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LMAO!
Oh god. I could have swore they're not allowed to drink or celebrate Halloween
And who in the hell returns casino money?

I knew a guy like that, I told him off with a "the devil is alive!! HISSSS"
And I can't stand when they send texts about finding a church to go to or go read the bible
I usually back sass them with something they find blasphemous. It works nearly every time
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I'm not going to say what i do but When you post can you give a example of what happened what you did and what was the outcome of the whole thing.

(Yes i'm aware that the typo in the title makes it seem like English is not my first language lol)


1. Confess your love. Get denied.
2. Ready the steel cage. Imprison them.
3. Introduce them to the joys of flagellation.
4. Feed them, give them water, bathe them, and clean their stinkies.
5. Introduce them to randy the happy hobo. Get denied.
6. Explore flagellation even further.
7. Eventually, they come around and start to like it. Start denying them the whip until they find randy appealing.
8. ????
9. Profit
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I pretty much suck at handling those kinds of situations.

If it's a friend that likes me, but I don't feel the same, I take them aside and talk it out with them. I let them know upfront while stating that hurting their feelings isn't my intention.

If it's an acquaintance/stranger I tend to be more shy and awkward about it. Often I don't want to be rude or hurtful to someone I barely know and so I tend to dodge and shrug off their advances whilst trying to let them know I don't return their feelings.
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Usually you can tell right away when someone likes you. Then it gets very awkward, but you still try and talk to them. Granted I act like a fool when I like someone, but when someone else does. Then its a whole different story.

This one time I heard that this younger classmate liked me on the bus. And my heart felt like it got squeezed to death. So what I did was talk his ear off until he got annoyed with me. Not sure if that worked. But pretty soon he'd get mad if I was looking in his general direction even if it wasn't at him. Poor kid.

A question that someone asked me was "why I didn't like him?" or "why I don't date." And my reply was that you just can't like someone because they like you or go out with them. IF you look good together. Then that's it. There's no meaning.
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You can't help how others feel about you. It's their deal. And to do what that person did it feels like it's their mental issue, about power.
Again their hurting you and making you feel guilty about it was their way of claiming power for whatever screwed up reason they have.
They are poisonous people and you're better off without them.
I can't stress how much councelling from a professional, even if it's only 1 session can help you stop those tangled/feed back thoughts we go through in times of stress. I don't know if you are in college who can refer you to see someone , or even your GP.

Let me know how you go.


I am aware that they have a few issues of their own. They have a turbulent relationship with one of their parents but for some reason they seem to blame me for everything that goes wrong, even if I wasn't even there. Maybe they did it just to try and show off the fact they still have power over me... I don't know. But that's one of the cruelest and most manipulative things anyone has ever done to me.

Yeah, I've thought about have counselling actually. I suffer from a great deal of depression. Not sure if my GP would be that helpful though. It's always the "invisible illnesses" that get ignored.
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I ignored 'em

In hindsight that wasn't very nice of me LOL
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You can't help how others feel about you. It's their deal. And to do what that person did it feels like it's their mental issue, about power.
Again their hurting you and making you feel guilty about it was their way of claiming power for whatever screwed up reason they have.
They are poisonous people and you're better off without them.
I can't stress how much councelling from a professional, even if it's only 1 session can help you stop those tangled/feed back thoughts we go through in times of stress. I don't know if you are in college who can refer you to see someone , or even your GP.

Let me know how you go.


I am aware that they have a few issues of their own. They have a turbulent relationship with one of their parents but for some reason they seem to blame me for everything that goes wrong, even if I wasn't even there. Maybe they did it just to try and show off the fact they still have power over me... I don't know. But that's one of the cruelest and most manipulative things anyone has ever done to me.

Yeah, I've thought about have counselling actually. I suffer from a great deal of depression. Not sure if my GP would be that helpful though. It's always the "invisible illnesses" that get ignored.

I'm glad you now see the cruelty inflicted on you unfairly by that person was part of their issues but the pain you feel is still valid. That's how you rightly feel. Either distance them or be blunt with your own concerns.

Your GP may know of some government benefit that may help in finding you a coundellor you're comfortable with. They are like shoes and all don't fit comfortably. Or just make an appointment for a single session at your local health clinic? Different countries, different setups.
I battle depression and it was only a few years ago that I realised that how I thought wasn't 'healthy' and took the first step. It's ok to think of yourself first otherwise you can't begin to make the life you need.

Hey, I ain't no doctor but you might want to get someone to look at that brain for ya
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I'm glad you now see the cruelty inflicted on you unfairly by that person was part of their issues but the pain you feel is still valid. That's how you rightly feel. Either distance them or be blunt with your own concerns.

Your GP may know of some government benefit that may help in finding you a coundellor you're comfortable with. They are like shoes and all don't fit comfortably. Or just make an appointment for a single session at your local health clinic? Different countries, different setups.
I battle depression and it was only a few years ago that I realised that how I thought wasn't 'healthy' and took the first step. It's ok to think of yourself first otherwise you can't begin to make the life you need.

Hey, I ain't no doctor but you might want to get someone to look at that brain for ya


Yeah, I was upset at first and though I must have done something to deserve it. But I realise now that's just a ridiculously cruel thing to do. I'm going to distance myself from them now.

I think I'll talk to my GP about finding someone. Maybe it will make me feel a lot better
Posted 3/6/16
When a girl confessed to me in high school, I did my best to politely turn her down. I just told her I really didn't feel that way about her. She seemed to understand, but I don't know how she took it once she was alone.
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Turn them down clearly but gently. NEVER play mind games or use their own emotions against them; They are not toys for your own personal gratification.
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I'm a honest person and I would tell them I don't like them like that.

A situation came up that like and it was my friend who somewhat confessed (he used riddles). I told him I didn't have feeling for him and he knew I liked someone else. Sadly we didn't keep talking to each other cause down the road I gave dating a shot with my friend. I just couldn't love him like he wanted me to so our relationship just ended there.

There was also another friend who confessed to me but I didn't know she was confessing so I brutally turned her down without realizing it. Later she asked again if I would go out with her but that time I gently turned her down and she kissed me and ran off.
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Em0SceneStabr wrote:

I'm not going to say what i do but When you post can you give a example of what happened what you did and what was the outcome of the whole thing.

(Yes i'm aware that the typo in the title makes it seem like English is not my first language lol)


You are not required to reciprocate feelings for another person if you don't feel the same way. If they confess to you, you can at least have the respect to let them know you don't feel the same way. But you are not obligated to do anything.

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eclair-lumiere wrote:




I'm glad you now see the cruelty inflicted on you unfairly by that person was part of their issues but the pain you feel is still valid. That's how you rightly feel. Either distance them or be blunt with your own concerns.

Your GP may know of some government benefit that may help in finding you a coundellor you're comfortable with. They are like shoes and all don't fit comfortably. Or just make an appointment for a single session at your local health clinic? Different countries, different setups.
I battle depression and it was only a few years ago that I realised that how I thought wasn't 'healthy' and took the first step. It's ok to think of yourself first otherwise you can't begin to make the life you need.

Hey, I ain't no doctor but you might want to get someone to look at that brain for ya


Yeah, I was upset at first and though I must have done something to deserve it. But I realise now that's just a ridiculously cruel thing to do. I'm going to distance myself from them now.

I think I'll talk to my GP about finding someone. Maybe it will make me feel a lot better

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I would tell them nothing will likely come of it. what they wish to do afterwards is their own decision. To ignore their feelings not only doesn't solve the problem, but just makes you look like an asshole, or spineless, whichever you prefer.
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Having been on both ends if this, i.e. had some like me but me not and vica versa, it can be complicated. When it comes down to it you can politley tell someone your not intrested, but as this often means maitaining a friendship with the one who is crushing they will always have hope of the two of you being together.

In the case of when a girl was intrested in me and I wasn't I told her, but she still had that crush for years until a couple of months ago. Her friend asked me if there was ever a chance of the two of us getting together and I said, compltely outright, no! Since then she has got a boyfriend, which is good.

In the case when I was crushing it was really difficult at the time as we remained good friends and people often thought we were dating! But she always declined my advances and then we went to different univeristies but remained friends. Since then she has got engaged and I have been through a relationship. Although those feelings are defintley not there anymore we are still great frineds and other meet up with the other people we use to hang out with.

So both these situations have a happy ending but it does not always go that way sadly, but that's life. You may find that others or even yourself will not deal with rejection well and that happens. Things will move on eventually however and there are plenty more akward or embarassing things that can happen!
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It depends on how persistent they are, and how long it takes my wife to notice.

Last few times I never got the chance to do anything. My wife noticed first.
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