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Post Reply should you ever say "sorry" to a girl?
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this is bizarre
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There are some people out there that if you apologize to them, particularly over something minor, it green lights them to having a reason to dislike you. Instead of them, perhaps, just being frustrated. It's similar to the idea of when a child hurts their self and a parent shows worry and coddles them as opposed to acting surprised, smiling, and offering advisement. One will generally lead to crying, while the other perhaps to laughter.

Depending on the person, apologizing for trivialities may even tell them that you're someone they can take advantage of by making a poor situation look like you're responsible.

I had a girlfriend that never wanted to hear or give apologies. She felt a person is responsible for their own emotions and apologizing doesn't change anything. While she may be right on some of that, it didn't exactly aid our understanding of each other.

I'm unsure how on topic all of this is, but the thread has led to some nice discussion.
Posted 1/29/16 , edited 1/29/16
Not sure what this topic is about but I noticed that any time I walked past a girl and she was what like a few cm away from me, they would ALWAYS say "sorry" and what for? lol women.. There is no need to say sorry! This does not happen with guys, a guy will brush against you, squeeze past you in a queue and not say sorry, and that's totally normal

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Freddy96NO wrote:


but back agian I still wonder/want to know more about why you was with that guy in general or just it had to go that bad to split? (dunno if you allready answerd that and what he did with bike, items he buyed.. thats what they call farming of useless junk a serious addiction since industrial age.)



Freddy96NO, I knew the guy in college as a friend, dated him for 2 years after college, was engaged to him another year before the wedding, and during that time he managed to keep a number of things hidden from me, such as his compulsive spending and his alcoholism. I didn't discover his issues until after the wedding when I finally moved in with him. He kept anything he thought might worry/bother/upset me hidden until after the wedding when I was legally bound to him. Also a lot of the issues were easily missed because initially we were on opposite schedules - he worked nights and I worked days.
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I apologize all the time. Even if I'm right, it's the fact that I got into a dispute with her. I apologize for everything, even if I know I'm right and they think I'm wrong. I let it go, no point in stressing over something. Apologizing is always the best thing to do in situations like that.
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Razor_Girl wrote: He kept anything he thought might worry/bother/upset me hidden until after the wedding when I was legally bound to him. Also a lot of the issues were easily missed because initially we were on opposite schedules - he worked nights and I worked days.
that long? also it cind of makes sense, but also for those years before he was able to keep it that of a secret or that he becomed more "loose" after you maybe was more with him (in various ways).

also guys do like to keep such "tedious"/bad things away from girls and yes sometimes that backfire (I guess like this with alcohol and such) and when that barrier (like marriage/moving in creates this bad form of freedom and things change even more)

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That's what I believe though. Now if it's something really serious, just try to get your point across and then apologize lol
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I actually taught my boyfriend how to say 'sorry' believe it or not.

It's not that apologies should be thrown around casually, but they should be used where honestly intended. Someone who refuses to accept and offer apologies often drags out trivial matters for much longer than necessary. These people are often very difficult to compromise with--long term relationships (romantic or friendly) become insufferable.

This is not to say that people should apologize when they feel no remorse since it should never be a matter of dishonesty or lying.

So if someone demands an apology from you and they honestly don't deserve it in your opinion--

Fuck 'em.

Don't fuckin' lie about it.



I get pissed off, when the 'apology' is just a lie (sometimes even passive aggressively delivered).
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Posted 1/29/16
*bump into a girl* Bitch you better say sorry for me jumping into you!

Yeah I don't get the point of this thread. Why should it matter if they are a girl or not? You fuck up say sorry.
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PrinceJudar wrote: I actually taught my boyfriend how to say 'sorry' believe it or not.

So if someone demands an apology from you and they honestly don't deserve it in your opinion--

Fuck 'em.
how to say the word sorry or with "feelings"?
because of some of the sitation I would rather do this insted if it was a girl:



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Posted 1/29/16
If youre wrong say sorry. Common sense right there
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Posted 1/29/16 , edited 1/29/16
Depends.

If you're like a samurai or a cherokee indian from 100 or so years ago and you still believe in pride over humility then I guess no. Otherwise, why should it matter?
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Freddy96NO wrote:
how to say the word sorry or with "feelings"?
because of some of the sitation I would rather do this insted if it was a girl:




Apologies don't always have to be verbal. My boyfriend isn't necessarily the 'emotionally delivering' type, but I know he means it when he does say it.

Sometimes people are conflicted--where they don't regret saying what they had said, but they do feel remorse about how it affected another person. In such times, it's appropriate to say "I'm sorry what I had said upset you"--or something of that nature.

Apologies will normally be well received unless that person has a habit of whimsically throwing it around or lying. Sometimes apologizing through action is needed depending on the gravity of the situation.

If you're in a relationship where you don't trust each other though...then it speaks of a larger issue.

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To a girl... Naw...

To a woman... Yes
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Posted 1/29/16
This thread, lmao.

If you do something horrible or wrong, apologize. Doesn't matter if they're a girl or not.
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