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one female and two males = the males will compete for the female


i have literally never seen this happen in real life that's why shoujo is so much fun and otomes with 3somes


Are you for real?? I think you just didn't notice it?...
Or the nice guys just sat back and came last *sigh* lol
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I was thinking, why is it that there are girls that are upset and ponder why they are single or want affection that they are not getting, but then when a boy or someone hits on them, or shows interest, they get uncomfortable, and usually turn him down, and then go back to moping.

Why does that happen? o.o


I can't speak for all of them but sometimes it's because girls can be shy too, even the super cute ones. Being shy sucks and having social anxiety REALLY sucks especially when you're young.

Or it could just be that they don't want the person who's hitting on them as a boyfriend. Maybe they have their bar set a bit higher? And finally maybe they just don't like being "hit on" period. Would it kill guys to just start a normal conversation and try to be friends with a girl without all the bs games involved?
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snanderson wrote:

one female and two males = the males will compete for the female


Men are responsible for half the drama ourselves. I mean how many times do you think a woman will enjoy some random ahole coming up and saying "So, uhm, how's the weather?"

And this one line sums up a lot of the problems here: one female and two males = the males will compete for the female.

That's a part of the problem because the female is NOT a prize to be won. It's NOT a competition. Maybe the girl/woman doesn't want to be messed with right now. Maybe she doesn't like you or maybe just maybe she's tired of men coming up and hitting on her with bs weather lead in's. Would it really be so painful to go into it genuinely interested in the girl? Like how she's actually doing. If she's sitting there by herself maybe instead of some corny pick up line you guys should ask them if they're okay and try to start up a real conversation. But if you're not genuinely interested in her then that conversation will almost certainly fail. Instead of treating it like a game or a conquest how about you treat her like a human and a friend (or at least a potential friend) first. If you're lucky enough to gain the respect of the woman you really like then great, more power to you but respect is earned, not given and nobody wins just by showing up and being cute......at least not in this particular scenario. If all you're after is some fun then there are plenty of women out there who feel the same so go play that game instead.
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While loneliness often correlates with desperation and a lack of standard they are not congruent. It's healthy to have some standard, but often women set the bar too high in the present day.

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AzuroHeart wrote:

I was thinking, why is it that there are girls that are upset and ponder why they are single or want affection that they are not getting, but then when a boy or someone hits on them, or shows interest, they get uncomfortable, and usually turn him down, and then go back to moping.

Why does that happen? o.o


I can't speak for all of them but sometimes it's because girls can be shy too, even the super cute ones. Being shy sucks and having social anxiety REALLY sucks especially when you're young.

Or it could just be that they don't want the person who's hitting on them as a boyfriend. Maybe they have their bar set a bit higher? And finally maybe they just don't like being "hit on" period. Would it kill guys to just start a normal conversation and try to be friends with a girl without all the bs games involved?


Well actually thats the thing, I wasn't generally speaking about me but I feel like I tried to want to be someones friend and they're like "Sorry I don't want anything to do with you" but I would mention I live in Florida, where I've heard that its pretty sh*tty.
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TheOriginalStraynge wrote:


snanderson wrote:

one female and two males = the males will compete for the female


Men are responsible for half the drama ourselves. I mean how many times do you think a woman will enjoy some random ahole coming up and saying "So, uhm, how's the weather?"

And this one line sums up a lot of the problems here: one female and two males = the males will compete for the female.

That's a part of the problem because the female is NOT a prize to be won. It's NOT a competition. Maybe the girl/woman doesn't want to be messed with right now. Maybe she doesn't like you or maybe just maybe she's tired of men coming up and hitting on her with bs weather lead in's. Would it really be so painful to go into it genuinely interested in the girl? Like how she's actually doing. If she's sitting there by herself maybe instead of some corny pick up line you guys should ask them if they're okay and try to start up a real conversation. But if you're not genuinely interested in her then that conversation will almost certainly fail. Instead of treating it like a game or a conquest how about you treat her like a human and a friend (or at least a potential friend) first. If you're lucky enough to gain the respect of the woman you really like then great, more power to you but respect is earned, not given and nobody wins just by showing up and being cute......at least not in this particular scenario. If all you're after is some fun then there are plenty of women out there who feel the same so go play that game instead.


Please stop xD

Because how I can end this argument would probably make every female on this forum angry and want to crucify me xD

Aka a subject on Female pride.

I'm not saying anymore on that xD

On the other hand, who in the hell using pickup lines anymore?
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Hmm, probably just basic psychology? They want what they don't have, but once they have an opportunity to have it, they don't want it.

It goes in line with what someone said, sometimes they just don't know what they want. It happens less with men because men are usually the ones asking out, since the act of asking out does require a bit more resolve then just saying, " ohh I'm so lonely, I don't want to be single anymore."


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Please stop xD

Because how I can end this argument would probably make every female on this forum angry and want to crucify me xD

Aka a subject on Female pride.

I'm not saying anymore on that xD

On the other hand, who in the hell using pickup lines anymore?


DO IT ! If it's the truth then the ones that are worth talking with probably won't be mad for all that long tbh.
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KnightOfZero1991 wrote:

Hmm, probably just basic psychology? They want what they don't have, but once they have an opportunity to have it, they don't want it.

It goes in line with what someone said, sometimes they just don't know what they want. It happens less with men because men are usually the ones asking out, since the act of asking out does require a bit more resolve then just saying, " ohh I'm so lonely, I don't want to be single anymore."


AzuroHeart wrote:

Please stop xD

Because how I can end this argument would probably make every female on this forum angry and want to crucify me xD

Aka a subject on Female pride.

I'm not saying anymore on that xD

On the other hand, who in the hell using pickup lines anymore?


DO IT ! If it's the truth then the ones that are worth talking with probably won't be mad for all that long tbh.


No! or atleast not now xD

Read more if you want to know but not full explanation, not NOT FOR THE FAINT OF HEART

Then Again how about I send you an Email of the explanation and you post it, let them crucify you xD



Im not saying anymore! xD
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AzuroHeart wrote:

I was thinking, why is it that there are girls that are upset and ponder why they are single or want affection that they are not getting, but then when a boy or someone hits on them, or shows interest, they get uncomfortable, and usually turn him down, and then go back to moping.

Why does that happen? o.o



Long story short: she does not consider you attractive and as a result you are considered the "wrong" type of affection.

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AzuroHeart wrote: I was thinking, why is it that there are girls that are upset and ponder why they are single or want affection that they are not getting, but then when a boy or someone hits on them, or shows interest, they get uncomfortable, and usually turn him down, and then go back to moping.

Why does that happen? o.o

ItaHime wrote:
Really nailed that one.

But there are also girls (same with guys) who want people waaaaaaay out of their league.
yeah.. yeah.. just don't think that boys could be the same...
even though I do see more women denying it until "proven" worthy in some sense.. ;_; even though it maybe not for the "right" reasons
also there is many things you could say in a depressed state and it also seems like you didn't play the game good enough.. even though that could be a good/bad thing depends on how it goes.
+ what league?.... out of their league some of that is just BS while its true some couldn't handle some but its not allways because of this cind of teens "league" we are talking about then.


PrinceJudar wrote: While loneliness often correlates with desperation and a lack of standard they are not congruent. It's healthy to have some standard, but often women set the bar too high in the present day.

Yes, or atleast to think of what they would be happy with (sexual, treatment, emotions/handle eachother and more?)
when they could maybe seek a more higher "quality" guy but when they either got it or not they where not that kind of guy (that could do either of the above^ or didn't have time for it etc) I guess you could say some of its floating away from eachother could be work related or other things.
But in some aspects I do get annoyed how some of them deal with their own sexuality, and at some point to go away all this above and choose a girl that knows her sexual desires etc.

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AzuroHeart wrote:



Im not saying anymore! xD


Psychology, biology, neurosciences, endocrinology, molecular genetics, behavioral genetics, epigenetics, primatology, sociology...?

There are sex differences but they're pretty small--although observable to those influenced by them more, often unaware. The degree is effected by environment and chance.

Can't understand the first paragraph though, the English is a bit fuzzy.

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Well guess I'll just say it since nobody else will.

Woman in today's time are overly picky and have absolutely no idea what they want in a guy.
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OP is generalising and combining two polar opposite scenarios.
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Women usually know what they want upon meeting a guy during the first impression. They usually know immediately if you will make it past the “friend zone”, make it to third base or if you will ever have a relationship with them. Understanding the signs a women does will lead you to success or allow you to move on and not waste time wishfully dreaming of false hope. I could elaborate on the signs if anyone is interested.

There are three things in my country that gives you instantly a higher probability of success. Some may not attract the right type of women but they work.

1. Money. If you have money great, if not, i've seen that dressing really well gets a woman's attention. You figure that some women get hit on constantly, so standing out from the 1000's of other guys who have approached her. If she compliments you on your outfit, you can spark a conversation and go from there. Of course money, exotic cars, etc will give instant results. Here are some random youtube examples. There are so many videos like this I just randomly picked three.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8yIopGkIsME
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DiaP8H-B3eY
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQ7bFQVAZjY


2. A fit muscular body. This is self explanatory. Get buff and you'll have a better chance to get women.

3. Be a good talker, listener and make her laugh. If you aren't rich or a body builder learn how to causally get into a conversation with women. I was in a book store once and a female was looking at a Sun Tzu book, I walked by and said that is a amazing book. She smiled we chatted for 3 hours about books. She dropped her phone number in my hands and said call me sometime. Starting a conversation cleverly instead some pickup line will give you more success.

Women are indeed picky, especially the hot, cute, pretty ones that get hit on a lot. You would be surprised how many really beautiful women that are alone because guys are intimated by them. Some have nasty attitudes, those are the ones you avoid. In my younger years I didn't have much to work with. I was shy, broke and didn't have a muscular body. What helped me was confidence. I would get watery eyes at rejection, and I seen a whole lot of rejection. I stopped caring if I failed, I analyzed and interpreted my mistakes. Any woman that I found attractive I forced myself to speak and kept myself from letting the conversation slip into that awkward silence. I dressed better, kept myself groomed well. Eventually I started being surprised by the results. By the time my career started in full momentum the mini harem started. Women suddenly wanted to hang out, got jealous when they noticed others noticing me. Had a few stalk me. You also have to be careful, some women will trap you if they really want you. “The crazy ones.”

Success, and intelligence also gets you noticed especially when you get older.

There is a study that showed that women are more attracted to the James Bond type of guy. Or the bad boy. But the thing that many guys don't know is that you don't have to be like Bond, or be a bad boy. What Bond has and what bad boys show or “pretend” to show is confidence.
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Because she's not that into you.






bahahahaha yes I agree with you both
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