every line drawn with an idea behind it, I create my own reality that soon begins to take form, and again I will begin to smile, not knowing why, and it brings me serenity.

Its very easy to become depressed, so I accept the challenge. I always try to smile when I simply cant, even if I feel pain I will always continue to smile. Doing something that you have a passion for is one of the best things you can do. If you dont have something, Follow #2 because the amount of time you can actually wait decides how determined you are to find out what really matters.
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I suffer from severe depression. However, I don't have the luxury of letting it control my life. I do take medication, and force myself to work. I have found that working longer hours helps. I try not to be anti social and force myself to go out for drinks at least once a week. I moved to Miami 7 months ago for work and know almost no one. All of my friends are from D.C. and New York. So that is tough.

To answer your second question, I just broke up with my last girlfriend here because I couldn't take her personality anymore. I do not believe you need someone in order to be happy in life. You must be happy with yourself, no one else is going to be able to do that for you. However, I would be lying if I said I didn't need sex regularly, but everyone is different.

I didn't have depression until my mid twenties when life starts to kick you in the teeth. Just wondering what makes you depressed OP at 17? I think playing a lot of sports and being a serial womanizer made me happy at that point in my life.

The good thing is you can see even from this small group of people that a lot of people suffer from depression. So you can take comfort that you are not alone.
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I am not neurotypical. I am not sure what depression for me would even look or feel like. I was misdiagnosed as autistic as a child, then they decided it was ADD, that was wrong too. I do not have a normal emotional experience. I have a hard time understanding the emotional experiences of others, though I have developed a good enough academic understanding that I at least have a reasonable frame of reference and I am able to roughly equate my experience to appropriate equivalents. I have some friends that experience medical depression. One is bipolar with rather impressive manic phases, the other suffers major depression. They both like to talk to me when they feel poorly and seem to find it helpful. I am rather robotic and clinical (I have very flat affect so unless I am putting in effort into adding inflection and tone for my voice I am very monotone, my expressions and body language suffer similarly). I would think that would make talking to me when feeling that way unattractive, but clearly there is something there that I am not fully understanding.

I have learned to try to be careful about certain tendencies of mine when talking to them during these episodes though. I tend to view everything in rather binary terms and I see things as problems in need of solutions. I have to sublimate that during conversations under these circumstances because it is not helpful. While some people recover from depression and cease to suffer the symptoms, not everyone will and the mechanisms of such are not necessarily well understood. Given that I am not a professional and they are not always able to "fix" this, I should not be attempting to do so.

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I suffer from severe depression. However, I don't have the luxury of letting it control my life. I do take medication, and force myself to work. I have found that working longer hours helps. I try not to be anti social and force myself to go out for drinks at least once a week. I moved to Miami 7 months ago for work and know almost no one. All of my friends are from D.C. and New York. So that is tough.

To answer your second question, I just broke up with my last girlfriend here because I couldn't take her personality anymore. I do not believe you need someone in order to be happy in life. You must be happy with yourself, no one else is going to be able to do that for you. However, I would be lying if I said I didn't need sex regularly, but everyone is different.

I didn't have depression until my mid twenties when life starts to kick you in the teeth. Just wondering what makes you depressed OP at 17? I think playing a lot of sports and being a serial womanizer made me happy at that point in my life.

The good thing is you can see even from this small group of people that a lot of people suffer from depression. So you can take comfort that you are not alone.

The comment about life kicking you in the teeth reminds of something my father used to say once in a while, "Every time you smile, life kicks you in the teeth. You've got two choices: stop smiling, or grin until you're toothless!" I always interpreted that as essentially saying that you may as well flip life a bird since it is going to do what it does anyway.

For those laboring with a mental disorder or even just being wired differently, I hope you find the support you need to weather your challenges.
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Depressed is a very strong word, and subjective.

I was ridiculously upset when I broke up with my girl in HS. It was a wound that was only patched with time.

I think there's no real remedy for depression; there are too many factors and variables and different reasons for being depressed. Best thing you can do is to try and have a positive outlook on life. Once you make a habit of 'finding the positives', you will no longer have to make an effort to find the positives.
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I tend to struggle with depression. I've managed to lessen the severity and frequency of depressive episodes by studying certain philosophies. To me, Stoicism has been the greatest help.

Normally, I can basically choose how I feel about things. Depression knocks all of that on its ass, though, and so I have to put emphasis on preventing it. Nothing makes me feel better when I am depressed. I don't know how I end up feeling better eventually - perhaps its just time. That makes preventing those episodes all the more important to me.

I probably should be on medicine, but I don't like to take anything. I don't really even like to use cough drops or syrups when I have a cold. But Stoicism has helped me a lot over the past few years, and hopefully it will continue.
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