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Post Reply Do you simply let people do whatever pleases them even though you find it annoying?
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I am hatred devourer of pleasure and pride.
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it depends. i usually don't nark on people unless their actions are blatantly offensive and harmful to me/others. if it's just part of their personality then i just stray away and avoid it
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If someone is incapable of living considerately of another person in the same living space they don't deserve my respect. I'll give them plenty of time to correct their juvenile behavior, but if they are too delusional to change, then they've awoken a nightmare.
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I try to suppress myself, but I have a low stress tolerance. If it's avoidable then I'll avoid it though. Like if someone is cooking when I am already cooking, I'll just abandon cooking completely and not eat that day.


First off, to answer the OP's question.

No, I generally do not let people get away with being a nuisance, because they generally do not let me get away with it either. I look at it this way with almost anything. I ask myself this. "Would they be pissed at me if I were doing this"? Usually the answer truly is yes even if they claim it is a no after the fact, but that is neither here nor there, because 90%+ of humans are selfish self righteous hypocritical assholes.

SO I don't feel bad about voicing my displeasure at all, especially seeing as how people get on me for the littlest of bullshit all the time anyways.

(I am not kidding here either. I could be doing something seen as completely innocent by the rest of you here, but fuck me if I do it. As such, I give no quarter to assholes who give me none. And no, I am not the one to start things either, I am the one who finishes them because after I voice my opinion people generally back down or get tossed out of my presence.)

Now, in reply to you Buckerss. I had a roommate like you once. Before reading further, please understand I share this with you to maybe possibly help you live an easier life if possible. Please take it that way and not as some sort of judgement.

My roommate, She was annoying as fuck for this with all of us in that house. We had a full range stove. She could be using 1 stove top element. IF ANY ONE OF US even DARED to use anything else in the kitchen, she would get all up in a huff about needing ALL the space to cook, and would just quit cooking and cast evil eyes at the person who dared enter the kitchen, and complain to the rest about it.

We hated her. The only reason why I didn't set her straight on what was and wasn't acceptable behavior was because she was the girlfriend of the only person who didn't hate her. For long at least. He eventually hated her too, for the same reasons we did, but it took 8 months longer before his patience waned too far.

Now, you may not be the type to get mad at people and cause a scene, but I say this all to you to say this. Even if you are pleasant about it, the fact that you are going hungry just to avoid conflict would make me feel bad if it were me in that instance.

You might think you are doing that person or people around you a favor, but really you are probably just making them feel bad even if they don't outright admit it. Nobody should be made to feel bad over having shared the kitchen.

Now if your kitchen is horrendously small and unaccomodating to multiple people, that is one thing, but then at that point it should be obvious that others can wait their turn. This likely wasn't your scenario though, and it definitely wasn't the case with my roommate situation.

Do yourself a favor, and everyone else while you are at it, and learn to share the kitchen. It can be annoying at times, I don't argue that at all. However when living with others, you need to work together even if you don't like the reason or scenario. Anything else just creates tension and increases likelihood of hostilities. Nobody likes or wants either.

That said, some people just aren't meant to live with others, like myself. Some people are better off living alone to some degree.

Either or, I hope you can get past whatever is keeping you from being able to share a kitchen, or whatever other scenarios that make come up where you use a similar tactic.

Don't be afraid to voice your opinion to others. They usually will never have a problem doing likewise anyways, and being meek to be nice isn't nice at all. It's just avoiding an issue that would be better off dealt with instead.
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If someone is incapable of living considerately of another person in the same living space they don't deserve my respect. I'll give them plenty of time to correct their juvenile behavior, but if they are too delusional to change, then they've awoken a nightmare.


I had a line I would say to roommates who were pushing it too far.

"Japan woke the giant, you are disturbing the monster."
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
Thanks a bunches.


Do you just let people do as they please even though what they're doing bothers you/is an annoyance? What would you like to do to that person? What do you do when you can't do anything? Does ignoring it work? Explain your view on this.

Enjoy!!!


Depends. If it's merely a slight nuisance, like the tendency to eat one of my instant noodle packets once in a while without asking, I might say something occasionally but otherwise leave it.

If it's something severe, like stealing my antique kitchenware or not paying rent on time, I'll say something and make sure I'm heard.

Other stuff just depends on the situation and whether or not it's worth the confrontation. It's easier to remove myself from the situation if I can.
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We hated her. The only reason why I didn't set her straight on what was and wasn't acceptable behavior was because she was the girlfriend of the only person who didn't hate her. For long at least. He eventually hated her too, for the same reasons we did, but it took 8 months longer before his patience waned too far.

That's where you done did failed. I would have told her to shut the fuck up and told the boyfriend to control his unreasonable partner.

But maybe that's because I'm an asshole.
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Now, in reply to you Buckerss. I had a roommate like you once. Before reading further, please understand I share this with you to maybe possibly help you live an easier life if possible. Please take it that way and not as some sort of judgement.

My roommate, She was annoying as fuck for this with all of us in that house. We had a full range stove. She could be using 1 stove top element. IF ANY ONE OF US even DARED to use anything else in the kitchen, she would get all up in a huff about needing ALL the space to cook, and would just quit cooking and cast evil eyes at the person who dared enter the kitchen, and complain to the rest about it.

We hated her. The only reason why I didn't set her straight on what was and wasn't acceptable behavior was because she was the girlfriend of the only person who didn't hate her. For long at least. He eventually hated her too, for the same reasons we did, but it took 8 months longer before his patience waned too far.

Now, you may not be the type to get mad at people and cause a scene, but I say this all to you to say this. Even if you are pleasant about it, the fact that you are going hungry just to avoid conflict would make me feel bad if it were me in that instance.

You might think you are doing that person or people around you a favor, but really you are probably just making them feel bad even if they don't outright admit it. Nobody should be made to feel bad over having shared the kitchen.

Now if your kitchen is horrendously small and unaccomodating to multiple people, that is one thing, but then at that point it should be obvious that others can wait their turn. This likely wasn't your scenario though, and it definitely wasn't the case with my roommate situation.

Do yourself a favor, and everyone else while you are at it, and learn to share the kitchen. It can be annoying at times, I don't argue that at all. However when living with others, you need to work together even if you don't like the reason or scenario. Anything else just creates tension and increases likelihood of hostilities. Nobody likes or wants either.

That said, some people just aren't meant to live with others, like myself. Some people are better off living alone to some degree.

Either or, I hope you can get past whatever is keeping you from being able to share a kitchen, or whatever other scenarios that make come up where you use a similar tactic.

Don't be afraid to voice your opinion to others. They usually will never have a problem doing likewise anyways, and being meek to be nice isn't nice at all. It's just avoiding an issue that would be better off dealt with instead.


I don't mind being hated. I hate half the people i live with anyway. When I move out I wont have to share a kitchen.
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Usually. I have emotions so sometimes it's just impossible to leave it be.
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"Do you simply let people do whatever pleases them even though you find it annoying? "

So vague... are you talking about people you live with or strangers you meet out in
about? If its people you live with do whatever you want. But if something is none
of your business and no ones getting hurt why interject yourself?

Sounds like someone that's still living at home is butt hurt over something parents
did/said to them or siblings did/said. Now wants reinforcement to nitpick back xD

People are annoying deal with it and cope with it. Learning to cope without lashing
out will help when your in the "real world".
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It really depends on the situation. If it's not causing any harm then I'll let it slide. Normally though I speak my mind. I like to be honest and I don't like people to not know where they stand with me. I'm a pretty literal person and I don't like to beat around the bush, play games or insinuate anything. I don't like to have to guess what others want and really wish people would just come out and say what's on their mind. I don't want to play a freaking guessing game with people so I try to just be honest.....but not brutally honest. No point in hurting people's feelings over my hang ups. If say for instance someone keeps tapping their pen on something while I'm driving and it's annoying the #$%^ out of me then I'll definitely say something because if I'm annoyed then I'm not concentrating on driving. If someone's singing a Justin Bieber song then I'll let them be or just join in for the heck of it. Why not? It really just depends on the situation but I have NO problem speaking what's on my mind. If it's too bad then I'll just leave.
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Let me give some examples of the situation:


If someone likes a certain type of music that you can not stand, would you tell that person to stop listening to that music even though it pleases them?

Someone draw a homosexual relationship between two straight male anime characters that you like.

This person loves this fashion trend that you can't stand.

Someone said a word that you find to be an annoyance.

A person likes to watch their favorite show but you hate that show

And so on....

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CrownedSonofFire wrote:

We hated her. The only reason why I didn't set her straight on what was and wasn't acceptable behavior was because she was the girlfriend of the only person who didn't hate her. For long at least. He eventually hated her too, for the same reasons we did, but it took 8 months longer before his patience waned too far.

That's where you done did failed. I would have told her to shut the fuck up and told the boyfriend to control his unreasonable partner.

But maybe that's because I'm an asshole.


Fair enough. I was trying to not be a complete asshole, even though I do have a tendency to show it now and then. This mostly had to do with the fact that I was the new arrival to the house, where as the boyfriend and his bitchy girlfriend had been there for years. Gotta know your place, ya know.
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No. There are a few people that I'll make some allowances for but even then I have my limit and I tell them that's enough, stop it. Others I'll give the benefit of the doubt once whilst I check out their MO, after that I'll take measure to not let that situation reoccur. There are some actions that I just won't tolerate or allow a person to do. They can find someone else to please themselves or behave in such a manner because I won't entertain them at all.
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No way in hell. If someone bothers me and is being a douche I'll straight away tell him/her/it. I'm a bit confrontational and aggressive, but I can be also a very good person if you know how to bring my good side.

I like giving my opinion in every subject, matter etc. The best weapon is your voice and opinion.

I'm very smart I study a lot of history. I often bring up historic references to "on fire" discussions/debate and yes, hate to lose.
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