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Around junior year I started to care less and less what people thought of me. Now I've realized that if someone is going to judge you, then that persons opinion is irrelevant anyways. I don't surround myself with toxic and negative people and I never will. So their opinions mean nothing.
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At about 5ish. IIRC

1. Their prerogative. Life is too short to bother limiting my own experience for others. Of course, I don't want to make anyone else have a less enjoyable time, but I digress.

2. Never cared. Maybe I cared about what my parents thought of me at one time or another. But that quickly faded away.
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When I realized that people will like me regardless of what I do if they want to so just do whatever the fuck I want.
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After i became a otaku and shut-in neet
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I never stop to think about what others said about me....
That just me with regrets....
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Uhhh, probably around 22 or 23 years old. It had already been pretty gradual before that but then some weird switch flipped where I completely stopped giving a fuck what randoms think. Plus, customer service related jobs makes you 10x better at pretending to care while simultaneously making you actually care 10x less.

That doesn't mean I hate all my customers, though.
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Middle school hah. I stopped caring really fast.
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I'd say around 18 years of age.

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qualeshia3 wrote:

Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
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So, tell when do you realize that you had to stop caring about what other people think about you? What sparked the change?

Bonus Questions:

1) What do you think about the people who care about what others think about them?

2) How does it feel no longer caring about what other people think?


In the 4th grade. I can remember sitting there thinking that everyone was so screwed up. That none of them had a clue and couldn't understand why they were all laughing and having fun when they were all dying. I know it sounds weird but I had some issues when I was younger. Depression being a major one and that was the first time I really realized something was wrong. I couldn't understand what was so wrong with everyone else and why they didn't get it. I guess death was/is an issue for me and I kept thinking how each second we're getting closer and closer to it so I couldn't understand why everyone was being so normal and having fun. I really thought that something was wrong with all of them. Turns out it was just me lol. It was around that time that I really stopped caring what others think about me but I didn't do it for all of the good adult reasons that we normally do it for. I did it because they didn't understand and I felt they had no right to ever judge me for anything since they were all so screwed up. Obviously later on in life I'd come to understand these things better and would no longer care what others think about me because the only person who matters what they think of me is me. If I can't love myself then I sure as he## can't expect others to.

1. I think people who care what others think about them are in for a lot of heartache and stress. Obviously we all care to some degree about being accepted. No one wants to feel weird or like an outsider but most of us as time goes on learns that we can't control what other people do or say or don't like. All we can do is control our own actions. Life is just way too short to spend worrying about what others think of you and these people will be better off once they realize it. What you think about yourself is the only thing that's important. As long as you are you and are a good person then others will like you. The ones who don't aren't worth bothering with.

2. It feels great. So much less stress. Every time I start to worry about what someone else thinks of me I squash that particular thought immediately. It doesn't matter. As long as I'm just being myself and doing my best then that's all I can ask for. I can't expect everyone to like me so I don't try. I just try to be me.
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Posted 3/25/16

PrinceJudar wrote:

I'd say around 18 years of age.



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I don't think that something that happens suddenly. It's a gradual process. When I was a young child I began to get some awareness that you just can't please everyone. I just worried over what close family thought then eventually let that go too since there is a limit when it's gone too far. That reminds me of a time with my older sister. She smokes. She was outside of her house smoking when she began to panic that mother was coming soon and mother might notice. I just looked at her and said, "Woman, you're grown with children living in your own home, relax". Personally I detest smoking and sis would not be allowed to smoke in my home. I don't stand near her or be enclosed in any room when she does it either but that choice is her choice to make. She picked up the habit to begin with because all her friends were doing it.
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I learned to not care what others said back in elementary school. Designer clothes had suddenly become a big deal, I don't remember why suddenly everyone cared what label you had on the back pocket of your jeans but when everyone started making fun of me because my mother made my clothes so they didn't have labels, I stopped caring pretty quickly. I knew how much effort mom put into making those clothes to get just the right material and fit, etc. Who gives a hoot if your daddy can afford a shirt with a little alligator on it? I'd rather have the Dead Croc-o-shirt than be a Lacoste preppy clone.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Croc_O'_Shirt
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Ah, those glorious 14-21 years when you think the rest of the world is wrong and you can invent your own rules.

When you grow up, it's ALL about what people think:
Job performance. Power wardrobes. Professional demeanor. Letting your significant other still think you care. Setting a good example for your kids. Being taken seriously when you want to express an opinion...Which means spelling and grammar.

Enjoy it now, kiddie-winkles, because the big Your-Parents years are coming.


TheOriginalStraynge wrote:
In the 4th grade. I can remember sitting there thinking that everyone was so screwed up. That none of them had a clue and couldn't understand why they were all laughing and having fun when they were all dying. I know it sounds weird but I had some issues when I was younger. Depression being a major one and that was the first time I really realized something was wrong.


I had something similar, but I wasn't as messed up:
As a character in one of my books later put it, "The way I grew up, I never really learned how to act like an idiot...Kinda jealous, I don't know how everybody does it so easily."

Me, OTOH, all I had in my social circle was getting the grades up (to me, back then, a job, and more to the point, long-term money, was the point of existence, and no pop-trend could trump it) so I didn't buy into the "C'mon, man, let's blow off this class and do something self-indulgent to make ourselves feel cool" mantra, and lived my entire high school years with crippling ANTI-Peer Pressure:
"If I ever do anything like the other students I see around me, please shoot me immediately for my own good. "
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Posted 3/25/16
When I was still a preteen, peer pressure is bullS^%$. Never
do something you wouldn't think of doing on your own.
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Posted 3/25/16
When my Dad died I realized it doesn't matter at all what others think.

1) I find it kind of sad to be honest, especially when it comes to kids. Peer pressure sucks worse than anything.
2) Much lighter on my soul.
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