Post Reply The amount of time for friends.
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Posted 3/3/16
A thought occurs.
Would someone that prefers to have many friends rather than a few be more interested in a less personal experience from not spending as much time with each?
And by contrast would someone more comfortable with a few be the type to show more interest in their friends?

Or are they in conflict with what they want and the former has not enough time, the latter never enough friends?

If you had more free time would you spend more of it with your friends?
and if you had more friends would you feel like you were losing contact with them?

What if some of them were spiders?
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dont ignore your friends! cmon your on this websiite so surely you seen some heart breaking anime... cherish your friends and family dude.. when they die you will be devastated... thats no joke...
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stigler wrote:

dont ignore your friends! cmon your on this websiite so surely you seen some heart breaking anime... cherish your friends and family dude.. when they die you will be devastated... thats no joke...


I don't know if that answers my questions.

I'm curious if having more friends has something to do with being selfish with time.
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We all become alone someday... no matter what... cherish what you got... Don't think what you have but what you will miss...
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Time is set.. we all have a set time.. it can end in an instant... the more friends you have ... well to me that means the better life you had... I hope everyone has the max amount of friends they can have and the fondest memories...
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You'll be lucky to keep 1-3 true friends for life. The rest will either be people you know pretty well or fade at some point or another. It's better and more practical to keep a smaller group of people you're close to. People treat "friends" these days as all their buddies on social media and the like but in reality you will only be close with a handful of people. I have 2 people I would label as friends that I make time for. 1 of which grew up with me in Boston and the other someone I first met through a gaming community. I don't have a lot of free time (even on the weekends sometimes) because of my job but I try to make sure I keep the relationship strong between us and make time for them.

I'm not a people person in the least and I have no regard for human life in general, but even I know there is value in having friends. Spend your time wisely. Selfishness is completely fine in this matter.
Posted 3/3/16 , edited 3/3/16
I think it's better to be comfortable with a few AFTER you meet many people. Because who should that few best friends be? Should be the people who understand you most. It shouldn't always be the people you grow up with or went to school with in my opinion.

I see too many social groups only chill with the people they knew for years/ who they live with/ who they studied with. To me this is like putting yourself in a box


stigler wrote:

dont ignore your friends! cmon your on this websiite so surely you seen some heart breaking anime... cherish your friends and family dude.. when they die you will be devastated... thats no joke...

I have ignored all friends not because of them, but because of my own issues. Anyway, I think it's also important that people learn to be alone in this world. If you are to depend on friends all the time, how will you be able to cope when/if they're not around anymore?
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Here's the thing. You need to see your friends once in a while. I got a buddy in university who still lives close and I will see him every so often, like once a month just to catch up and shoot the shit( yea that's the Canadian in me, I know) but other than that it's not like the old days where it would be like 2-3 times a week.

What I'm saying is that if I did have more friends I would be obligated to at least do something once a week if I know them well enough. However, there is now this wall I have put up in order to get things done, so whenever I get the chance to see friends out of the house it all depends if I am not focused on my goals and dream. Friends online are rather easy to manage in my situation, so whatever I get I take, and I will eventually offer to the conversation. I'm not taking away from my goals other than the distraction, and I can reply when the time is convenient for me, as long as the feeling is mutual I think it is a fine way of keeping and finding a friendship.
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You can't generalize friends by the amount of time you spend with them, its all about quality time you spend. No one is guaranteed to be your friend just because you're always there or around them. And of course what you define as a friend is never the same for everyone.

If the other person is a spider hang out on the world wide web.
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