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Post Reply Are you able to become friends once again with someone who has betrayed your trust?
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Posted 1/25/16
Nope, if someone betrays me, he/she can go take a hike.
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Posted 1/25/16 , edited 1/25/16
Yes

Forgiving people is easy, trusting is another story
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Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.
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It really depends. If the person who betrayed my trust was genuinely sorry and apologized after working hard to change then definitely. We all make mistakes and I'm a firm believer in second chances....and thirds and fourths and so on in some cases. People change, they learn and grow from their mistakes and that's the important thing.
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It would take some effort.
To me trust has a lot to do with predictability, so when someone is deceitful it's hard to know how they're going to act in a given situation.
You could say a coward is trustworthy because they can always be trusted to take the path of least resistance.
But I already have family that would dis me to make a jealous wife happy and I avoid them for my own sake.
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It is really hard to forgive someone that betrays, it feels like you lose something. But after blocking just about every person I see I find it that it is some sort of friendly competition. Everyone wants to challenge you at some point and I am alright with that as long as it does not get too annoying. Like Griffith mentioned in Berserk.

Griffith: It is my perception that a true friend never relies on anothers dream. A person with the potential to be my true friend must be able to find his own reason for life without my help. And he should put his heart and soul into protecting his dream. He would never hesitate to fight for his dream, even against me. For me, a true friend is one who stands equal to me in all respects.

So sometimes I feel like maybe I am getting too annoying. Everyone needs some space, even for a close friend. Well, as long as you don't confuse this with hostility
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Posted 1/25/16 , edited 1/25/16
I've been betrayed so I can tell you from experience that no, you can't and if you manage to become friends once again it won't be the same as it used to be.

But why would you want to become friends with someone who has betrayed you anyway?
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Posted 1/25/16

Mukurowl wrote:

I've been betrayed so I can tell you from experience that no, you can't and if you manage to become friends once again it won't be the same as it used to be.

But why would you want to become friends with someone who has betrayed you anyway?


It could be a family member, not saying you. It just seems I got most people locked out of my life.
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Posted 1/25/16
You're implying I trust someone in the first place.
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Well, it depends on the situation and what the implications of the betrayal are. There are some people who betrayed my trust because they did something that they didn't realize was the wrong thing to do until it was too late, and for honest mistakes like that, I don't hold it against them. But if it is something that they intentionally did to sabotage my trust, then that's when I might call it quits with the friendship. So in all, it just comes down to whether or not the betrayal was out of of incompetence or sabotage because everybody makes mistakes that end up with me in this situation, so there's not a way to exactly answer that question.
Posted 1/25/16
Yes, an ex cheated on me but I tend not to hold grudges for long. She lost my trust but now that she's not in my life anymore we've been talking for a bit and I would say she's more of an acquaintance than a friend
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Posted 1/25/16
I'd forgive but never forget and of course it wouldn't be the same. Probably a hi here and there but they would be an acquaintance not a friend.
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I just recently reunited with someone i haven`t spoke to in about 3 years. We did not parted in good terms 3 years ago. We talked and remembered the good times and old friends we used to know and i kinda forgot about the fact that he was a bit of a jerk. He very quickly showed his old self and ways and i know that i will not speak to him again. I think it`s ok to forgive and forget as long the person shows that they have changed and learned from their mistakes.
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Posted 1/25/16

EvilBunnyFluff wrote:

Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KjmjqlOPd6A

Small stuff can be forgiven, but once you've "done goofed", I wont forget nor forgive easily.
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nope
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