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Street harassment and thoughts about it
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I know, right? All I'm doing is informing women that I would gladly have sex with them, if they were willing. This is a service I provide for free, out of the goodness of my heart, because gosh darn it, that's just how much I care about ensuring the female population knows I am ready, willing and able to provide deep dickings to non-uggos.

When people misconstrue that as harassment, well! Needless to say such ungrateful females certainly won't be favored by my attentions again!


I really hope you're trolling. If not you're clearly an idiot.
Posted 1/30/16 , edited 1/30/16
People can't say anything without it becoming sexual harassment. Inferring lewd intent is at best irresponsible and at worst downright cynical. I'm strictly against harassment, and I guess I could see where one is coming from when a stranger out of the blue says hello, partly because people are more likely to be nicer to attractive people, but in my opinion this doesn't warrant the intervention of a police officer. You may feel uncomfortable, and that's okay. You completely have the right to feel that way. But to waste an officer's time just because someone said good day when you know nothing about said person lascivious proclivities other than "female's intuition" makes me uneasy. To attempt to shame them on social media is even worst.

Though in this case, you're not obligated to respond to a random hello as you would a friend or acquaintance. What that man did is certainly uncalled for, and I felt the best course of action was to hurry along and get away.


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Rangpur wrote:

I know, right? All I'm doing is informing women that I would gladly have sex with them, if they were willing. This is a service I provide for free, out of the goodness of my heart, because gosh darn it, that's just how much I care about ensuring the female population knows I am ready, willing and able to provide deep dickings to non-uggos.

When people misconstrue that as harassment, well! Needless to say such ungrateful females certainly won't be favored by my attentions again!


I really hope you're trolling. If not you're clearly an idiot.


What's wrong with what he said? O.o
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Last week a puppy thought it was entitled to sniff me, I kicked it across the street.
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It's really embarrassing and makes you feel real self-conscious... most is ignorable but there are times where you just kinda wanna die inside from the uncomfortableness. Especially when it's insistent and around a lot of onlookers because you know they feel awkward too watching it happen because of how overtly and strictly sexual it is even though it's a completely unprovoked and in unsexual situation. I'm really cringing.
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I wish people would harass me, would make for great banter and much salt and pepper.
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Imho, while catcalling may not seem like a serious issue and is something that "you get used to", it's a problem that women shouldn't have to deal with to begin with.

Catcalling simply shows how women are regarded in a culture (basically sexual objects). And this sexual objectification is the same reason why women are usually the ones that get sexually harassed, usually the ones that need to get walked to their car, and usually the ones that get raped.

You don't see guys having to deal with this kind of crap often.

This kind of mindset is really fucking annoying, and this is coming from a dude.
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ComboChrist wrote:
I really hope you're trolling. If not you're clearly an idiot.


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Curse the fates that you and your sister were born in a shithole country
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Personally I think that people need to stop being so easily offended. If someone catcalls, laugh it off. Seriously. Catcalling is not that big of an issue. It's not nearly on the same level of harassment as stalking is. If the catcaller catches you laughing at them, it'll crush their ego, make them self-conscious and they'll be less inclined to do it again as a result. Staring is another thing you can just laugh off. People act like catcalling and staring are the worst things imaginable. Catcalling and staring is something immature guys do, laughing at them will discourage it.
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Naseal wrote:

What do you think?

Yesterday my sister and I were catcalled when we were crossing the streets. Then we were whistled by a man driving a truck that was passing by. Later we were unscrupulously stared by a guy. Almost at our destination a guy told us "Good day lovely girls, howdy" "I'm telling you good day!", "Hey you should answer me!!", he followed us until we got through a passage.

Never before had I experienced harassment. I felt bad with myself, sad, uneasy. My sister told me it's very common experience for her, she has been followed to her house and being touched by a homeless person (she was trying to help).

I'm scared of going out again with my sister and having a similar experience. Street harassment is a very common issue in my town but it seems there are no laws that are trying to prevent it...


Act like a gun toting redneck and some of those people will leave you alone. Though with your age you might try a combat knife wielding redneck. Scum tend to want emotionally weak and physically weak women.
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No laughing matter.
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No laughing matter.


Your sarcasm detector needs some tuning there.
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I think all girls need to carry pepper spray or something, especially if they aren't in a big group and/or are going through a rough part of town. You can't be too careful. Granted, it's not your fault people are like this, but you should learn from it and be prepared to protect yourself in the future. I notice this is a big problem in the parts of town I club in. Those tend to be in the downtown areas, the older, shadier, and more populated parts of the city. I've seen a lot of girls get catcalled and I've seen people trying to take advantage of drunk girls in public as well. Plenty of fights over this stuff. Generally not very enjoyable.

It's not a good idea to make people angry if you don't think you can beat them, so there's a general rule of thumb. Gotta grit your teeth and focus on getting out of the situation if you feel like there is a looming threat. It's generally best not to respond to them but just make haste to get away from there.


If you were my friend and someone was doing this, I'd tell them to f*** off. Not the best idea but I do stick up for my friends if I need to. I remember I was in the Japantown near where I live and was walking around with a date when some young dumb dude pulled up and parked at the sidewalk and honked and did this wolf whistle thing to her when we walked past. Since we were close to my car, I told him to f*** off and he didn't do anything.

I keep a machete, a gladius, an escrima stick, and other stuff in my car. Thankfully, I've never had to actually use them even though there were times when I felt like I might need to in a few moments.


OP, you're 15 if your profile information is accurate. That's around the age that a lot of my female friends learned that they have to be more careful around weird men since they no longer look like little girls at that age. There are laws against stuff like this, it's just that words that aren't direct threats that won't make a reasonable person scared are allowed. If they actually go and touch you without your willingness, that's the line. You'll also discover that there are a lot of people who are not trying to seem threatening who just like to talk.

For instance, there's this Korean girl at my local market who always has the most grim and serious expression on her face at work. She looks like she loathes every second of her work. I didn't talk to her but sometimes I would notice that she became extra serious when it became my turn to pay for my groceries. I felt sort of bad for her and legitimately wondered if she hated me for some reason. Was it because I always bought alcohol whenever I was there? Was it because I sometimes dressed really sloppily when I went to that market? Did I smell bad or something? Did she think I was some kind of unemployed alcoholic? Did she think I was intimidating? Did she think my friend and I were immature for always telling stupid jokes and laughing at the check-out counter? My friend and I nicknamed her "Ice Queen" for her demeanor. I saw her like this for probably half a year. She still works there, actually.

Anyway, one day, I decided to just talk to her since I just finished my alcohol and went there to buy more. I was like "Hey, hope you're alright. You know, you're pretty but you'd look a whole lot nicer with a smile instead of a frown. I see you here all the time and it looks like you hate being here. Be happy!" She didn't seem as serious after that and I thanked her for always working on friday nights when I needed to buy beer. Point is, I wouldn't consider this catcalling or harassment.

There were also times that I couldn't help but compliment someone on their appearance. There was a lady at my local clinic who looked like she just stepped out of a J-drama and was pulling around this giant suitcase. Total stranger. Very cute but I wasn't trying to hit on her. I saw her walking out the building while I was sitting out front reading a book. "Airport's that way!" I said. "I like your outfit!" She just smiled instead of acting uncomfortable or calling me a creep.

I do think it's universally recognized that if they ignore you, you should not press them to answer you. That's just awkward.
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