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Post Reply If your close friend is in a shitty relationship, do you tell them they should break it off, or do you tell them to stic
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PrinceJudar wrote:


TrickedMJ wrote:

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Me, simply what I would say in that situation.





Oh, nice. In a way that's how it got resolved, a couple weeks back he asked us about it before he did it and that was probably one of the few times he wanted an honest opinion lol. Though you probably know how annoying it was for people to want you to lie in a situation.
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I would bluntly tell them to drop it, It isn't worth it being with someone who brings the worst in you.
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You have to hear both sides of the story to give good advice.

Most of the time, I just hear people say stupid crap like "Oh, you deserve better girl, screw that guy. There are better people for you." Or "You have to see it through. She loves you, doesn't she? Just give it some time."

What a crock of bull. I mean, sure, let them know what you'd probably do in their position and why, but don't tell them to rely on your choice since they aren't you.
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I would give them my honest opinion. Depending on exactly how shitty of a relationship it is, I might even advise for them to break up before it gets worse.

It would be up to them in the end though. I can't control if they think it's right or not.
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Probably outright tell them. I have a problem with sugarcoating things
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no sugar coating from me. i tell it how it is only when asked though
Posted 1/24/16
Tell them to give up on it.
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TrickedMJ wrote:
Oh, nice. In a way that's how it got resolved, a couple weeks back he asked us about it before he did it and that was probably one of the few times he wanted an honest opinion lol. Though you probably know how annoying it was for people to want you to lie in a situation.


Ah yep, glad to hear it did get resolved. Usually when people are adamantly opposed to honest advice, you have to draw a line and simply wait for them to come to you. If I have to lie, I make sure I'm honest about lying--because what balls they have to ask that of me.


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Tell them your opinion a couple of times, but don't badger them with it. If it comes up repeatedly and you've already said you think they should break it off a few times, then I think you shouldn't push things, and maybe just be a listening ear. In the end it's their decision.

If you are asked outright what you think after that, then it's okay to keep saying that you think they should break off, or remind them that you've told them already, and that they shouldn't keep asking because they already know what you you think.

An exception would be if you think there's a level of abuse that justifies legal intervention--in that case, report it to appropriate authorities or get advice from relevant agencies about best ways to get appropriate action to happen.
Posted 1/24/16
If they ask what I think, I will tell them how it is
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Posted 1/24/16 , edited 1/24/16

TrickedMJ wrote:
I was in this situation a while ago, I never once told him what he should do since it was none of my business ya know? I was kinda subtle with it I guess, "I don't think I'd be able to stay with someone like that, that's just me though." The longer it went on when he would tell me something new about it I'd ask if it's worth it or I'd remind him of all the shit she did so I guess yes and no?

If your friend is in a horrible relationship and he wants your advice, I think you should just tell him to drop the relationship. Oh, but if you say that, more complications arise....for you see, relationships aren't that easy to drop, at least for certain people (like me). A bad-case scenario is that this will be a learning experience for him; he won't cut ties until he's truly had enough.

I guess I don't have the answer. I don't know who they are, and I don't know the woman he's seeing.
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Their problem. Let them deal with it. Only help if they come to you for advice. If they do be completely honest, whether or not it would hurt their feelings.

Doing anything else just makes people weak or naive.
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maybe the guy is into that kinda thing? if it was a parasitic relationship (gold digger) i would tell him to break up but if by toxic as in shouting matches then they just need a little counseling and things might improve, who knows they might grow as individuals.

my honest opinion in relationships is more about similar interests and tolerating each other than relying on "love"
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Posted 1/24/16 , edited 1/24/16
drop it specially if your friend is into something really bad like drugs and is starting to take over you also... Happened to a close relative of mine.
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Posted 1/24/16 , edited 1/24/16
All you can do is mention it to him, but don't press the issue too much, because you could lose a friend. Happens all the time.

You owe it to him, as a friend, to mention it I think. Since you did that, the rest is up to him to figure out. It sucks to see, I know exactly how that is, but it's something that can't be decided by heresay, at least not responsibly, and by most people. Big decisions.
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