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Posted 2/19/16
While the idea of an irl harem is tempting, I'm scared that it might turn out like School Days
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You read right! Ba-Dum-Tss.


Profile says F. is that fake?


it's just an internet profile, son
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God no. Real people aren't one dimensional cardboard cut outs content to mill about pointlessly fawning over a single person for years.



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A harem is for the soul purpose of offering a unique persona to up to several female characters who are overly attached to one outstanding male who is rather modest, and honest in his actions who shares his personal connection towards each persona.


The sole purpose of a harem is male wish fulfillment. Its very rarely an "outstanding" male let alone female characters with "unique personas". =p
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runec wrote:

God no. Real people aren't one dimensional cardboard cut outs content to mill about pointlessly fawning over a single person for years.



Humms wrote:
A harem is for the soul purpose of offering a unique persona to up to several female characters who are overly attached to one outstanding male who is rather modest, and honest in his actions who shares his personal connection towards each persona.


The sole purpose of a harem is male wish fulfillment. Its very rarely an "outstanding" male let alone female characters with "unique personas". =p


Well you're not wrong there I like to think there is more to offer than copy and paste characters.
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Humms wrote:
Well you're not wrong there I like to think there is more to offer than copy and paste characters.


The harem with more to offer is an exceedingly rare bird in anime and manga. Even if you see one that seems to start out strong, it tends to sabotage itself or otherwise eventually go down in flames. Because a harem relies on maintaining a status quo. Nobody can "win" because it disrupts the harem and would emotionally destroy every girl that "lost". Painting the male lead as a horrible asshole.

So maintaining that status quo requires freezing everyone's relationships in time and locking them into an emotional groundhog day. Which is not a natural state. No one can progress but everyone needs to remain madly in love the lead. Eventually ( or rapidly depending on the writer's talent ) its going to stretch credulity and you just get aggravated by watching some indecisive dipshit string along 5 or 6 girls.

And that's the "good" harems. The bad ones just parade a bunch of one note cliches in front of you with their breasts hanging out for wanking purposes. -.-

And don't even get me started on the ones where it tries to lean towards or eventually sort of resolve with one girl, when there is a much better relationship match in the supporting cast ( typically one that already has a long relationship with the protagonist ). Who gets shit on because the the main girl is a ditsy flake that stumbled into the male lead's life tits first.

And as we all know you're obligated to spend your life with the first girl that accidentally touches you with her breasts or flashes her underwear.
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No harems are a fantasy. A really poorly executed anime fantasy (with FEW exceptions). Emotional one bit girls, STD's, annoyances all the time, girls unable to do anything without you white knighting all the time... ughh...
Posted 2/19/16

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No harems are a fantasy. A really poorly executed anime fantasy (with FEW exceptions). Emotional one bit girls, STD's, annoyances all the time, girls unable to do anything without you white knighting all the time... ughh...


No, they are not, is call polygamy.

Now to OP.

Yes and no. Do I want 2 or more girls loving me? Hell yeah. But honestly meh. Time spend dating is time better spend doing something else in my opinion. I also view relationships as a drag. Also, most girls I have met spends most of their time on their fucking phone. Hell, even my dad spend most of his day texting.
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chinesedoodle wrote:

No harems are a fantasy. A really poorly executed anime fantasy (with FEW exceptions). Emotional one bit girls, STD's, annoyances all the time, girls unable to do anything without you white knighting all the time... ughh...


No, they are not, is call polygamy.

Now to OP.

Yes and no. Do I want 2 or more girls loving me? Hell yeah. But honestly meh. Time spend dating is time better spend doing something else in my opinion. I also view relationships as a drag. Also, most girls I have met spends most of their time on their fucking phone. Hell, even my dad spend most of his day texting.



I wasn't really thinking of polygamy. I was thinking about the fantasy of having women fawn all over you (or men for women). Polygamy requires lots of conversation and proper relationships. It can work, but I haven't met anyone who has made it work. What I interpreted a harem, was a bunch of mindless fans who were little more than sex slaves. Polygamy is also a dicey choice. Relationships in general always have a risk of going south, more partners means more risk and more time needed to fulfill relationships with others.

In short Polygamy is theoretically doable, but I don't know anyone who has made it work or could make it work. It's a huge juggling act.
Posted 2/19/16
I kinda doubt that I'm mature and patient enough to handle such a complex relationship dynamic, and even if I did manage to find my self in a harem situation I'd probably leave the relationship as quickly as I start to feel the whole experience being too much to keep up with.
Posted 2/19/16

chinesedoodle wrote:


KarenAraragi wrote:


chinesedoodle wrote:

No harems are a fantasy. A really poorly executed anime fantasy (with FEW exceptions). Emotional one bit girls, STD's, annoyances all the time, girls unable to do anything without you white knighting all the time... ughh...


No, they are not, is call polygamy.

Now to OP.

Yes and no. Do I want 2 or more girls loving me? Hell yeah. But honestly meh. Time spend dating is time better spend doing something else in my opinion. I also view relationships as a drag. Also, most girls I have met spends most of their time on their fucking phone. Hell, even my dad spend most of his day texting.



I wasn't really thinking of polygamy. I was thinking about the fantasy of having women fawn all over you (or men for women). Polygamy requires lots of conversation and proper relationships. It can work, but I haven't met anyone who has made it work. What I interpreted a harem, was a bunch of mindless fans who were little more than sex slaves. Polygamy is also a dicey choice. Relationships in general always have a risk of going south, more partners means more risk and more time needed to fulfill relationships with others.

In short Polygamy is theoretically doable, but I don't know anyone who has made it work or could make it work. It's a huge juggling act.


OK, I am not getting into an argument with you but merely stating my opinion. The series I read or watch don't have women fawn or whatever. If people think fawn all over you means having feelings. You guy seriously need to watch or read some hentai. Hell, even porn. I can agree with the wish fulfilment thing but that the whole point of a fantasy. Fawn over in the other hand is an exaggeration. Polygamy and Harem are the same things. The word harem is Arabic in origin. What the difference? Polygamy involves marriage to multiple people. A harem is basically a personal house of sexual partners whom one is not married to. Same thing but different status. A more technical term will be this. Polygamy is a see also of harem. Harem is a see also of polygamy.
As nouns the difference between harem and polygamy is that harem is the private part of an arab household in traditional arab culture, this part of the household was forbidden to male strangers while polygamy is the having of multiple socially bonded sexual partners at the same time.
The Same thing but with some differences.

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No harems are a fantasy..
nope.. they are not.

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Posted 2/19/16
I already have a harem of PCs, my 486, my xeon, my i5, etc.
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I already have a harem of PCs, my 486, my xeon, my i5, etc.


You should name them.
Posted 2/20/16
Everyone I would have wanted in it are already dead.
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Posted 2/20/16
For it to work, you find yourself with girls who are not your equal, and who usually have more issues than its worth. So instead of trying to have relationships with them all, you end up just having them become your go-to fucktoys.
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