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Post Reply (Weird AF thread) What are you supposed to do with a dirty kid?
Posted 3/24/16
2 cents: it should be made more a priority to explain expected boundaries of what is acceptable behavior and moreover not appropriate to be performing in the presence of others, before they are the normal age for sexual relations with their peers, than to seem to punish otherwise normal sexual activity in puberty. Its also important that they understand how and why their actions are inappropriate to the situation and can be misconstrued as inconsiderate to other people, as it likely may make others notably uncomfortable, and that they understand its a private matter to be practiced privately, and that doing so isn't wrong. It might be also better to intervene at the earliest instance its apparent in the formative years than later down the road and as the child ages that its become more of a habitual pattern of exhibitionism or something. The approach and attitude of the adult as a benevolent authority figure is perhaps paramount to establish rapport with child, that they be is made aware that context is what makes it inappropriate and they aren't being punished for masturbation per se but openly doing it in front of others.
Posted 3/24/16
From my understanding this is something kids tend to do. I don't necessarily know about it being at that age since I hear it's younger though... Either way I wouldn't even say anything to the kid themselves since you don't want to say something that the parents disagree with. Just ignore it while it is happening but let the parents know, every single time it happens, that it is something they should deal with. If they try and it keeps happening or they ignore it and it keeps happening and it makes you uncomfortable then just tell them you can no longer babysit their child.
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Posted 3/24/16
If you're sure they self exploring then I'd tell them to take their hands out. (I've said this a few times already to children). You also have to explain appropriate behaviour and that that sort of thing is for a private time on their own. Parents need to be informed too. Be aware that for some children there's a possibility this is learnt behaviour from an adult behaving inappropriately in front of a child or with a child.

It's also possible that they aren't doing what you think they are doing. I recall a babysitter hitting me because I fell asleep all curled up and my hands ended up resting at my groin. Her words were "nasty little girl!", being 7, I couldn't understand why she was behaving that way. I was just sleeping. My other siblings all slept like that at some point or the other too. I have a friend who went to private boarding school where they made the children sleep with their hands tied above the sheets because they didn't want them to get evil urges. The hands would get chilly uncovered.
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And what you didn't know for certain and both where girls that one time?

mdmrn wrote:
1 - Send the kid to their room, explain they shouldn't do that around people.
2 - Talk to the parents. This second one is vital, period. As a parent myself, if my kid was doing anything inappropriate, I'd want to know so I can talk to them personally about it, understand why they did what they did, etc. The parents SHOULD be involved in this discussion. If there's an issue there with bad parents, then use your discretion - but most, normal parents will want to know. It may be hard for them to handle it, but - tough noogies, being a parent is hard & your stuck dealing with such things.

But, that's just my 2¢

tkayt wrote:
If you're sure they self exploring then I'd tell them to take their hands out. (I've said this a few times already to children). You also have to explain appropriate behaviour and that that sort of thing is for a private time on their own. Parents need to be informed too. Be aware that for some children there's a possibility this is learnt behaviour from an adult behaving inappropriately in front of a child or with a child.

It's also possible that they aren't doing what you think they are doing. I recall a babysitter hitting me because I fell asleep all curled up and my hands ended up resting at my groin. Her words were "nasty little girl!"
wall of text but I guess its something -_-


RiotBiscuit wrote: Thankfully the mom was totally understanding.
atleast good thing the mother didn't snap.. not something I would like to see and could have been a reason for why some of those children would do it (find those little enjoying things in life but that can be seen on the childs face to know if there was something like that)

and do you mean that stigma in what people would want or not want to teach in sex education? (as there seems like boys mostly have a hard time getting such info in a good way.. dunno much about the girls maybe on the bit deeper side of things like how or what happends during pregnancy/growing up?)

why.. a doctor?.. (if not they need someone more "understanding" to talk about it... but then agian I wouldn't feel much bond with the parents if this happend, like be taken to a stranger to explain something about yourself)

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Look around the room and identify what their wanking to
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Posted 3/24/16
Talk to the kids' parents. It's neither your problem nor your responsibility as the babysitter to give them "the talk" or any variant of it. You just make sure they're fed, clothed, and clean while their parents are away. I would send them to a private room until they cool down, though. My reaction wouldn't change even if I was related to this kid. Don't take charge of teaching the child unless you have no choice. Let the parent be a parent. You just follow your basic orders.
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