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it's not really "socializing" if it's not face to face ya know?


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descloud wrote:

it's not really "socializing" if it's not face to face ya know?


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descloud wrote:


Sir_jamesalot wrote:


descloud wrote:

it's not really "socializing" if it's not face to face ya know?


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Attempting to troll now eh?


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I wouldn't say that technology is ruining social life, whether it is in college or in general. I'd rather say that education did. My point is before people were satisfied with few things and nowadays they always want more and don't even seem to be pleased by what they got.

Some examples? 10 years old kid were happy with just sitting on the front seat, now they ask for iPad and such ...

Back to the main topic, in college (or at least in my case) you can socialize and it's up to you to bring people to talk if they are on their phone and honnestly if they ignore you and keep on messing with your phone this just mean that either those are *** or they already hate you so better leave them alone.

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Some examples? 10 years old kid were happy with just sitting on the front seat, now they ask for iPad and such ...

Right? https://youtu.be/eEi7LdqgyO0
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That was hilarious but at the same time really scary ....

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The years you spend in high school and college are when you are making the closest friends you will likely have the rest of your life. These friends are the foundation of your networking ability. If I didn't have a lot of contacts from college I never would have gotten decent jobs when I was moving around the country supporting my ex husband's education. Eight moves across state lines in ten years, each one requiring me to find a new job. I could beat the street all day applying to jobs but in the end the only ones I got were because I knew someone in common with the interviewer.
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No. College was much easier with technology.

I can't imagine having to go to the library and actually look through hundreds of paper books. I'd die from the boredom and I already have focus issues.

Technology made research about 1000x easier.

The people out there you want to socialize with are the people not cooped up on their computers all day, anyway. They're out there. You just need to go out yourself and be a little bolder.
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The years you spend in high school and college are when you are making the closest friends you will likely have the rest of your life. These friends are the foundation of your networking ability. If I didn't have a lot of contacts from college I never would have gotten decent jobs when I was moving around the country supporting my ex husband's education. Eight moves across state lines in ten years, each one requiring me to find a new job. I could beat the street all day applying to jobs but in the end the only ones I got were because I knew someone in common with the interviewer.


I have made my closest friends not from highschool or college as neither stuck around.

I made my closest friends from videogaming ;)

I have no contacts in college and never will because i hate socializing and avoid it like the plague.

I will be able to get the job i want without needing to know the people as i will have the skills to do the job.

People put way to much emphasis on networking and friendships from college etc and expect everyones experience to be the same when each persons can be very different.

I myself try to cut socializing out of my life as much as i can
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does it matter? we don't need that socialization...

when i goto college i don't go to talk with people i go to learn if people want to speak to me then fuck them i'm busy.

I hate interacting with people as socialization is tiring since you need to play a guessing game with peoples body language and they get pissed off if you misread it that and its tiring in general.

The only socialization i will happily do is by text otherwise if i don't know you well i don't want to talk to you.

I wish i could have to go without talking to people face to face for a year or more that would be bliss <3

I hate talking face to face and never will like it most of the time socialization is a waste of time and only something people do because they are more social animals then some of us are (introverts and Autistic people we don't need much socialization and can get the same effect via text)

I like how it is now


^ this ...The truth is spoken~
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I have made my closest friends not from highschool or college as neither stuck around.

I made my closest friends from videogaming ;)

I have no contacts in college and never will because i hate socializing and avoid it like the plague.

I will be able to get the job i want without needing to know the people as i will have the skills to do the job.

People put way to much emphasis on networking and friendships from college etc and expect everyones experience to be the same when each persons can be very different.

I myself try to cut socializing out of my life as much as i can :D


I agree and disagree with you at the same time. Socializing is up to the individual and if some will bond with other through college or work, other will socialize through internet, forum, video-games.


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I will be able to get the job i want without needing to know the people as i will have the skills to do the job.


This part however is unfortunately wrong, i don't know which job you are looking for but job are no longer granted solely on skill. Motivation, experience, AND contact are important to land a job. Don't get me wrong, i'm not saying that you don't need skill to work but if you rely only on your abilities then you might not be hired.

Also you can't entirely cut out socialization, because human are inherently social beast. You can't live without contact with other. It's not that i don't understand you, cause i've known my faire share of disapointment and i have stopped approaching people because there is too much hypocrite person but i won't reject someone who come to talk to me.

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I have no contacts in college and never will because i hate socializing and avoid it like the plague.

Well, that attitude is the reason why. Socially, I was a mess about a year a go. But I had to try and try and try again until I was able to start socializing properly with people that I weren't already talking to. I still am a mess in a lot of ways, but I have also come a long way.

I know being social isn't for everybody. And I am not trying to tell you to change who you are, but it is definitely a valuable skill to have. Just thought I would share that xp
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I don't think that technology is ruining our social life. The persons who are not willing to talk to anybody because theire smartphone is more exciting then humans are not the ones I want to be friends with anyway. 10 years ago I would have to talk them first but now they show you that they don't want to be friends with you. It's easier now . And I don't really care if they are only interacting with theire phones. it's theier decision. But it's my decision to ignore them, so I do. I have a conversation with somebody else then. I just don't get why they have decided to go out and meet people when they don't want to talk to anybody. I mean nobody was forcing them to visit a pub/club/cafe. (Don't get this wrong I'm not judging them, I really want to know why. )

About children (and teenagers): Don't blame technology for this. If your 12 year old daughter thinks she has the right to get an 800€ IPhone without doing anything then it's your fault. If your 8 year old kid isn't interested in going outside or doing anything maybe you should do something about it. And I don't mean taking away the phone/computer etc. I mean go out with your child, do something interesting, show your child that there's more out there then the internet and games.
But of course, a genreration of people who is used to get entertained all the time and don't have to remember anything because everything is on their phones could become a problem but that's not for sure. We will see. We just have to be smart enough to do something against it when it's still a small problem and not a serious one.
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I don't think that technology is ruining our social life. The persons who are not willing to talk to anybody because theire smartphone is more exciting then humans are not the ones I want to be friends with anyway. 10 years ago I would have to talk them first but now they show you that they don't want to be friends with you. It's easier now . And I don't really care if they are only interacting with theire phones. it's theier decision. But it's my decision to ignore them, so I do. I have a conversation with somebody else then. I just don't get why they have decided to go out and meet people when they don't want to talk to anybody. I mean nobody was forcing them to visit a pub/club/cafe. (Don't get this wrong I'm not judging them, I really want to know why. )

About children (and teenagers): Don't blame technology for this. If your 12 year old daughter thinks she has the right to get an 800€ IPhone without doing anything then it's your fault. If your 8 year old kid isn't interested in going outside or doing anything maybe you should do something about it. And I don't mean taking away the phone/computer etc. I mean go out with your child, do something interesting, show your child that there's more out there then the internet and games.
But of course, a genreration of people who is used to get entertained all the time and don't have to remember anything because everything is on their phones could become a problem but that's not for sure. We will see. We just have to be smart enough to do something against it when it's still a small problem and not a serious one.

I agree lol. I have no idea how I am going to approach this when I have kids. I was thinking maybe just start them off with a limited plan so that they could develop good habits from the start, but on the same token I kind of side with the parents that don't want their kid to not at least have a phone just in case.

I wouldn't become one of those parents that just gives their kid a phone so they stfu and leave them alone. I know what that feels like as a kid.
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Posted 2/6/16 , edited 2/6/16

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Ryulightorb wrote:

I have no contacts in college and never will because i hate socializing and avoid it like the plague.

Well, that attitude is the reason why. Socially, I was a mess about a year a go. But I had to try and try and try again until I was able to start socializing properly with people that I weren't already talking to. I still am a mess in a lot of ways, but I have also come a long way.

I know being social isn't for everybody. And I am not trying to tell you to change who you are, but it is definitely a valuable skill to have. Just thought I would share that xp


Well i can't enjoy socializing why not do it if you don't have to y'know?

sometimes you have to but either way socialization drains you mentally and physically so its best to avoid it unless neccesary. imo

It's not my attitude i mean i socialize when i need to but unlike normal people who get revitalised via socialisation it drains me mentally and physically as i said and leads to me feeling ill.
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