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Post Reply What do you do when someone like you but it's not mutual?
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Posted 3/3/16 , edited 3/3/16
I'm not going to say what i do but When you post can you give a example of what happened what you did and what was the outcome of the whole thing.

(Yes i'm aware that the typo in the title makes it seem like English is not my first language lol)
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I do nothing.
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I ignore them
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23 / M / Ohio
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Posted 3/3/16
Be more specific. There are ma y different cases were feelings aren't mutual and each situation should be handled differently.

For instance, is it a stranger who finds you attractive, but who you don't like? Is it a friend who wants something more from you but you don't want more from them? Is it a dead marriage where the fire is gone and you want to break up but the other person doesn't?

I'm case one it's easy to just never talk to them again, but what are you gonna do in the other two cases... You see my point?
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Posted 3/3/16
Tell the truth. Gently and plainly. A person of quality will eventually appreciate it and harbor no ill will.
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Unless they approach me about it or confess I carry on like usual. Now if they do either of those things I just tell them no flat out when they're done with their spill. I have zero interest in romance, much less being capable of that sort of thing. The only time it gets annoying is when they want to know why I say no. It's irrelevant.

There's a younger woman who works in the same building as me currently that I can tell is into me. I don't think she realizes I'm as old as I am lol. I can only hope she doesn't bother me about this sort of thing.
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If I know someone likes me I don't avoid them or don't ignore them. I just still be nice to them whether they are a coworker or just a friends I act normally to them.
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Posted 3/3/16 , edited 3/3/16
You tell them exactly that lol.

The feeling isn't mutual.

It's like when she sees you more like a lamp, something she can turn on and off at will but having no real attachment other than the function it provides.

It shouldn't be such a hard question to answer. If you have a lot of guilt, then it will be hard because you feel bad saying no to people, but that is simply a weak point in some people, I myself have it and it is hard to work around trying to be so direct and upfront with someone with what you feel, and not always siding with someone else's feelings just for the reason of not hurting them. It's a double edge sword of emotions that me and a lot of others deal with, but it's easier to say flat out, it just won't work out sweety.
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Posted 3/3/16 , edited 3/3/16
I tell them I dont like them, cause im not an asshole who gives someone false hope.
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I supposed I'd reflect upon my feelings for the person in question for moment before really coming to a judgment. Do I truly feel nothing at all for the person who is confessing or in the act of confessing. If after contemplation the answer is yes then I will tell them that although I am flattered that while I could likely act well enough to look like I am returning their feelings, it's be just that an act. Maybe's it's just the romantic in me but I wouldn't want to hurt anyone too badly in the process of shooting them down.
Posted 3/3/16
BlueOni doesn't like me.
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Posted 3/3/16 , edited 3/3/16

PeripheralVisionary wrote:

BlueOni doesn't like me.


No one likes ya PV save for a very small amount of deranged girls whom have yet to be old enough to vote.
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Posted 3/3/16
You should definitely tell them. I was on the other end of a situation like this very recently (very recently being last week)
It ended up being a shitty situation for the both of us, we still thought we could be friends but I couldn't stop letting my feelings get in the way.
She wasn't willing to cut me off (she was he type to talk to a lot of guys but never do anything with them because she loved the attention of 100 dudes trying to court her) so I had to cut myself off from her. Granted it took me a few times (I relapsed pretty easily) but I was finally able to do it for good, for the sake of both of us.

Best thing you can do is tell him or her to leave you alone completely before shit gets hectic. it'll be hard at first but you feel better once you realize it was the right decision
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Posted 3/3/16 , edited 3/4/16
If they confess and it's not mutual, draw a line. Tell them you're not interested or ready or whatever reason you feel appropriate. If that person doesn't back down, you gotta be a lot tougher with your rejection. If they are persistent, by all means, cuss them out.

If that doesn't work out, it's unfortunate but you might have to resort to violence.

Crap advice, I know. But it should be normal for them to quit at the third stage.
Any more than that, it's a stalker.
Posted 3/3/16
no big deal just move on life is a journey
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