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Post Reply What are some cliches/excuses your ex used on you?
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With my ex's I was the one who broke up with them.

I didn't use any cliche or phrase to break up with them. I'm very straight forward kind of person.

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" ur prolly better off without me " lololo you're right I am
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One of my exes told me that it was because I was too jealous but two days after we broke up he was hooking up with the girl that I was upset about.

And the "It's not you, it's me." hahahahaa.
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I need time. That was a rather rough time.
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I think we need a break but don't blame yourself its not you its me .-.
I can't see you today cause I have to much work bla bla
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"Grocery shopping, be back soon."


-Lola wrote:
I can't see you today cause I have to much work bla bla


I got that one, a lot. Would have been nice to hear it before being busy instead of an excuse for when she returned.
No such thing as too busy, it's all about priorities.
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Is this going to be one of those self-pity threads? It feels like one of those self-pity threads.... I mean talking about excuses that have been used on you to break up with you. The question is how can we make this an educational thread? Are we going to make some kind of list an analyze what each cliche might mean? I say if they can use a canned excuse it is probably because they were never interested in you in the first place. However, that is just me being a jerk.

I cannot say that I have ever had a relationship so I have none. Instead of wallowing in self-pity why not look back at the relationship and try and figure out where you made mistakes and where you succeeded and try to use that to make the next relationship a better one.
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bemused_Bohemian wrote:

If you truly crave adventure and like the feeling of constantly walking on egg shells while avoiding the psychological Claymore land mines anytime you converse date someone who is manic-depressive and refuses treatment. Any one else you meet later will seem refreshingly normal no matter how erratic you think they are acting.

I almost married this troubled lady but came to my senses 5 days before we were to be married. To this day I wish I had a copy of the transcript of that 25 minute long phone call to the sheriff's department initiated by my "ex". Since she had no money I was paying for her move out of my home (first mistake: do not live together) and I had to use Class 1 movers (not 2 Men & a Truck variety) so I would only be exposed to 1 month's storage expense instead of forever after. She had so much property the HHG movers were still loading her stuff when she appeared "home" from work. The movers were so intimidated by her ranting and screaming they had to take a 5-minute time out before continuing their work. In that time I got her to calm down because we had made arrangements together earlier for her stuff to leave my humble abode.

Anyway, she called the sheriff's department and accused me of stealing her stuff. The liaison official on the phone listened to both of us. When it was my turn to speak "she" resumed her ranting about the room all within earshot of the phone. Luckily for me I had been coached by a very good friend of mine who had relations who were M-D and he foretold what would likely happen during the moving. Man oh man, I'm glad I listened to him. She did everything he predicted so when it was my turn to explain myself to the law on the phone I did. I spoke my piece to the sheriff calmly explaining that we were incompatible even after trying for 6 months beyond my decision to terminate the union (such that it was). I had sought legal advice re what my rights were, what her rights were and since she wouldn't leave voluntarily I had no choice but to accuse her of trespassing and I was using my legal right to humanely extricate her from my home even going so far as to place her belongings in a bonded warehouse rather than out at the end of my driveway. While listening to my explanation the liaison officer suggested I was in the right to do what I was doing and by the way "Let me talk to her again" "If she continues to cause trouble we will come out there and physically remove her ourselves but let me see if I can get her attention re this while both of you are present there." The second my "ex" got on the phone and chatted with the official at the other end all rants, acting out behaviors ceased. The enraged 8-year old ghost left her body. What remained in the room on the phone was a nice attractive 50-year intelligent, genteel lady. I had zero trouble from her from that moment on.

Now it didn't hurt that I had changed the locks while she was away at work (4th time in this tempestuous relationship, my expense). Before the movers left my "ex" asked 2 small favors: care for her 2 cats (they loved me even though their owner chose not to) until she could find housing and ensure that her garden items still outside weren't stolen (what???). Sure, I can do that. The movers left. She left.

Later that night she came back on the premises with 1 of her ex-lovers. I refused to open that door and let them into the house so we exchanged pleasantries through the closed door which had a 5' tall glass panel within. While Tim (nice guy) loaded her garden appliances into the bed of his pickup she asked if I would round up the 2 cats and give them to her. During that gathering session while I was busy hunting down her nice cats she tried numerous times to gain entry via her set of keys. LOL, they didn't work. Manic-depressives are very clever. You have be hyper-vigilant 24/7, like it or not. Luckily I had 5 entryways into the house so when it came time to let her cat outside I made damn sure that event occurred at a different door than in her presence as we both knew the legal ramifications if I made the mistake of trusting her again re legal entry versus forced by opening any door where she might be at. The law would be on her side if I made any attempt to physically remove her if she managed to get inside my home by barging in like a Mack truck (abuse, attempted rape, etc.).

The next few exchanges was/were cat and mouse. Each time I opened a door to release a cat it was always at a location where she wasn't. "My cats will run away." "No, they won't. They're outdoor cats. Call them. They will come to you if you call for them".

I could fill pages and pages here about the escapades of that 9 month long relationship from Hell but I won't. I do wish she found the help she needed. Manic-Depression is hell for anyone who has it. There are no winners on either side of any relationship if this condition is in control.

Also, it was a standing joke on me for a while before I met my loving wife 2 years later. At that time I had never been married. Interesting, a single guy who was never married sure knew what divorce was like.


You dodged a bullet getting away from that troubled lady. Glad it all worked out in the end for you.
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anti-freeze wrote:

Is this going to be one of those self-pity threads? It feels like one of those self-pity threads.... I mean talking about excuses that have been used on you to break up with you. The question is how can we make this an educational thread? Are we going to make some kind of list an analyze what each cliche might mean? I say if they can use a canned excuse it is probably because they were never interested in you in the first place. However, that is just me being a jerk.

I cannot say that I have ever had a relationship so I have none. Instead of wallowing in self-pity why not look back at the relationship and try and figure out where you made mistakes and where you succeeded and try to use that to make the next relationship a better one.


It's difficult for me to have sympathy for your complaints.
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I'm usually the one that breaks hearts. Hearts, I break that. PSHH! </3

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anti-freeze wrote:

Is this going to be one of those self-pity threads? It feels like one of those self-pity threads.... I mean talking about excuses that have been used on you to break up with you. The question is how can we make this an educational thread? Are we going to make some kind of list an analyze what each cliche might mean? I say if they can use a canned excuse it is probably because they were never interested in you in the first place. However, that is just me being a jerk.

I cannot say that I have ever had a relationship so I have none. Instead of wallowing in self-pity why not look back at the relationship and try and figure out where you made mistakes and where you succeeded and try to use that to make the next relationship a better one.

Too much work.
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Aeroclimatic wrote:

She didn't feel the same way anymore (after dating for 2 years). This happened after she started seeing another guy. Sad day for me.


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I've never been dumped, but I once used the whole military enlistment excuse and said that I was not ready to be in a relationship, which was within the truth. I just didn't want to say "I don't feel like I'm in-love with you, and frankly, I never did, and whenever you call or text me you annoy the shit out of me", not only because she was an otherwise wonderful person and I had no reason to be mean to her, but because it would be far less truthful than the former. It would be like blaming her for issues I was having, many of which was entirely unrelated to her.

The last relationship I was in... well... there was no talk, I just left. She was so extremely emotionally manipulative/abusive that I not only left her once, but twice, and had to scar her emotionally to get her to hate me. I mean, she was a horrible person, truly, and six years later I still love her. That's messed up.
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Posted 1/24/16
"I can't do this, I need some time to myself"

I guess she only needed a week to herself because after that she ended up fucking my best friend
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IShouldBeStudying wrote:

"I can't do this, I need some time to myself"

I guess she only needed a week to herself because after that she ended up fucking my best friend


Bitches....~
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