First  Prev  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  11  12  Next  Last
Post Reply are dating sites a huge waste of time?
2047 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
24 / M / USA
Offline
Posted 1/24/16

PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


MissMimeJr wrote:

Girls are generally extremely picky with who they date and their standards are pretty high. It's more difficult for a guy to get a date than a girl to get one. But I don't think it's a complete waste of time, it gives you another platform to possibly meet somebody.


Guys are usually pretty simple. Don't be fat, don't be ugly, don't be psychotic, and don't be a b****. And those last two things are often overlooked.

Girls are like "hey, you have to be tall, good looking, smart, athletic, earning at least 70k a year, fun but not overboard, honest but nice, compatible with my zodiac symbol, you need to have a car and your own house, you must like pets and kids, you must be artistic but hardworking, polite but a good conversationalist, you must message me first, your message needs to be interesting but not too long, you need to confident but not a douchebag. Oh and you need to be adventurous but have a clean record." And this list gets cut in half for every 5-10 years they age lol


Yep very true its easier for guys once our careers are established in our 30s and 40s. It gets harder for women as they age.


And then they call men pigs when they see then with younger women even though half of them want their guy to be older than them.


Well thankfully karma catches up with them in the end. In many ways women are like cars they depreciate every year you "drive" it. Thats why you gotta trade the car out for a newer model every couple of years


Well, hopefully you don't mean that. I find the comparison to be a tad bit disturbing.


Men age like a fine wine women age like milk.
10316 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
27 / M / America
Offline
Posted 1/24/16

redokami

I cant even get a damn message much less a date, at this point I kinda wish arranged marriages were still a thing
no one really dates to marry anymore, and ppl are getting married less and less


Depends on where you live and what type of person you're looking for. I live in ~very~ rural America, and many of the farmboys around here date to marry.
Posted 1/24/16

biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


MissMimeJr wrote:

Girls are generally extremely picky with who they date and their standards are pretty high. It's more difficult for a guy to get a date than a girl to get one. But I don't think it's a complete waste of time, it gives you another platform to possibly meet somebody.


Guys are usually pretty simple. Don't be fat, don't be ugly, don't be psychotic, and don't be a b****. And those last two things are often overlooked.

Girls are like "hey, you have to be tall, good looking, smart, athletic, earning at least 70k a year, fun but not overboard, honest but nice, compatible with my zodiac symbol, you need to have a car and your own house, you must like pets and kids, you must be artistic but hardworking, polite but a good conversationalist, you must message me first, your message needs to be interesting but not too long, you need to confident but not a douchebag. Oh and you need to be adventurous but have a clean record." And this list gets cut in half for every 5-10 years they age lol


Yep very true its easier for guys once our careers are established in our 30s and 40s. It gets harder for women as they age.


And then they call men pigs when they see then with younger women even though half of them want their guy to be older than them.


Well thankfully karma catches up with them in the end. In many ways women are like cars they depreciate every year you "drive" it. Thats why you gotta trade the car out for a newer model every couple of years


Well, hopefully you don't mean that. I find the comparison to be a tad bit disturbing.


Men age like a fine wine women age like milk.


I was more concerned about the tradein part than the depreciation. A children show covered this about dogs. Dogs aren't a t shirt you throw away once you get bored. In a similar vein, women aren't to be discarded just because they lost their "bargaining" power. People aren't cars people.
15947 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
20 / Cold and High
Offline
Posted 1/24/16 , edited 1/24/16

jazzy663 wrote:
Dating is, among other things, a huge waste of time.
no, sometimes they can add alot to mental state between pairs same with doing something for eachother or being romantic (little or small ways)
and it can help staying in a more safe zone then those going extreme, fighting etc.

also having hard times can also be a booster in the strenght of bonds, meaning some fights to just strenghten the bonds and comming back (or in a worse scenario coming back for bad thing to happend or think one deserves it)
2047 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
24 / M / USA
Offline
Posted 1/24/16

PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


MissMimeJr wrote:

Girls are generally extremely picky with who they date and their standards are pretty high. It's more difficult for a guy to get a date than a girl to get one. But I don't think it's a complete waste of time, it gives you another platform to possibly meet somebody.


Guys are usually pretty simple. Don't be fat, don't be ugly, don't be psychotic, and don't be a b****. And those last two things are often overlooked.

Girls are like "hey, you have to be tall, good looking, smart, athletic, earning at least 70k a year, fun but not overboard, honest but nice, compatible with my zodiac symbol, you need to have a car and your own house, you must like pets and kids, you must be artistic but hardworking, polite but a good conversationalist, you must message me first, your message needs to be interesting but not too long, you need to confident but not a douchebag. Oh and you need to be adventurous but have a clean record." And this list gets cut in half for every 5-10 years they age lol


Yep very true its easier for guys once our careers are established in our 30s and 40s. It gets harder for women as they age.


And then they call men pigs when they see then with younger women even though half of them want their guy to be older than them.


Well thankfully karma catches up with them in the end. In many ways women are like cars they depreciate every year you "drive" it. Thats why you gotta trade the car out for a newer model every couple of years


Well, hopefully you don't mean that. I find the comparison to be a tad bit disturbing.


Men age like a fine wine women age like milk.


I was more concerned about the tradein part than the depreciation. A children show covered this about dogs. Dogs aren't a t shirt you throw away once you get bored. In a similar vein, women aren't to be discarded just because they lost their "bargaining" power. People aren't cars people.

Why should I drive an older car when I get a newer model?
Posted 1/24/16
I definitely think there a waste of time you never know who exactly your talking to on the other side of the screen so I rather just meet the right person in real life
Posted 1/24/16 , edited 1/24/16

biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


MissMimeJr wrote:

Girls are generally extremely picky with who they date and their standards are pretty high. It's more difficult for a guy to get a date than a girl to get one. But I don't think it's a complete waste of time, it gives you another platform to possibly meet somebody.


Guys are usually pretty simple. Don't be fat, don't be ugly, don't be psychotic, and don't be a b****. And those last two things are often overlooked.

Girls are like "hey, you have to be tall, good looking, smart, athletic, earning at least 70k a year, fun but not overboard, honest but nice, compatible with my zodiac symbol, you need to have a car and your own house, you must like pets and kids, you must be artistic but hardworking, polite but a good conversationalist, you must message me first, your message needs to be interesting but not too long, you need to confident but not a douchebag. Oh and you need to be adventurous but have a clean record." And this list gets cut in half for every 5-10 years they age lol


Yep very true its easier for guys once our careers are established in our 30s and 40s. It gets harder for women as they age.


And then they call men pigs when they see then with younger women even though half of them want their guy to be older than them.


Well thankfully karma catches up with them in the end. In many ways women are like cars they depreciate every year you "drive" it. Thats why you gotta trade the car out for a newer model every couple of years


Well, hopefully you don't mean that. I find the comparison to be a tad bit disturbing.


Men age like a fine wine women age like milk.


I was more concerned about the tradein part than the depreciation. A children show covered this about dogs. Dogs aren't a t shirt you throw away once you get bored. In a similar vein, women aren't to be discarded just because they lost their "bargaining" power. People aren't cars people.

Why should I drive an older car when I get a newer model?


Cause the older car is cheaper or something?


I mean, my car is cheaper than most, but I love her. Everytime I go inside of her I can barely hold myself, She feels so good on the inside, especially it's cold out there and her insides are nice and warm. We've been through a lot together, and I felt the her smooth interior with my hands many times. I can't believe I got someone like her. Someone like me. I think, "Wow, this car is amazing. I don't deserve a car like her."
18736 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / F
Online
Posted 1/24/16

Mirai_Maku wrote:


redokami

I cant even get a damn message much less a date, at this point I kinda wish arranged marriages were still a thing
no one really dates to marry anymore, and ppl are getting married less and less


Depends on where you live and what type of person you're looking for. I live in ~very~ rural America, and many of the farmboys around here date to marry.


i live in a city by a navy base so i have a lot of army navy airforce, its one of the main navy bases on this coast, the shipyard is a block away from me, most of those ppl are jerks/womanizers/ wanting a booty call
18736 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / F
Online
Posted 1/24/16

PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


MissMimeJr wrote:

Girls are generally extremely picky with who they date and their standards are pretty high. It's more difficult for a guy to get a date than a girl to get one. But I don't think it's a complete waste of time, it gives you another platform to possibly meet somebody.


Guys are usually pretty simple. Don't be fat, don't be ugly, don't be psychotic, and don't be a b****. And those last two things are often overlooked.

Girls are like "hey, you have to be tall, good looking, smart, athletic, earning at least 70k a year, fun but not overboard, honest but nice, compatible with my zodiac symbol, you need to have a car and your own house, you must like pets and kids, you must be artistic but hardworking, polite but a good conversationalist, you must message me first, your message needs to be interesting but not too long, you need to confident but not a douchebag. Oh and you need to be adventurous but have a clean record." And this list gets cut in half for every 5-10 years they age lol


Yep very true its easier for guys once our careers are established in our 30s and 40s. It gets harder for women as they age.


And then they call men pigs when they see then with younger women even though half of them want their guy to be older than them.


Well thankfully karma catches up with them in the end. In many ways women are like cars they depreciate every year you "drive" it. Thats why you gotta trade the car out for a newer model every couple of years


Well, hopefully you don't mean that. I find the comparison to be a tad bit disturbing.


Men age like a fine wine women age like milk.


I was more concerned about the tradein part than the depreciation. A children show covered this about dogs. Dogs aren't a t shirt you throw away once you get bored. In a similar vein, women aren't to be discarded just because they lost their "bargaining" power. People aren't cars people.

Why should I drive an older car when I get a newer model?


Cause the older car is cheaper or something?


I mean, my car is cheaper than most, but I love her. Everytime I go inside of her I can barely hold myself, She feels so good on the inside, especially it's cold out there and her insides are nice and warm. We've been through a lot together, and I felt the her smooth interior with my hands many times. I can't believe I got someone like her. Someone like me. I think, "Wow, this car is amazing. I don't deserve a car like her."


you guys serious? comparing women to cars? and that women are only dateable/valuable young?
2047 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
24 / M / USA
Offline
Posted 1/24/16

redokami wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


MissMimeJr wrote:

Girls are generally extremely picky with who they date and their standards are pretty high. It's more difficult for a guy to get a date than a girl to get one. But I don't think it's a complete waste of time, it gives you another platform to possibly meet somebody.


Guys are usually pretty simple. Don't be fat, don't be ugly, don't be psychotic, and don't be a b****. And those last two things are often overlooked.

Girls are like "hey, you have to be tall, good looking, smart, athletic, earning at least 70k a year, fun but not overboard, honest but nice, compatible with my zodiac symbol, you need to have a car and your own house, you must like pets and kids, you must be artistic but hardworking, polite but a good conversationalist, you must message me first, your message needs to be interesting but not too long, you need to confident but not a douchebag. Oh and you need to be adventurous but have a clean record." And this list gets cut in half for every 5-10 years they age lol


Yep very true its easier for guys once our careers are established in our 30s and 40s. It gets harder for women as they age.


And then they call men pigs when they see then with younger women even though half of them want their guy to be older than them.


Well thankfully karma catches up with them in the end. In many ways women are like cars they depreciate every year you "drive" it. Thats why you gotta trade the car out for a newer model every couple of years


Well, hopefully you don't mean that. I find the comparison to be a tad bit disturbing.


Men age like a fine wine women age like milk.


I was more concerned about the tradein part than the depreciation. A children show covered this about dogs. Dogs aren't a t shirt you throw away once you get bored. In a similar vein, women aren't to be discarded just because they lost their "bargaining" power. People aren't cars people.

Why should I drive an older car when I get a newer model?


Cause the older car is cheaper or something?


I mean, my car is cheaper than most, but I love her. Everytime I go inside of her I can barely hold myself, She feels so good on the inside, especially it's cold out there and her insides are nice and warm. We've been through a lot together, and I felt the her smooth interior with my hands many times. I can't believe I got someone like her. Someone like me. I think, "Wow, this car is amazing. I don't deserve a car like her."


you guys serious? comparing women to cars? and that women are only dateable/valuable young?


Yea the longer you wait the harder its going to be.
Posted 1/24/16

redokami wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


MissMimeJr wrote:

Girls are generally extremely picky with who they date and their standards are pretty high. It's more difficult for a guy to get a date than a girl to get one. But I don't think it's a complete waste of time, it gives you another platform to possibly meet somebody.


Guys are usually pretty simple. Don't be fat, don't be ugly, don't be psychotic, and don't be a b****. And those last two things are often overlooked.

Girls are like "hey, you have to be tall, good looking, smart, athletic, earning at least 70k a year, fun but not overboard, honest but nice, compatible with my zodiac symbol, you need to have a car and your own house, you must like pets and kids, you must be artistic but hardworking, polite but a good conversationalist, you must message me first, your message needs to be interesting but not too long, you need to confident but not a douchebag. Oh and you need to be adventurous but have a clean record." And this list gets cut in half for every 5-10 years they age lol


Yep very true its easier for guys once our careers are established in our 30s and 40s. It gets harder for women as they age.


And then they call men pigs when they see then with younger women even though half of them want their guy to be older than them.


Well thankfully karma catches up with them in the end. In many ways women are like cars they depreciate every year you "drive" it. Thats why you gotta trade the car out for a newer model every couple of years


Well, hopefully you don't mean that. I find the comparison to be a tad bit disturbing.


Men age like a fine wine women age like milk.


I was more concerned about the tradein part than the depreciation. A children show covered this about dogs. Dogs aren't a t shirt you throw away once you get bored. In a similar vein, women aren't to be discarded just because they lost their "bargaining" power. People aren't cars people.

Why should I drive an older car when I get a newer model?


Cause the older car is cheaper or something?


I mean, my car is cheaper than most, but I love her. Everytime I go inside of her I can barely hold myself, She feels so good on the inside, especially it's cold out there and her insides are nice and warm. We've been through a lot together, and I felt the her smooth interior with my hands many times. I can't believe I got someone like her. Someone like me. I think, "Wow, this car is amazing. I don't deserve a car like her."


you guys serious? comparing women to cars? and that women are only dateable/valuable young?

I thought he was kidding. I mean, I was obviously kidding, right? I was going against the notion of comparing cars to women, but knowing Biscuit, he's probably flaming me knowing my views concerning social justice would boil over and consume me.
80213 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
31 / M / Seattle
Offline
Posted 1/24/16
This is a question that many people will ask. The truth is that no they are not. The fact that so many dating sites exist and continue to randomly pop up shows that they are effective in some way shape or form. Whether they charge a subscription or just use ad revenue they are doing something right because people continue to use them. The question then comes down to you specifically.

I have known people, my brothers, who have several dates that come from dating sites/apps. However, my brothers also are more than capable of going out and getting dates on their own. I think that there is a primary misconception that dating sites are supposed to make dating more accessible to those of us with poor social skills. When in fact they do not. These sites in fact give more predatory people access to these otherwise vulnerable people. True some sites out there are trying to branch out into being more social, but most are just places that make it easier for that person to find someone they can manipulate.

That being said, this does not mean you cannot get a good use out of your dating site. However, you have to be willing to put forth the effort to make it work. In this case I look at it kind of like job hunting. Your resume has to help the employer get to know you without having to know you. Your dating site profile should do the same. it should be short enough to hold someones attention and detailed enough to help them know you a bit better. Next you need a picture. Not having a picture is a good way to show that you know you are not physically attractive. I promise you that if you do not have a photo the only people who might come to your profile are other people who do not have photos. Take a photo of yourself, try and include a hobby or something. Like have a picture of your latest cosplay, as long as it shows your face. Last put effort into your communications. Show that you read the person's profile and did not just see a hot body and went "message". It is super easy to ignore one word or sentence messages.

At the end of the day you have to determine for yourself if it is worth your time. Like I said my brothers make ample use of dating sites when their girlfriends are traveling or won't be around for a couple weeks. Dating sites help them fill the void, if you know what I mean. However, I have never had success on dating sites so who am I to really say anything.
18736 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
22 / F
Online
Posted 1/24/16

biscuitnote wrote:


redokami wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


PeripheralVisionary wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


biscuitnote wrote:


Morbidhanson wrote:


MissMimeJr wrote:

Girls are generally extremely picky with who they date and their standards are pretty high. It's more difficult for a guy to get a date than a girl to get one. But I don't think it's a complete waste of time, it gives you another platform to possibly meet somebody.


Guys are usually pretty simple. Don't be fat, don't be ugly, don't be psychotic, and don't be a b****. And those last two things are often overlooked.

Girls are like "hey, you have to be tall, good looking, smart, athletic, earning at least 70k a year, fun but not overboard, honest but nice, compatible with my zodiac symbol, you need to have a car and your own house, you must like pets and kids, you must be artistic but hardworking, polite but a good conversationalist, you must message me first, your message needs to be interesting but not too long, you need to confident but not a douchebag. Oh and you need to be adventurous but have a clean record." And this list gets cut in half for every 5-10 years they age lol


Yep very true its easier for guys once our careers are established in our 30s and 40s. It gets harder for women as they age.


And then they call men pigs when they see then with younger women even though half of them want their guy to be older than them.


Well thankfully karma catches up with them in the end. In many ways women are like cars they depreciate every year you "drive" it. Thats why you gotta trade the car out for a newer model every couple of years


Well, hopefully you don't mean that. I find the comparison to be a tad bit disturbing.


Men age like a fine wine women age like milk.


I was more concerned about the tradein part than the depreciation. A children show covered this about dogs. Dogs aren't a t shirt you throw away once you get bored. In a similar vein, women aren't to be discarded just because they lost their "bargaining" power. People aren't cars people.

Why should I drive an older car when I get a newer model?


Cause the older car is cheaper or something?


I mean, my car is cheaper than most, but I love her. Everytime I go inside of her I can barely hold myself, She feels so good on the inside, especially it's cold out there and her insides are nice and warm. We've been through a lot together, and I felt the her smooth interior with my hands many times. I can't believe I got someone like her. Someone like me. I think, "Wow, this car is amazing. I don't deserve a car like her."


you guys serious? comparing women to cars? and that women are only dateable/valuable young?


Yea the longer you wait the harder its going to be.

i admit that is true, BUT its because of the thinking of men such as this example

3606 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
29 / F / Chicagoland ~
Offline
Posted 1/24/16
I met my boyfriend through OKCupid and we're doing really great. I have another friend that's engaged to a girl he met on the same website, they've been together for two years and are getting married later this year.

So they can work. You just have to really put yourself out there for it and make sure you flush through all the crappy people, because there are a lot of freaks. I had a few dates with guys that were just ridiculous and/or downright crazy (not kidding, one took a ton of pills to counteract the crazy), and a coworker of mine has had TONS of really awful dates (that included one guy getting carted away in an ambulance because he had an allergy to fish or something but ordered food with it anyways! ).
2047 cr points
Send Message: Send PM GB Post
24 / M / USA
Offline
Posted 1/24/16
Unfortunately that's just biology men want looks women want security.
First  Prev  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9  10  11  12  Next  Last
You must be logged in to post.