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Did I make you upset? If I did then I am sorry.


...AHA!! Now go with that.

You can make an appointment with my receptionist for your next therapy session.


Alright then.
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As long as you don't violate Wheaton's Law
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Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
Thanks a bunches.


I have a friend who asked me a question and I wasn't sure how to answer it. I thought it was a good enough question too. So I'm asking you guys because I can get it off my mind.

If people are allowed to say how they feel, then why is insulting looked down upon? Are you allowed to care about someone else's feeling when you express your opinion? Are you inhumane if you don't consider someone's feeling first?
Why is that?







Depends on how you insult them. If you are simply telling the truth with no real harsh intentions, it just happens to be harsh then i think that is fine. But if your are insulting someone and you are the one out of line then i think it is a problem.

I think more people should tell the truth to be honest. I don't know if you've ever watched "my teen romantic comedy" but that show makes a lot of good points when it comes to kindness and how others can perceive what you say.

I really like the quote "People lie to be kind so therefore kindness is a lie" i myself don't lie.


The type of insults that people make when they want to hurt someone's feelings.


Truth hurts huh, no go ahead and be a hypocrite some more.
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Hey q3

I think if someone wants an honest opinion that they should be prepared for that persons version of an honest answer. I have met people who don't self censure to spare another persons feelings and it can be confronting. But like the saying says, 'opinions are like @$$h0les, everyone has one"
Posted 4/5/16
People are not filterless (allowed to say how the feel) %100 due to authority and social control (without toe-dancing like a pc ballerina), so it is with insults. For every positive there is a negative to balance it out eventually. It is a matter of awareness.
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I think the issue is deeper than if it's ok to insult.
Assuming it is the case then the level of offence to be taken is still undefined and of course there are people that only ask to dig for compliments and don't really value the interviewee's opinion.

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I think the issue is deeper than if it's ok to insult.
Assuming it is the case then the level of offence to be taken is still undefined and of course there are people that only ask to dig for compliments and don't really value the interviewee's opinion.

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qualeshia3 wrote:

Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
Thanks a bunches.


I have a friend who asked me a question and I wasn't sure how to answer it. I thought it was a good enough question too. So I'm asking you guys because I can get it off my mind.

If people are allowed to say how they feel, then why is insulting looked down upon? Are you allowed to care about someone else's feeling when you express your opinion? Are you inhumane if you don't consider someone's feeling first?
Why is that?







Well having free will, you can do whatever you want.

But in the eyes of others it can be considered wrong or evil.

In my opinion, it's better to just keep negative opinions to yourself, it saves you less trouble and saves someone from getting hurt. If you feel guilt by saying or doing something, it's better off just to not do it.
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Yawn! I'm bored with you!
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People are not allowed to say how they feel. Full stop. Freedom of speech and expression is a complete myth as we arent allowed to say how we feel without upsetting someone. I dont particularly like people who are very religious or feminists, but if i say that out load its a hate crime.
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I just think there's a fine line between stating one's opinion and insulting, and lots of people don't know when they cross it.

Stating Opinion Example: "You've misunderstood the article completely. It would be wise to reread it without a predetermined bias."

Insulting Example: "Hey jackass, do you even know how to read, you illiterate son of a beast!?!?"

And yes, you are free to be considerate of others' feelings when stating your opinion. It just takes a certain level of eloquence to do so. One can state their opinion in a manner that doesn't have to insult or degrade the other party. Sugarcoating or embellishing your words is a form of indirect insult, so if you can avoid it you won't be in the same category as assholes and douchebags.
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qualeshia3 wrote:


If people are allowed to say how they feel, then why is insulting looked down upon? Are you allowed to care about someone else's feeling when you express your opinion? Are you inhumane if you don't consider someone's feeling first?
Why is that?







What you are allowed to do what is nice (or even moral) to do

You can definitely say how you feel. But when people look down upon your insults, aren't they just expressing their feelings as well? Making repeated insults, whether or not it is rational or allowed, will lead to people profiling you as 'that kind of person' and looking down upon you (perhaps even avoiding you).

One way to avoid this is to pass your opinions through a filter. Ask yourself is it true? Is It kind? Is it necessary? If it fulfills at least two of these criteria, then you can say it. However, if not, it might be better to stay silent (even though it is allowed or rational).

Posted 4/6/16
Because its not very nice.
GG guys, thread's over no problem.
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