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Posted 3/5/16

Jan- wrote:


Kira0309 wrote:

If they are a friend I try to be upfront that I just want to be friends. If they are not a close friend I just ignore them and give them the *fk off* glare


oooh the deadly *fk off* glare!And its super effective.

As for me,i don't often have the pleasure of being someones object of admiration.But if i don't like her...i'll tell it kindly.


Ya it seems to work most of the time xD

Also I love your avatar!
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I don't know the feeling

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Em0SceneStabr wrote:

I'm not going to say what i do but When you post can you give a example of what happened what you did and what was the outcome of the whole thing.

(Yes i'm aware that the typo in the title makes it seem like English is not my first language lol)


Eventually give into my feelings and share them, get rejected and move on such is the cycle of life.
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Ya it seems to work most of the time xD

Also I love your avatar!

Sadly i can't glare like that no matter how hard i try.>.<

Ah thank you,i ran across this photo by accident while roaming around internets.And i also like your avatar,charming and oddly calming.
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Keep them in your dungeon...or just move on you know like a normal person.
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You do nothing.
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Honestly, I'm rather blunt about it. I've had a few friends fall for me and I had to tell 'em I wasn't interested but I wouldn't mind continuing being their friend. If they continued acting odd, clingy or forceful I just end up deleting them from social media and telling 'em to bug off or try my best to avoid them in social gatherings
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Depends on my relationship with that person. If we're friends I would try to let them down gently. After that I let them steer the relationship- we can either remain friends or they can distance themselves. Whatever decision they make I'll try to understand. If they're strangers I'll reject and ignore.
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24 / F / Johnstown, PA, USA
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Ignore unless approached, wherupon I don't hesitate to thoroughly turn them down.
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eclair-lumiere wrote:




You'd be surprised, what we think about ourselves isn't how others see us. Someone may be closer than you realise.



Since everyone has left... and someone was even cruel enough to make me think they had killed themselves and implied it was my fault, when actually they were okay the whole time... I'm guessing no they really don't like me.

You can't help how others feel about you. It's their deal. And to do what that person did it feels like it's their mental issue, about power.
Again their hurting you and making you feel guilty about it was their way of claiming power for whatever screwed up reason they have.
They are poisonous people and you're better off without them.
I can't stress how much councelling from a professional, even if it's only 1 session can help you stop those tangled/feed back thoughts we go through in times of stress. I don't know if you are in college who can refer you to see someone , or even your GP.

Let me know how you go.
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Tbh it depends on the person but usually I'd move along and if they dont seem to get the message that i just dont like them i'll avoid them, if they approach me i'll reject the person.
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Be honest. If you like them as a friend but a friend only then tell them that. No point ruining a friendship. If they don't like it then that's on them. Honesty is the best policy and ignoring your problems is no way to grow or solve them.
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It depends on the situation and the severity. If a female has a small crush on me which isn't mutual. Eventually that crush usually expires and they find a boyfriend and forget about me. If it is a big crush which isn't mutual it is usually the same. I nicely say that I am happier being friends and they either accept it or they vanish and find someone else.

I've had a few stalkers and those types I have a different strategy for. I usually know at this point what their likes and dislikes are. For example, a crazy Christian girl had a crush on me. I continuously told her that I wanted to be friends. But that made her crazier. She spammed my phone nonstop even when I was at work, and got upset if I didn't respond fast enough. I got at least 50-100 text a day from her. I didn't want to hurt her feelings, so I cleverly turned the situation in which she felt good about herself leaving out of my life. Her major dislike were guys who weren't Christian.

One day I randomly announced to her that I was Buddhist. She text me saying that she no longer likes me and that she found someone else. She explained to me that it was my loss and that I was going to hell, and told me to never speak to her again because she found a new guy. She told me I would never find another good woman like her, and that she wished me the best. I was finally at peace and mission complete.

I found out months later that the next guy actually slept with her after they agreed to just be "friends". She hid in the bushes when he got home, and peeked in his windows to see if he had any other females around. She stalked his social media sites, threatened to call his job saying that he raped her.

I also had another stalker that I decided to just ignore. She spammed my phone, and email nonstop. She told everyone at my old job that I was gay because I declined to sleep with her.
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VividDreamZ wrote:

It depends on the situation and the severity. If a female has a small crush on me which isn't mutual. Eventually that crush usually expires and they find a boyfriend and forget about me. If it is a big crush which isn't mutual it is usually the same. I nicely say that I am happier being friends and they either accept it or they vanish and find someone else.

I've had a few stalkers and those types I have a different strategy for. I usually know at this point what their likes and dislikes are. For example, a crazy Christian girl had a crush on me. I continuously told her that I wanted to be friends. But that made her crazier. She spammed my phone nonstop even when I was at work, and got upset if I didn't respond fast enough. I got at least 50-100 text a day from her. I didn't want to hurt her feelings, so I cleverly turned the situation in which she felt good about herself leaving out of my life. Her major dislike were guys who weren't Christian.

One day I randomly announced to her that I was Buddhist. She text me saying that she no longer likes me and that she found someone else. She explained to me that it was my loss and that I was going to hell, and told me to never speak to her again because she found a new guy. She told me I would never find another good woman like her, and that she wished me the best. I was finally at peace and mission complete.

I found out months later that the next guy actually slept with her after they agreed to just be "friends". She hid in the bushes when he got home, and peeked in his windows to see if he had any other females around. She stalked his social media sites, threatened to call his job saying that he raped her.

I also had another stalker that I decided to just ignore. She spammed my phone, and email nonstop. She told everyone at my old job I was gay because I declined to sleep with her.


You're like the male version of me
And that girl sounds like she thinks that she's "too blessed to be possessed"
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1stladyent wrote:


VividDreamZ wrote:

It depends on the situation and the severity. If a female has a small crush on me which isn't mutual. Eventually that crush usually expires and they find a boyfriend and forget about me. If it is a big crush which isn't mutual it is usually the same. I nicely say that I am happier being friends and they either accept it or they vanish and find someone else.

I've had a few stalkers and those types I have a different strategy for. I usually know at this point what their likes and dislikes are. For example, a crazy Christian girl had a crush on me. I continuously told her that I wanted to be friends. But that made her crazier. She spammed my phone nonstop even when I was at work, and got upset if I didn't respond fast enough. I got at least 50-100 text a day from her. I didn't want to hurt her feelings, so I cleverly turned the situation in which she felt good about herself leaving out of my life. Her major dislike were guys who weren't Christian.

One day I randomly announced to her that I was Buddhist. She text me saying that she no longer likes me and that she found someone else. She explained to me that it was my loss and that I was going to hell, and told me to never speak to her again because she found a new guy. She told me I would never find another good woman like her, and that she wished me the best. I was finally at peace and mission complete.

I found out months later that the next guy actually slept with her after they agreed to just be "friends". She hid in the bushes when he got home, and peeked in his windows to see if he had any other females around. She stalked his social media sites, threatened to call his job saying that he raped her.

I also had another stalker that I decided to just ignore. She spammed my phone, and email nonstop. She told everyone at my old job I was gay because I declined to sleep with her.


You're like the male version of me
And that girl sounds like she thinks that she's "too blessed to be possessed"

Hey twin!

Indeed! She would send me scriptures all the time and once suggested that I return money to a casino that I won playing Blackjack. The money was supposedly evil. So I got spammed about the sins of gambling. Later that month she told me about going to a Halloween party dressed up as a cat girl. She sent me pictures from the party and you could clearly see in her eyes that she was wasted.
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