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Everyone around you is just pretending to like you because you're disabled or something and they're just trying to be nice? I get that feeling all the time. Like sometimes I just think "are these people are just being nice to me because I've got some kind of mental disability that I was never told about?". These are real thoughts that come to my head and I was wondering if anyone else is having or had this experience.

And if this post caused you to start thinking this then I apologize in advance.
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I thought that at one point, but then you gotta realize that strangers don't give a fyuck- and if they treat you normal, you're probably good.
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No because me and my friends treat each other like shit lol
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Everyone treats everyone how they like to treat others~ I like to be nice to like 5% percent then the rest well you can tell >_>
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yes, there's an open possibility of that but it doesn't affect how i treat people. it's usually one sided for me as i will try to make sure that i haven't left anything closed ended; so then it's up to the other person to leave it at that or to keep it mutual. it helps me keep close to the people that actually give a shit, albeit im wasting a lot of effort of even try in certain cases.
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Lifthrasir wrote:

yes, there's an open possibility of that but it doesn't affect how i treat people. it's usually one sided for me as i will try to make sure that i haven't left anything closed ended; so then it's up to the other person to leave it at that or to keep it mutual. it helps me keep close to the people that actually give a shit, albeit im wasting a lot of effort of even try in certain cases.


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Nah. I have physical and mental issues and people have treated me horribly. Mostly neglect.
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272014 wrote:


Lifthrasir wrote:

yes, there's an open possibility of that but it doesn't affect how i treat people. it's usually one sided for me as i will try to make sure that i haven't left anything closed ended; so then it's up to the other person to leave it at that or to keep it mutual. it helps me keep close to the people that actually give a shit, albeit im wasting a lot of effort of even try in certain cases.


Do I know you.


impossible, but recognise, maybe.
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Lifthrasir wrote:


impossible, but recognise, maybe.


Fishy.
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Don't let the fear of what others think hold you back. I'm sorry but you aren't(and neither am I) the centre of the universe. Everybody has their own baggage to carry every day and are too busy to spend any time trying to create some sham to cover your feelings.
We should all relax and enjoy our expendability.
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flipmane wrote:

I thought that at one point, but then you gotta realize that strangers don't give a fyuck- and if they treat you normal, you're probably good.


This ^
Most only care about themselves and even more so when they're with people they don't know.
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Not really. I've known a couple of people who were paranoid about that kind of thing. Usually they were somewhat social phobic and they were absolutely convinced everyone in a room was talking about them or making ugly comments about them or jokes about them anytime they couldn't hear or see that person (ie. if they were too far away to hear what someone was saying to someone else, or if they walked into the middle of the room where people were behind them.) I think even if you'd actually had enough cameras and mikes to film everything else going on in the room around them and show them that there wasn't a single person who did more than glance at them to identify them and all the conversations were about mundane stuff like football they'd never believe it they'd still be convinced that somehow a trick was being played on them and in reality everyone was against them. This usually really messes up their relationships with others because they convince themselves that even their closest friends are secretly against them.

I've noticed that these kind of thoughts tend to occur in people who are self-centered and seem to think of everything else in the world in relation to themselves, pretty selfish way of thinking. They honestly don't seem to realize that not everyone else in the world is as obsessed with them as they are themselves. The idea that other people might have lives of their own and not spend every waking moment thinking of ways to burn the person never even seems to occur to them.
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Hey OP,
I've had these exact thoughts many times in my life. It's really cool to see that these thoughts are somewhat common. These thoughts aren't real, just irrational fears. Meditation, mindfulness, and a willingness to take responsibility for yourself and to help others is when I absolutely do not have these thoughts and realise I'm just being stupid. They mainly occured when I was in my teenage years (I'm almost 21 now) and was very self-conscious, insecure, and unsure with what was going on.
The best advice I can give is to have a greater perspective be the thing that drives you in life. Surround yourself with positive influences.
Posted 2/5/16
I don't know if people like me or not, whatever the case, I just think they're being nice.
Posted 2/5/16
I'm always hoping vice-versa. I'm generally a good natured person to everyone. Coming over to pick something up for someone that's dropped something- that sort of thing. Yet I always wondered if the disabled or the mentally ill feel offended in that regard. When I was going to college, the automatic doors to one of the building entrances were broken and there was no notice indicating this. I was sitting outside waiting for my next class, watching people struggle with the door, and by that had realized it was broken. So this woman in a wheelchair was approaching the door and I ran over because there was no one else around. She kind of looked at me like I was taking her ability, to do it on her own, away from her. Which never crossed my mind, and was only trying to be helpful. After shuffling it open she went in and didn't say a word. I saw her again a few minutes later and she smiled and said "thanks." She must have had time to realize the door was broken and I didn't just run over to help purely because of her disability. At least, that's what I was hoping. I mean, I understand where one would come from in the sense of their own normality. I believe everyone to be remarkable in their own ways, and disabilities don't subtract from that belief. Just never want to come off as offensive by doing things like that for anyone.
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