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Post Reply What are some cliches/excuses your ex used on you?
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By that I mean like their stupid bs reasons to break up with you due to the fact that they couldn't come up with their own original/honest reason to break up with you in the first place......
For example:
We're growing apart
You deserve better
Etc etc ...
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I've never been in a relationship, so I don't have an ex.
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One ex told me that I was too good to her and that I deserved better. A few days later I found out she was kissing someone else. A year later, she called me begging for me to take her back, but under one condition... That I love her and her newly born child by the other guy who did not want to take care of the child. I laughed and hung up the phone.

Another ex told me that she feared that I would get bored with her and we eventually broke up. I found out it was a ploy for her to get back together with her old boyfriend.
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You deserve better; You'll find someone out there better than me.

Tbh, I think it was just an attempt to mitigate some of the emotional damage. There were some circumstances revolving our break up that was out of our control, and it just ended up being a wrong place wrong time kind of thing.
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our lives are moving in different directions. we went to the same high school where I was then entering my senior year and she was starting college (located in the same town). I couldn't even be upset at such a lame excuse only laughable
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"you're too clingy"

haha ok so it was a legitimate excuse but it still hurt
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If you truly crave adventure and like the feeling of constantly walking on egg shells while avoiding the psychological Claymore land mines anytime you converse date someone who is manic-depressive and refuses treatment. Any one else you meet later will seem refreshingly normal no matter how erratic you think they are acting.

I almost married this troubled lady but came to my senses 5 days before we were to be married. To this day I wish I had a copy of the transcript of that 25 minute long phone call to the sheriff's department initiated by my "ex". Since she had no money I was paying for her move out of my home (first mistake: do not live together) and I had to use Class 1 movers (not 2 Men & a Truck variety) so I would only be exposed to 1 month's storage expense instead of forever after. She had so much property the HHG movers were still loading her stuff when she appeared "home" from work. The movers were so intimidated by her ranting and screaming they had to take a 5-minute time out before continuing their work. In that time I got her to calm down because we had made arrangements together earlier for her stuff to leave my humble abode.

Anyway, she called the sheriff's department and accused me of stealing her stuff. The liaison official on the phone listened to both of us. When it was my turn to speak "she" resumed her ranting about the room all within earshot of the phone. Luckily for me I had been coached by a very good friend of mine who had relations who were M-D and he foretold what would likely happen during the moving. Man oh man, I'm glad I listened to him. She did everything he predicted so when it was my turn to explain myself to the law on the phone I did. I spoke my piece to the sheriff calmly explaining that we were incompatible even after trying for 6 months beyond my decision to terminate the union (such that it was). I had sought legal advice re what my rights were, what her rights were and since she wouldn't leave voluntarily I had no choice but to accuse her of trespassing and I was using my legal right to humanely extricate her from my home even going so far as to place her belongings in a bonded warehouse rather than out at the end of my driveway. While listening to my explanation the liaison officer suggested I was in the right to do what I was doing and by the way "Let me talk to her again" "If she continues to cause trouble we will come out there and physically remove her ourselves but let me see if I can get her attention re this while both of you are present there." The second my "ex" got on the phone and chatted with the official at the other end all rants, acting out behaviors ceased. The enraged 8-year old ghost left her body. What remained in the room on the phone was a nice attractive 50-year intelligent, genteel lady. I had zero trouble from her from that moment on.

Now it didn't hurt that I had changed the locks while she was away at work (4th time in this tempestuous relationship, my expense). Before the movers left my "ex" asked 2 small favors: care for her 2 cats (they loved me even though their owner chose not to) until she could find housing and ensure that her garden items still outside weren't stolen (what???). Sure, I can do that. The movers left. She left.

Later that night she came back on the premises with 1 of her ex-lovers. I refused to open that door and let them into the house so we exchanged pleasantries through the closed door which had a 5' tall glass panel within. While Tim (nice guy) loaded her garden appliances into the bed of his pickup she asked if I would round up the 2 cats and give them to her. During that gathering session while I was busy hunting down her nice cats she tried numerous times to gain entry via her set of keys. LOL, they didn't work. Manic-depressives are very clever. You have be hyper-vigilant 24/7, like it or not. Luckily I had 5 entryways into the house so when it came time to let her cat outside I made damn sure that event occurred at a different door than in her presence as we both knew the legal ramifications if I made the mistake of trusting her again re legal entry versus forced by opening any door where she might be at. The law would be on her side if I made any attempt to physically remove her if she managed to get inside my home by barging in like a Mack truck (abuse, attempted rape, etc.).

The next few exchanges was/were cat and mouse. Each time I opened a door to release a cat it was always at a location where she wasn't. "My cats will run away." "No, they won't. They're outdoor cats. Call them. They will come to you if you call for them".

I could fill pages and pages here about the escapades of that 9 month long relationship from Hell but I won't. I do wish she found the help she needed. Manic-Depression is hell for anyone who has it. There are no winners on either side of any relationship if this condition is in control.

Also, it was a standing joke on me for a while before I met my loving wife 2 years later. At that time I had never been married. Interesting, a single guy who was never married sure knew what divorce was like.
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The famous line, "It was only one time." And so it was, and the last.
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My array of womans is empty.
womans.size() == 0.
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I've been told that I was too clingy but it wasn't an excuse to break up but more so to avoid spending time together. I think I'm the hopeless romantic type and love being around my partner but I don't know how spending more time together when you barely spend any to begin with means I'm clingy. What it ended up being is that ...they were content and were fine with how things were going and I needed more one on one time. Compromise and understanding can fix this to add balance, and it's even possible in time that the needs of both people will change and become more closer together naturally. But yeah, I always end up dating the SUPER independent types who don't really need anyone :p
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One ex told me that I was too good to her and that I deserved better. A few days later I found out she was kissing someone else. A year later, she called me begging for me to take her back, but under one condition... That I love her and her newly born child by the other guy who did not want to take care of the child. I laughed and hung up the phone.

Another ex told me that she feared that I would get bored with her and we eventually broke up. I found out it was a ploy for her to get back together with her old boyfriend.


Good for you, good for you. People who would attempt to take advantage of someone's kindness are the worst.
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Posted 1/24/16
after a year of dating and he wasn't talking tome or txting me or seeing me, -maybe 1-2 times a month- was supposed to do something with me and instead went to a lake house for a week with a girl and a friend, without even telling me until i got the girl to confess where he was
all he could say was "sorry.." -pause- "sorry" -pause- so i was like fuck it, yo u are not sorry you never even talk to me so i broke up with him, VIA text which was the only way i could since u know i iddnt know when was the next time i would see him again , he never even responded to the txt lol
Posted 1/24/16
She didn't feel the same way anymore (after dating for 2 years). This happened after she started seeing another guy. Sad day for me.
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Its not you, its me.

... Yea... You cheated on me. I can see that lol.
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My ex stopped talking to me for months, only to find out that he had been flirting with other girls behind my back, claiming that I was okay with it, and that he had my permission. I wasn't, nor had he even discussed this with me. Even worse, some of the girls weren't interested, and he kept trying to coerce them into saying yes. When I found out, he didn't even have an excuse or explanation, he just thought it was nothing to be angry or break up over.

I haven't spoken to him in 5+ years, and I don't intend to speak to him ever again, although I admit what he did messed up my trust enough that it's been hard to date ever since.
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