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Girls are generally extremely picky with who they date and their standards are pretty high. It's more difficult for a guy to get a date than a girl to get one. But I don't think it's a complete waste of time, it gives you another platform to possibly meet somebody.
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Freddy96NO wrote:


redokami wrote:
im 5'1 and weigh 155 and yea "interesting" to say the least, and no , obviously I cant "pick" lol
I think it better if you where a bit "bland" insted of sounding desperate or something like that many males atleast a age maybe around yours would be really put out if it sounds like "talk to me" or "need more info" or something, even though the basic's is fine but just like "hello, good picture you got there" and maybe trying to be a bit netural and if either want something just ask if they got time or what they are doing etc, "playing something? going for work?"
Or so I think need someone else to speak of that.. I ain't even social enough to know just commenting random is my style



lol what I mean by bland is "hi" I don't sound desperate, I ask how are you, and anything related to what they like
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redokami wrote:


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im really starting to think they are, I have been on match for a year and a half, have sent out messages to over 200 individuals, they look at my profile and wont even message back, not even an im not interested
imo it is quiet rude
is it me at this point ? and no I don't do any bland message or a simple hi


Thats interesting you say that since you are female. Most dating sites are mainly males who desperately message the few females on them. Unless you are some morbidly obese person you should have no problem picking the many men on the dating website.


im 5'1 and weigh 155 and yea "interesting" to say the least, and no , obviously I cant "pick" lol


Are you physically deformed in any way? Not trying to be rude but most women have their pick of dozens of men on dating sites.


no, im not at all
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redokami wrote:
lol what I mean by bland is "hi" I don't sound desperate, I ask how are you, and anything related to what they like
good then maybe they are just seeking more "wild" women, playfull/sexy stuff (sending pictures of what ever -__-, or more "action" and if they do respond then try something a bit more breath taking to make them stay, but then agian the risks are a bit too much like sitting on a rollercoster if you do so)

but then agian it maybe sounds you are going on the more "not marriage"/not so serious types.

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I personally think dating sites are a good option for busy men and women that don't have the privilege and time to socialize with new people a lot.

Other than that, I think people have no excuse to get onto a dating site. Unless you're an extreme introvert that has real trouble connecting with people IRL. Then again, datingsites are probably not made for you either.

Other than THAT, you should just go outside, meet some people. No reason for you to scroll through hundreds of profiles online.
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Freddy96NO wrote:


redokami wrote:
lol what I mean by bland is "hi" I don't sound desperate, I ask how are you, and anything related to what they like
good then maybe they are just seeking more "wild" women, playfull/sexy stuff (sending pictures of what ever -__-, or more "action" and if they do respond then try something a bit more breath taking to make them stay, but then agian the risks are a bit too much like sitting on a rollercoster if you do so)

but then agian it maybe sounds you are going on the more "not marriage"/not so serious types.



I agree,

Unfortunately where I live, the guys that I associate with as friends or coworkers usually tend to be drawn more towards the "wild" women willing to do playful sexy stuff, be adventurous and see where things turn out. Most of those relationships are short lived.

I also had a friend of mines sister meet a guy from a dating site many years ago, during the second date she called her family to check in and jokingly said, "I hope he doesn't choke me". She went over his house... He killed her that evening by choking her to death.

He seemed like a nice guy during first date, the second date I assume she didn't give him sex and killed her because of it.

My advice to you being a female is to be very careful. Lots of crazy people out there these days.
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I've had a few relationships through them, but I have made some really good friends from them. So they were not a waste for me, but your mileage may vary.
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I also had a friends sister meet a guy once from a dating site many years ago, during the second date she called her family to check in and jokingly said, "I hope he doesn't choke me". She went over his house... He killed her that evening by choking her to death.

He seemed like a nice guy during first date, the second date I assume she didn't give him sex and killed her because of it.
You sure they wasn't playing around, and then he went into the extreme side?
I could have been like that too, but then agian now its mostly impossible.

Like he most likely have seen shit, and well would like to "test" it out on her, and I would guess she did like some choking (not to be disrespectful but it seems like it could be the case and when she joked about it if its something they have tried before)

also many of those things just making it worse with dating sites, sadly this killing for some of them would see it as an "complete" exp and some guys won't have that "complete" feeling any other way then killing in that way seeing the pleasure/pain at max (and I think its something as some would think of birth that there are something of that there to)

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Sometimes I guess. My aunt managed to find a really great guy that she's now happily married to. I'd say it comes down to a hit and miss.
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Freddy96NO wrote:


VividDreamZ wrote:
I also had a friends sister meet a guy once from a dating site many years ago, during the second date she called her family to check in and jokingly said, "I hope he doesn't choke me". She went over his house... He killed her that evening by choking her to death.

He seemed like a nice guy during first date, the second date I assume she didn't give him sex and killed her because of it.
You sure they wasn't playing around, and then he went into the extreme side?
I could have been like that too, but then agian now its mostly impossible.

Like he most likely have seen shit, and well would like to "test" it out on her, and I would guess she did like some choking (not to be disrespectful but it seems like it could be the case and when she joked about it if its something they have tried before)

also many of those things just making it worse with dating sites, sadly this killing for some of them would see it as an "complete" exp and some guys won't have that "complete" feeling any other way then killing in that way seeing the pleasure/pain at max (and I think its something as some would think of birth that there are something of that there to)



They could have very well been playing around and things spiraled out of control. She trusted the guy enough to want to go over his house. Her family and I will never know what truly happened that day.
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VividDreamZ wrote:They could have very well been playing around and things spiraled out of control. She trusted the guy enough to want to go over his house. Her family and I will never know what truly happened that day.
Would you like to know and talk with him then?

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killerpanda3 wrote:

Sometimes I guess. My aunt managed to find a really great guy that she's now happily married to. It'd say it comes down to a hit and miss.


My neighbor met his wife on match.com

Like you stated, there are some positive success stories dating online. Hit and miss.
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Freddy96NO wrote:


VividDreamZ wrote:They could have very well been playing around and things spiraled out of control. She trusted the guy enough to want to go over his house. Her family and I will never know what truly happened that day.
Would you like to know and talk with him then?



If I could find the prison the guy was located in. Yes, but there is no guarantee that he will speak to me or tell me the truth.
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They are a waste of time and I would never do them again.
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VividDreamZ wrote:
If I could find the prison the guy was located in. Yes, but there is no guarantee that he will speak to me or tell me the truth.
Then you would trick him or make him think its okey (since his allready in prison?) but most likely not right at it, but more "do you remember that time" etc, and digging a bit into why he wanted or what she did and they did together.

like "was you feeling like this before, planning or was it something you two was going for?" since I could not stop with such cases, like I feel so ill when nothing is "explained" how things went, if its something they both choose, was mostly him, what did she want/think and if she somewhat had something (some bad feelings, past etc) that made her go to such lengths?.


and damn what did we turn this thread into?
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