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Posted 3/9/16
Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
Thanks a bunches.


So, tell when do you realize that you had to stop caring about what other people think about you? What sparked the change?

Bonus Questions:

1) What do you think about the people who care about what others think about them?

2) How does it feel no longer caring about what other people think?
Posted 3/9/16 , edited 3/9/16
I don't think I ever did care about what ppl think...
never had an overwhelming desire to fit in... I think people who change themselves are more extroverted people who seek companies of others.
it's not really like that for me... if I really needed people's company, of course I would do anything to be a part of it, but I don't have that desire. so I have more freedom to be myself...
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GayAsianBoy wrote:

I don't think I ever did care about what ppl think...
never had an overwhelming desire to fit in... I think people who change themselves are more extroverted people who seek companies of others.
it's not really like that for me... if I really needed people's company, of course I would do anything to be a part of it, but I don't have that desire. so I have more freedom to be myself...


Wish I was like that.
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I stopped caring when I decided to wear crocs in public.
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A very long time ago. Never really had the desire to fit in despite being disabled.

1. Hey, if they want to put that stress on themselves, it's not my place to say otherwise.

2. It's freedom from that sort of stress.
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Last year, and I am so much happier now.

I mean sometimes I get self-conscious but I have learned to quickly get over it.
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HuastecoOtaku wrote:

I stopped caring when I decided to wear crocs in public.


Just like that.
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I'll never stop caring about what you think, friends.
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qualeshia3 wrote:


HuastecoOtaku wrote:

I stopped caring when I decided to wear crocs in public.


Just like that.


Yup
They're ugly as hell but very comfortable.

After that I decided not to give a damn
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Probably high school, it's difficult because I've always been shy and awkward.

Yet, I don't let those tendencies interfere with what I enjoy doing. I've hit plenty of rough patches when people's opinions really hit home but I never let them affect my outlook on life. You can only do what you can right now, and continue onward.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Wish I was like that.


grass is greener on the other side
it's a lonely life if u have this mentality...
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HuastecoOtaku wrote:

I stopped caring when I decided to wear crocs in public.


You unfeeling bastard
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
Thanks a bunches.


So, tell when do you realize that you had to stop caring about what other people think about you? What sparked the change?

Bonus Questions:

1) What do you think about the people who care about what others think about them?

2) How does it feel no longer caring about what other people think?


I stopped caring in 12th grade, when I was 17-18 years old. That's when it started. From there it only intensified. I may have had a few flubs here and there when I developed a crush on a guy because I wanted to be more desirable. Essentially the change was sparked because I decided that it was too much work to try to be someone I really wasn't to gain the acceptance of people who may not like me for me. I consider myself a good person, good morals, and I'm loyal. I'm a good friend to have.

I also noticed that withholding my feelings, or how I wanted to be myself, due to fear of being judged or fear of them thinking this or that about me made me feel anxious. I wasn't happy. Once I let myself just be me, I felt a lot better. :)

1) I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with them. I think that they still have some soul searching within themselves to do and they need to find themselves. They need to find happiness within themselves about themselves. It's okay to strive to be more than what you are, or to build off of your own character to improve yourself, but to do it for others? Naw, man.

2) I don't think about it. Thinking about it now for the first time in years? It feels pretty good not to give a shit what people think about me -- and it feels even better to know my friends accept me for me.
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I was extremely bad for this for a period in my life. Like really really badly and it took me a while to snap out of it.
I cant remember exactly when or how or why it all started but i used to worry alot. But i was shy and nervous and i guess at times paranoid.
It effect me so badly that sometimes i would go along with something that i did not agree with, do things that i didn't really want to, go places i didn't really want to, and things like that.
I mean i never hid liking things that i liked and stuff like that but i even remember turning down girls that wanted to go out with me because of other peoples opinions and comments. Stupid shit like that.

Anyways, i finally snapped out of it when i was 17. It was after i had left highschool.
I think a combination of kissing a girl, winning a fight, being good at things like say video games or playing pool, i got into graffetti and rapping. I was so shy about this at first but then i got really confident about it and i guess getting some praise helped get me out of my shell and to have some self beliefe and confidence.

It was weird. I think with coming out of my shell and growing in confidence made me just not care what other people thought. i was no longer worried or embarrased and the self doubt and fear of what other thought just went away.

I remember when i was in my early teens, one of my mates older sisters boyfriend, we all thought he was so cool. I looked up to him and he used to give me encoruagement and praise. Something that i never got from my old man so maybe that was the beginning of it?
I have no doubt certian experiences made me more confident and yeah.
I guess getting a job and being more responsible and having money and even growing up all make you not care so much.

Funnily enough, i still got into drinking and became a bit relient of alcohol to have that high level of confidence and no fear of what people thought.
Almost as if i had no confidence and worried about what people thought, then i had lots of confidence and did not care, to then ending up somewhere in the middle.
Even when i felt like i did not care i still would use alcohol to build up my confidence to not care or worry about what others may think.

But i guess there is the other form of caring, like i will still worry about what others think as far as being polite and considerate and that. Even though i know that is not what you mean.

I never grew out of caring what people think about certain things though. I dont give a fuck about my reputation as far as being into things like anime and video games but i worry about things like dancing and i have never tried karaoke, even though i used to rap. lol

OOps post much?

EDIT: oh i guess i do worry about my appearance sometimes. (i used to be skinny as but now have put on some weight).
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Last year while taking a math test of all things. I knew i fucked up on the test and was stressed, then I realized none of it or what people thought mattered lol.
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