Need advice about my face hair
Posted 2/5/16
So I decided to try and grow a mustache for the first time. I ended up with a goatee, kind of. My goatee is about an inch long and theres a lot of it, but for some reason its nearly invisible. Up close they appear dark but from even 2 feet away you cant see any of it. I' don't know if it matters but when I was born I had like really white hair thats hard to see too.
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Posted 2/5/16
Based on your age, I'd say it's because you're not ready to grow facial hair. There are 5.5 stages of puberty, and most 17 year olds are around 5.0-5.2. In a few years, try again (like maybe 21-22 years of age). Also keep in mind, some people will be unable to grow decent facial hair due to genetics. If all else fails, just go to the Dollar Store and get a pack of fake ones so you can change it up every day. XD
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Hi Seacactus,

I've had a mustache for about seven years, and some beards, too. I feel like that qualifies me to reply. My hair is really dark, so I have a 5 o'clock shadow even after I shave. These genetic traits, light or dark hair, we've got no control over, so my advice to you is to not stress out about whether your facial hair is nearly invisible or not and just face the facial hair reality.

What you can control is how you do your facial hair. Ask people you trust if it's working for you and trust your own true feelings, too. My wife says my mustache is my ambassador to the world, the first thing people notice about me. So, she chews me out if I let it get too wild. But, y'know, sometimes I want it to look wild. Just to be a jerk. So, ask yourself, what's my intention?

Sometimes I use a wax to shape mine. That might affect your 'stache in a good way, grouping the strands. If there's some way to cheat and dye it darker and it looks good and you can live with it, go ahead and have fun with it. If it turns out that there's no way to make it work for you, just throw in the towel and move on knowing that the fashion for facial hair will keep changing and that, as you age, your body will change, so you might get another chance later on in life.

One thing I envy about guys with light facial hair is that they don't have to shave as much. That's a pretty great consolation, meaning you don't have to scrape a cold bit of metal over your face as much as us darker haired guys.

Best of luck to you!
Posted 2/5/16
It looks more like a nosebleed to me. Try tissues. But remember to clean the blood of your hands before someone sees it or else
Posted 2/5/16

Cvxcvgg wrote:

Based on your age, I'd say it's because you're not ready to grow facial hair. There are 5.5 stages of puberty, and most 17 year olds are around 5.0-5.2. In a few years, try again (like maybe 21-22 years of age). Also keep in mind, some people will be unable to grow decent facial hair due to genetics. If all else fails, just go to the Dollar Store and get a pack of fake ones so you can change it up every day. XD





irongiant14 wrote:

Hi Seacactus,

I've had a mustache for about seven years, and some beards, too. I feel like that qualifies me to reply. My hair is really dark, so I have a 5 o'clock shadow even after I shave. These genetic traits, light or dark hair, we've got no control over, so my advice to you is to not stress out about whether your facial hair is nearly invisible or not and just face the facial hair reality.

What you can control is how you do your facial hair. Ask people you trust if it's working for you and trust your own true feelings, too. My wife says my mustache is my ambassador to the world, the first thing people notice about me. So, she chews me out if I let it get too wild. But, y'know, sometimes I want it to look wild. Just to be a jerk. So, ask yourself, what's my intention?

Sometimes I use a wax to shape mine. That might affect your 'stache in a good way, grouping the strands. If there's some way to cheat and dye it darker and it looks good and you can live with it, go ahead and have fun with it. If it turns out that there's no way to make it work for you, just throw in the towel and move on knowing that the fashion for facial hair will keep changing and that, as you age, your body will change, so you might get another chance later on in life.

One thing I envy about guys with light facial hair is that they don't have to shave as much. That's a pretty great consolation, meaning you don't have to scrape a cold bit of metal over your face as much as us darker haired guys.

Best of luck to you!



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Posted 2/5/16
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Posted 2/5/16
Dye it.
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Posted 2/6/16


This! My little cousin got ticked at me one day due to me having a fully filled beard and mustache and him not being able to grow one like it. He had the same problem with light hair. In the end he got Just for Men hair dye, dyed his hair, beard, mustache and eyebrows. Even those who knew him for years said it looked great on him. Warning, it's not a one time thing so if you go this route remember, you'll have to dye it every few months. Worth it for some, not for others.
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