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Posted 2/15/16
Intelligence.
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Appearance initially until I see how their personality is. I like woman who are good at math/science. I find intelligence attractive. A good physique will only get you so far in the dating world.
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At first instance, it would be appearance. Normally they catch your attention first and then based on their character, you decide whether you like them or not. But there have been instances when the guy's appearance didnt spark any interest at first, but his character made him stand out.
Posted 2/15/16
Personality. When I went for looks, he turned out completely into himself and he expressed it more the longer we were together and went out. He also talked down to a lot of people, which I hated. I also went for an average looking guy who was also a bit of a jerk. He had less confidence in himself and his appearance. Therefore, in his logic, every other guy he thought was better looking or had more confidence; was a target for his judgementality. He would also whine about his shortcomings at work due to his lack of confidence. That alone was draining when trying to comfort.

Yes, a nice looking person is very attractive, but I'm more attracted to people that have their life together. A bit of worldly wisdom, comfortable with who they are, likes to relax, and isn't a control freak or insane. So for me, their personality is what attracts me. The way they carry about in public, with others. What they say in group conversations. What they reveal personally, one-on-one.
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I like big butts and I cannot lie
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ZiggyPlayedGuitar wrote:
That alone was draining when trying to comfort.
sounds like another girl getting into the same problem with guys that can't take the fact that you are "there" or "real" either if you try to comfort them it would get worse?

Once some males have such an beauty they can't handle it and why its better gained through events or starting as friends going a path even though it can still do the same thing of it becoming "unreal" when it goes over the line, if not they could have more extreme views wanting to do much more to you but then agian thats not really something I want to go in on.


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I like big butts and I cannot lie

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Personality . . . and hair color. Strawberry blondes drive me nuts
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ZiggyPlayedGuitar wrote:
That alone was draining when trying to comfort.
sounds like another girl getting into the same problem with guys that can't take the fact that you are "there" or "real" either if you try to comfort them it would get worse?

Once some males have such an beauty they can't handle it and why its better gained through events or starting as friends going a path even though it can still do the same thing of it becoming "unreal" when it goes over the line, if not they could have more extreme views wanting to do much more to you but then agian thats not really something I want to go in on.



Yeah, I understand when a person is dealing with anxiety and stress over their appearance or self doubt. Some people get bullied for it, or even for being very introverted. Though I genuinely care about what's within a person, they might see it differently due to their insecurities. It becomes a challenge to try and assure them they're safe and understood. Then he started to make me feel responsible for the distance he put between us. Saying things like "I told you so" and doubting that I cared about him. As though if I didn't pour every ounce of my being into his issues, it was because I didn't care. When really, I was just tired. Sometimes you just need to cut away from people that take you under, and it has nothing to do with not caring about them. I find these kinds of people dangerous. Now I look for people that are okay being who they are. Not overly confident, because I know we all have our down times. Just enough to allow others into their space.
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ZiggyPlayedGuitar wrote: As though if I didn't pour every ounce of my being into his issues, it was because I didn't care. When really, I was just tired. Sometimes you just need to cut away from people
sorry because I doing this but see if he was like a dog -__- then limits should be had (even though some like to be playfull around those "limits"/rules) of what you are and how much you can take while saying you got to take a step infront of me (even though that doesn't really need to be a gendered issue) but to just get the "train" moving.

as in take some responsebility and try to look forward while getting some support?
but it sounded like there where something you where not able to "show" them (of how you feel or are at those times and what they "need" to do).

but thats just my guess hope thats "usefull" ...

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the truth i most attracted to is thick eyebrow i dont know why but i have thick eyebrow too haha and the voice and the seductive cute eyes
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ZiggyPlayedGuitar wrote: As though if I didn't pour every ounce of my being into his issues, it was because I didn't care. When really, I was just tired. Sometimes you just need to cut away from people
sorry because I doing this but see if he was like a dog -__- then limits should be had (even though some like to be playfull around those "limits"/rules) of what you are and how much you can take while saying you got to take a step infront of me (even though that doesn't really need to be a gendered issue) but to just get the "train" moving.

as in take some responsebility and try to look forward while getting some support?
but it sounded like there where something you where not able to "show" them (of how you feel or are at those times and what they "need" to do).

but thats just my guess hope thats "usefull" ...



No, I was constantly there for him. Around the clock even. We would stay up late at night just talking about his doubts and fears. He had cynical views at times. I understood them though. I know a lot of people, like him, who question their worth all the time. Due to the experiences they have with being judged or bullied about their insecurities. I held all of the responsibilities in that sense. He was always not good enough for something or complained about losing out in life because he wasn't very confident. It got very draining trying to prove he was worth a great deal and that his life could be great if he tried for things he wanted in it. He put distance between us like that. It was clear that no one was capable of helping him the ways he needed the help, because his issue was with himself. As a result, he would blame everything around him, even society if needs be. He created a rift and then questioned why I wasn't up to being pulled along for the overwhelming ride. It's not that I didn't care, I did. I just had to cut loose or be trapped in all his self-conscious insecurities. Things like this make me look towards someone for their personality when it comes to attraction.

But thanks for taking the time to reply! Replies are never useless.
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ccui2615 wrote:
the truth i most attracted to is thick eyebrow i dont know why but i have thick eyebrow too haha and the voice and the seductive cute eyes


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ccui2615 wrote:
the truth i most attracted to is thick eyebrow i dont know why but i have thick eyebrow too haha and the voice and the seductive cute eyes




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ccui2615 wrote:
the truth i most attracted to is thick eyebrow i dont know why but i have thick eyebrow too haha and the voice and the seductive cute eyes




i think the young guy on that gif is handsome haha
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