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How can I conceal my sadness?
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Posted 2/3/16
Death never really bothered me growing up... I moved. A lot. In an age before Internet or cheap long distance.
So ever time I went somewhere, or someone left... That was probably it.

People dying was pretty much the same thing.... One day there, and then I couldn't see or hear from them...
But in either case... There was always the chance I could run into them again, somewhere.

It would be offensive to suggest to you to do the same, as I'm sure your relationship is much longer and deeper than my 6-12 mo intervals filled with tense platitudes, but life has taught me you really have to embrace your sadness where you can, unashamed to grieve when you must. Anyone unwilling to permit this is probably not worth the effort to fool.

Also, holding the blank poker face too long makes people distrust you (advice from someone who smiles reflexively to pain, stress, anger, and sadness).
Posted 2/3/16 , edited 2/3/16
Thank you so much for the advices (accept for the alcohol)

Have a nice life.

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Posted 2/3/16 , edited 2/3/16
Sort of interesting. My grandfather passed away when I was 12 and I never shed a tear. Went to his funeral and was completely cold. A year later I was laying in bed one night and just cried my eyes out. Woke up the next day and went on with my life. It's not like he wasn't close to me - he was the closest thing to a father figure I've ever had. Just different way of handling things I guess.

I've never felt grief where I just cried constantly or became overwhelmed by it, but finding a distraction is a good idea. Keep yourself busy and don't give yourself time to dwell on it. Sitting around at home? Go to the gym, visit friends, play a video game, read a book, or teach yourself a new skill. Lots of things you can do with your time that will keep your mind focused. It's after 1 am here and I just got back from the gym myself - and now I'm going to go pass out.

Good luck.
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Posted 2/3/16
stop feeling.
Posted 2/4/16 , edited 2/4/16
I've seen many pass, my best friend died in a car crash.. It will get better, just be patient. All you can do is cry it out and move forward, I'm sure your grandma would want to see you happy and none the less.
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Posted 2/4/16
There's no reason anyone should be expected to and nobody has the right to tell you not to feel that way.
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Posted 2/4/16

melodyXXnur wrote:

Tell me how


Closed by your request.

I'm glad you got some helpful replies, but in the future please start threads asking for advice in the Advice, Info, Recommendations forum.
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