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Posted 2/25/16

ck1west wrote:

Ok this my first topic so go easy on me?
>Here's my question about addressing people?
first example > I go to grocery store and the boy at counter does not know me? I pay for my things he say's to me thank you hunny?? know first of all i am not his honey? or thanks hun.

other example i go to 7-11 again i get called np -sweety? calling me by these terms to me is not ok?
what every happen to thank you miss or just thank you very much?
*so here is my question have manners just gone to hell what are they teaching kids today?*


It's interesting that you say kids/boys are saying this to you. Do you mean people younger than you? I don't think I've ever had someone younger than me call me honey or hun or sweetie. That seems a bit unusual; I would expect to be called miss or ma'am by someone noticably younger than me.

Still, I doubt any disrespect was meant, given the context of it being store clerks talking to a customer. I bet they were just trying to be friendly with you, make the customer feel at home kind of thing. But I could see why you might feel it was odd.
Posted 2/25/16
Dotsforlife wrote - {I'm not sure about Los Angeles but in the southern states that would be perfectly normal. Either way, he wasn't being disrespectful. Maybe not appropriate, but certainly not disrespectful.}

I never said disrespectful? but i do believe inappropriate.
> I think in terms how we are raised in our households what did the parents teach them as manners? or not?
and I forgot to add my husband has been called strange things by unknown people as well example he has been called hey bub or the term whats up boss? I'm not saying it all really bad but again what happen to manners?
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Posted 2/25/16

ck1west wrote:
again what happen to manners?
wouldn't say its his manners that is bad..
More how you "want" to view it as, but then agian I don't know - how - he did it (in saying/acting).
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ck1west wrote:
I'm not saying it all really bad but again what happen to manners?


No idea, luv.
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Posted 2/25/16 , edited 2/25/16

ck1west wrote:

Dotsforlife wrote - {I'm not sure about Los Angeles but in the southern states that would be perfectly normal. Either way, he wasn't being disrespectful. Maybe not appropriate, but certainly not disrespectful.}

I never said disrespectful? but i do believe inappropriate.
> I think in terms how we are raised in our households what did the parents teach them as manners? or not?
and I forgot to add my husband has been called strange things by unknown people as well example he has been called hey bub or the term whats up boss? I'm not saying it all really bad but again what happen to manners?


Never said you did. I was saying that because that's what I think based on the info given by you. The reason why I say it could be inappropriate is because he's on the job. If he were out and about then it wouldn't mean much or matter really. On the job though, a certain level of professionalism is usually expected in most places.

I agree with you that depending on how people are raised can indeed influence them later on. Everywhere is different in the US so there's that too. Given how most people act these days I'd say the kid responded better than many would have. At the very least he is harmless, even if he was on the job at the time.

I wouldn't expect much from people these days though. Manners seem to be becoming a lost etiquette overall. It's best not to let something so menial bother you.
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Posted 2/25/16 , edited 2/25/16
Wow this is really gotten under the OP's skin. Geez I guess she doesn't understand etiquette isn't some universal set in stone thing, that various cultures view it differently. I am honestly beginning to think OP is some middle aged racist white chick ya dig.
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No idea, luv.
You can't say that darling, too much love for me! oo-wi it made be crimble

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Posted 2/25/16
I get all cakled sir or bro.

Posted 2/25/16 , edited 2/25/16

Nasirei wrote:

I've been cat called a lot of times, and I've heard unpleasant words not even you want to hear.

I always try to be respectful to everyone, "treat others the same way they want to treat you".


So If I treated you like I treat PV will you become PV?
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Nasirei wrote:

I've been cat called a lot of times, and I've heard unpleasant words not even you want to hear.

I always try to be respectful to everyone, "treat others the same way they want to treat you".


So If I treated you like I treat PV will you become PV?


No because I'm not PV

PV is the one and only
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Posted 2/25/16 , edited 2/25/16
English is so informal that I get confused on what I can call people.
At work I refer to customers as "sir" or "madam". Sometimes I think I'm being way to formal at times for a retail setting.

In Spanish it's much easier and expected for you to be formal and repectful towards strangers. Saying stuff like "honey" or "dear" is too informal and can make people feel uncomfortable. When I have Hispanic couples I also make sure I always to talk to the husband first. I can't talk to the wife unless I get small hints that I can.

Posted 2/25/16

Nasirei wrote:


SylveonLuna wrote:


Nasirei wrote:

I've been cat called a lot of times, and I've heard unpleasant words not even you want to hear.

I always try to be respectful to everyone, "treat others the same way they want to treat you".


So If I treated you like I treat PV will you become PV?


No because I'm not PV

PV is the one and only


Exactly thats why he has a fanclub.
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Posted 2/25/16 , edited 2/25/16

HuastecoOtaku wrote:

English is so informal that I get confused on what I can call people.
At work I refer to customers as "sir" or "madam". Sometimes I think I'm being way to formal at times for a retail setting.

In Spanish it's much easier and expected for you to be formal and repectful towards strangers. Saying stuff like "honey" or "dear" is too informal and can make people feel uncomfortable. When I have Hispanic couples I also make sure I always to talk first to the husband. I can't talk to the wife unless I get the hints that I can.



Spanish is definitely more formal and romantic. But it does have its weird conjugations.

English is just practical, no formalities.
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Posted 2/25/16 , edited 2/25/16

SylveonLuna wrote:
Exactly thats why he has a fanclub.
wait it has under-aged people in a fapclub?


Nasirei wrote:
Spanish is definitely more formal and romantic. But it does have its weird conjugations.

English is just practical, no formalities.
until you hear a 70yr old cursing like no tomorrow.

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Posted 2/25/16
In my experience, it seems like the "odd" terms are typically used only by your opposite gender. I can recall plenty of women addressing me in ways I find strange, but not men.


Personally, I default to Ms. for women unless they're clearly older than I, or I notice a wedding ring, in which case I switch to Ma'am.

I address older men as Sir by default.

Never been sure how to address younger men.. I mean, if it were a group I'd go with Gentlemen, but in singular? Fortunately, most scenarios requiring that I address younger men (whose names I don't already know) are ones where it's appropriate to address them as Stupid.
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