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Posted 2/5/16 , edited 2/5/16
Some things have changed (as the others have mentioned) but there's always going to be guys/girls looking for just one thing from a relationship. Whether it's just a good time, money or whatever. I can't say much since I'm not into the whole love thing or relationships in general. Never cared for that sort of thing. Not opposed to the idea wholly, but I see no need for them since I don't care for children in the least. Not sure I could put up with someone being around me all the time for the rest of my life anyways. I prefer my solitude and the occasional conversation.
Posted 2/5/16
Kinda like the word 'friend' has changed in what an actual friend it
I have around 80 'friends' on facebook but I only consider less than 10 actual friends
Same thing with the word relationship
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Umm, ok. This is coming from me, a female perspective (and what spews out of my mind does not necessarily support or associate with the general female population).

No, relationships in general haven't changed over era and generations. There are a bunch of different factors for getting involved in a relationship: economics, tradition, multiculturalism, ideals, peer pressure, freedom of choice, obligations, etc., but I don't think love has much bearing–you're just lucky if you actually love the other person. However, the assumed criteria for relationships have changed.

Back then, a couple did not need to file a bunch of paperwork at some government office just to prove their commitment. Also, back then, polygamy, harems, male/female concubines, were recognized within a union. Now, most people assume monogamous in their relationship, and call it cheating or adultery if their partner goes off to hump someone else. Also, some governments recognize non-traditional unions now (ex: male-male, female-female, trans/herm-anyone, etc.) so in another way, relationships are no longer purely hetero.

Before the institution of marriage, it really was just a union for a male and female to reproduce. Then it became a way to manage a bloodline and heirs, and then economics came into play so the unions were formed to merge businesses and dynasties. Somehow, love was thrown into this as some sort of requirement, but if you think about the divorce and separation rate now, love was always the weakest link.

It just looks different now that people assume it's required to get married because of love, and it's going to be perfectly monogamous. It's a bit tiring to hear people sugarcoat the idea of marriage, like it's going to be a fairy tale where the female looks like a royal princess in her wedding gown and a handsome princely groom waiting at the end of the aisle; a couple of years later with perfect offspring and an affectionate family unit. Most of those fantasies easily crumble with a barely-there husband, nightmare children who've caused a mess and trouble for their frumpy mom, parental arguments, eventually separation. Some of the kids of who witness and experience that probably think "what's the point of a relationship?". So the "ship" sinks and it's just "relations".

If I was a guy and heard other guys talking about how their kids are like a nightmare from hell, and their wives/girlfriends nag the crap out of their ears, who would want to get involved in that? If I was a guy, "why would I get married knowing that my income would have to be distributed to the partner and any babies that result from it? How would I be able to make enough money to provide, go home and relax, have sex, maybe work on my hobbies?" I'd probably just be DTF too. But I'm a girl, so I don't exactly know what a guy thinks.
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Not really, same old song and dance. I use you, you use me. There isn't really much to add to it. However in 2016, yea things have probably changed in terms of "how they work" it's mainly based on income now, and not based on gender. I tend not to care about such things now, I see through a lot of women, and i'm sure a lot of women see through a lot of men, and that's what it has become, survival of the fittest, prey on the weak. The odd times you can actually find someone worthy, well worthy is rather harsh, acceptable and respectable.
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"relationships" aren't sacred and preserved the way they used to be, and it can be both good and bad.
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some changed for better or worse.
There is nothing as its this or that as some could have the "love"/relationship as someone from 100's of years ago (maybe not totaly the same) so as with time we would allways change each ~second (could be just a minor thing) but could play out big.

some would say its not the "strong" as it used to be as there was things that made people draw into eachother either it being by bad things, hard times (money, personal life, etc), what one would feel as some of what we would value/feel have changed (for some that are) in how they should treat things, act or just simpley when to feel (when left in a moment and feel like you don't know what to do or whats "right")

so much have changed in each location to another while also with people in general.
this that effect this will effect another agian (spreading) and some sort of value would rise or lower meaning that they would change their priorites and how to think/feel all the time, maybe not much and somethings would stablize or not (could go for insanity, a time to let it out/explode? and so on)

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Yuki_Narukami wrote: Kinda like the word 'friend' has changed in what an actual friend it
I have around 80 'friends' on facebook but I only consider less than 10 actual friends
Same thing with the word relationship
not really, mostly been allways been like that but online its easier to have it "lesser" importent (as a good thing?) also friends there is used in more a different way and you could look at it as friendly people or people you don't mind having and at some point could turn into a "real" friend, but anyway whats a "real" friend anyway.. as some could only be "better" then others (to be with, talk with and so on)

Posted 2/5/16
Yes. The man is nothing but a soulless ATM to be leeched off of from psychotic feminists. The women is a princess goddess that doesn't poop and never does anything wrong no matter how asinine her behavior is.

Protip: get a sex change and convert to Third-Way Feminism if you're a guy.
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Posted 2/5/16
Who knows, I don't. What's a relationship top kek.
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descloud wrote:


Dariamus wrote:

Married for 20 years.


Well let's be honest. Your generation of woman were not like these ones. Aka hook-up generation.


We'll go with that

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Posted 2/5/16
No of course it hasn't changed. You put the hot dog in the doughnut. It's been done that way for thousands of years.
Posted 2/6/16

Freddy96NO wrote:


Yuki_Narukami wrote: Kinda like the word 'friend' has changed in what an actual friend it
I have around 80 'friends' on facebook but I only consider less than 10 actual friends
Same thing with the word relationship
not really, mostly been allways been like that but online its easier to have it "lesser" importent (as a good thing?) also friends there is used in more a different way and you could look at it as friendly people or people you don't mind having and at some point could turn into a "real" friend, but anyway whats a "real" friend anyway.. as some could only be "better" then others (to be with, talk with and so on)



Dude you need some punctuation there, I could barely understand what the first part of your comment said
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Posted 2/6/16
Nope because human nature doesn't change.
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Posted 2/6/16
I wouldn't say that relationships have changed, just what people may want (based on the original post). That doesn't mean that long term relationships aren't a thing anymore.

Personally, I just want wizard powers...
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Posted 2/6/16
Yes. The World is Full of "fuckboys" and "hoes" nowadays.
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