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VividDreamZ wrote:


bemused_Bohemian wrote:


I could fill pages and pages here about the escapades of that 9 month long relationship from Hell but I won't. I do wish she found the help she needed. Manic-Depression is hell for anyone who has it. There are no winners on either side of any relationship if this condition is in control.

Also, it was a standing joke on me for a while before I met my loving wife 2 years later. At that time I had never been married. Interesting, a single guy who was never married sure knew what divorce was like.


You dodged a bullet getting away from that troubled lady. Glad it all worked out in the end for you.


Thank you.

You know, VividDreamZ, she called me once six months' later after that move. We had never spoken to each other since that time nor did I go anywhere near where she worked, relocated, or revisit her parents who lived in the area after the fact. When I answered the phone (no caller ID on my line then or I wasn't paying for that feature when it was a premium back then) she said "Guess who this is?" God, I almost went into shock. It was like experiencing a call from a convicted felon just released from the pen. The intended or victim just doesn't know how to react or what to expect next. Holy shit. Her voice was calm, almost seductive....but I knew better....or did I?

I had studied psychology, abnormal psychology, counseling session case studies (but not live individuals in these sessions) while attending graduate level college a few years previous for a healing profession I never practiced. So I knew a little about M-D but not enough to recognize all the symptoms, mannerisms these poor individuals display while trying to function normally. In fact it was her ex, Tim (her ex-husband, not the ex-lover I mentioned earlier who was a different guy also named Tim), who explained to me what his ex had been experiencing during their 15 years of marriage before the split. Her ex- was a licensed psychologist who later in life answered a calling and developed his talent into becoming the head preacher for 1 of the "big box" churches over in suburban St. Louis, Mo. He was really making the coin for himself, their autistic daughter, wife #2 who had her own lucrative at-home business and the flock.

I never talked to Tim #1 much other than exchange pleasantries when I would meet him a 2-hour drive away from my then residence in SW Mizzou. It was always at a McDonald's located up in Rolla, Mo. for the weekend daughter visitation rights' exchange. I swear, Life is just so weird: their 23-year old (then) autistic daughter really liked me (we both loved anime and we would talk about & share experiences re DBZ, Tenchi Muyo, et al back then re Japanese animation), his ex's 2 cats liked me, his ex's parents liked me even to a point they thought I was the most solid normal guy she had dated in recent memory and even told me so. This marriage just wasn't going to happen.....or could it?

The lady in question was now, after careful re-examination, willing to allow "this marriage" to occur if certain conditions were met. Really? Out of curiosity, I went along with this flow of conciliatory discussion. Here is thumbnail breakdown of the demands that would have to be met before she could ever bring herself to forgive my transgressions upon her injured psyche:

1) Trips abroad. Not to the old countries like Spain, Italy, France, Portugal. She had already been there twice with Tim #1 when his church was paying for it. No, my penance to her would be an all-expense paid (my wallet) 3-week trip to China, with other foreign trips abroad (8-day trip to the Greek Isles was also mentioned) expected no less than 3x a year. She had already been to South America, England, Australia, New Zealand also so visitations to those countries were not allowed as payback;

2) She would pay nothing toward the maintenance of "our" home (it was mine in my name only before/after at the time), I would cover all the taxes, utilities, everything house-related. The new home title would be in both names. I would be responsible for 100% of the groceries. I would bear the cost of remodeling the house inside and out to her tastes;

3) She would require a newer car, preferably a 2-seater Italian or German-made sports car so she could look cool to her friends. I would pay 100% of the car payments or buy out right and gift it over to her;

4) I would pay off her 10-year old $45K college tuition debt. She was working toward a PhD in Special Ed, had a 4.0 GPA, dropped out after 2 years account boredom;

5) I was to fire my current CPA, Financial Planner (my planner was on me forever to dump her when I described some of the events to him during the countdown of days before getting hitched). We would seek financial counsel elsewhere and her name would be on everything. This demand coming from someone who had filed bankruptcy 3 years' previous and still had trouble balancing a checkbook.

6) I was foot all the expenses of marriage counseling, relationship counseling, her medications or out-of-pocket health issues if the need should arise. (I would have agreed to this one.).

After reading the list of reparations she proceeded to denigrate my character further to the point where, in her mind, not even the Archangel Michael would find my poor soul worthy of redemption. What say you? Whatta ya think?

I could've said a lot things dirty and derogatory, but chose not to. I suggested to her that it was her alcoholism that really turned me against remediation of this dead horse called a past relationship. Before hanging up she started to cry and confessed that she had to get drunk just to screw up enough courage to call me. "And it's too bad that you just don't realize you're throwing away the only true friend you'll ever have." " I gave you a chance and now you're throwing that away too." Click.

We never made up. We are not friends.

Summary: still awake? The older you get the harder it becomes to find a soul mate. It's not easy at any age. Good luck, you guys!
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I've never had an ex.

Only ever had one girlfriend, and we are still married.
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"I can't do this, I need some time to myself"

I guess she only needed a week to herself because after that she ended up fucking my best friend


Bitches....~


¯\_(ツ)_/¯ C'est la vie
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I've been told that I was too clingy but it wasn't an excuse to break up but more so to avoid spending time together. I think I'm the hopeless romantic type and love being around my partner but I don't know how spending more time together when you barely spend any to begin with means I'm clingy. What it ended up being is that ...they were content and were fine with how things were going and I needed more one on one time. Compromise and understanding can fix this to add balance, and it's even possible in time that the needs of both people will change and become more closer together naturally. But yeah, I always end up dating the SUPER independent types who don't really need anyone :p


If it helps, I love super clingy women

My wife, however, tends to get slightly yandere if other women try
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Sogno- wrote:

"you're too clingy"

haha ok so it was a legitimate excuse but it still hurt


Clingy makes best girl
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I'm waiting for a sign
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she was honest with me

she slept with some guy

the end
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Posted 1/24/16

ShawnZ11 wrote:


IShouldBeStudying wrote:

"I can't do this, I need some time to myself"

I guess she only needed a week to herself because after that she ended up fucking my best friend


Bitches....~


Damn dude, that sucks sorry to hear that.
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Urboistar wrote:


Sogno- wrote:

"you're too clingy"

haha ok so it was a legitimate excuse but it still hurt


Clingy makes best girl


really. what do you think of yanderes
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It's not nice of you to steal all the easy to conceal treasures you find while 'scouting'.

Soooooo cliche.

I mean how does his character know what my Rogue is doing? His fighter is back with the squishy wizard, dundering cleric, and loud paladin.
Posted 1/24/16

Sogno- wrote:


Urboistar wrote:


Sogno- wrote:

"you're too clingy"

haha ok so it was a legitimate excuse but it still hurt


Clingy makes best girl


really. what do you think of yanderes


I am yandere.

Posted 1/24/16
My brother's wife left him for another guy because he wasn't "spending enough time with her", even though my brother is constantly working and they literally went everywhere together.
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so many...cannot tell them in here.. too disgusting
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Dariamus wrote:


LittleSquid wrote:

I've been told that I was too clingy but it wasn't an excuse to break up but more so to avoid spending time together. I think I'm the hopeless romantic type and love being around my partner but I don't know how spending more time together when you barely spend any to begin with means I'm clingy. What it ended up being is that ...they were content and were fine with how things were going and I needed more one on one time. Compromise and understanding can fix this to add balance, and it's even possible in time that the needs of both people will change and become more closer together naturally. But yeah, I always end up dating the SUPER independent types who don't really need anyone :p


If it helps, I love super clingy women

My wife, however, tends to get slightly yandere if other women try


That's a lot of points around here.

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Long story, but he got the girl he cheated on me with to tell me they were dating, then asked me to tell her current boyfriend [my best friend] that she had dumped him for my boyfriend. And this was all over a text. They broke up like a month later, according to her it was because he was clearly in love with me because a solid month he just kept pointing out how I do things a certain way, I would like to see a movie/show, or I would make a joke. And she finally snapped at him. Haven't seen the guy in 6 years, and I'm with an amazing guy who I love and he treats me a million times better than my ex, so it all worked out in the end.
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