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Posted 4/8/16

qualeshia3 wrote:


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What is a 'nice guy'?


Is this a serious question?


Why wouldn't it be a serious question?
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Posted 4/8/16

gornotck wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:


gornotck wrote:

What is a 'nice guy'?


Is this a serious question?


Why wouldn't it be a serious question?


Dude, I thought you were trolling on me. Besides someone has bet me to telling you what a nice guy is anyway.
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Actually, I like nice guys.
Nice guys are the only guys I like to talk to.
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They're probably running away because anyone that self describes as a Nice Guy(tm) is likely kind of an entitled asshole. >.>


Sometime i wonder if I resemble that remark. I do not view myself as entitled, but i do admit to being strongly opinionated.





As a nice guy I can speak from experience. We tend to be gun shy to rejection. Or if we are already with someone it can be hard to initiate the next step without provocation. Sometimes we need to be poked and prodded. Not with subtle hints, but with outright truth and bluntness.

But, on the flip side, we also need to learn how to be more aware, confident and able to take actions on our own.

I fear rejection. To be honest. but, it's mostly due to being burned int he past, which isn't fair to other future possibilities.

Just my two cents.
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Ah, okay then.
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I always thought the friendzone was real. You and someone else mentioned how it doesn't exist.
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Nice Guys are merely those who lead such bland lives they haven't ever been mean or held a firm opinion on something. Nice Guys should be replaced by "Jello Men." Of course they're placed in the friendzone. Why should someone take a chance on a guy who in the descriptor of "Nice Guy" has already promised to never be exciting, or willing to be mean to defend his interests or family.
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qualeshia3 wrote:



I always thought the friendzone was real. You and someone else mentioned how it doesn't exist.


it doesn't unless the guy puts themselves there and doesn't initiate anything futher.

As others have said, if you are being a nice guy with the goal of getting with a girl, you are an a-hole and doing it wrong.
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Sometimes it comes to men whether solid or weak or if his heart or thin ossified
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I think that people make a general link between nice guys and being shy and lonely because shy and lonely guys are more likely to act nicer in a relationship because they are grateful

There'll be plenty of nice guys who are just like regular guys. Just like there'll be plenty of shy/lonely arseholes. It's just probably a bit more likely for someone who is more introverted to be a bit nicer, but the balance is probably very insignificant.

As for the whole girls going for bad guys thing... Well yeah, there are plenty of girls who go for that, but I've always been curious as to who these 'nice guys' are who find this a problem because usually the girls who go for this type are bad themselves and people you'd assume the 'nice guy' wouldn't have any interest in anyways.
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Yamstarch wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:



I always thought the friendzone was real. You and someone else mentioned how it doesn't exist.


it doesn't unless the guy puts themselves there and doesn't initiate anything futher.

As others have said, if you are being a nice guy with the goal of getting with a girl, you are an a-hole and doing it wrong.


Oh alright.
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Hell no.
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stars201 wrote:
Actually, I like nice guys.
Nice guys are the only guys I like to talk to.
naaw
so thats the reason.


anyway yes sometimes it could be because feeling they aren't manly enough or something to get invested in? (just another piece of paper)
while if a guy like this:

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I'm not. I'm typically nice, but i'm not really interested in many women, at least not enough to worry what they think of me. When I am interested in a woman, I basically act the same.

The whole "nice guy" thing is really more internal. If you label yourself as a "nice guy" you're omitting everything else about yourself. Nice is all you have. On the otherside of that, nothing wrong with being a kind person.

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Posted 4/8/16

qualeshia3 wrote:


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qualeshia3 wrote:
Is a nice guy shy when it comes to love? What is it about nice guys that always make girls run away? Why are nice guys placed in the friendzone? Are you a nice guy and has it been hard for you to find love?


Nice guys know that they don't have a chance among girls who self-indulge their "woo-hoo!" post-teen dreams of getting the "bad boy" for a few thrills, until they find out....well, they find out. Hopefully not the hard way.

So we mostly just sit around, and wait to pick up the pieces afterwards. At least that way, they've been "broken in", and gotten all their unrealistic expectations of the world out of their system.


How sad.


Isn't it Qualeshia? Giving up because of their perceived views of the world. There are good men and women out there who are looking for each other. Bad boy/girl? don't worry about them they turn into mothers and fathers eventually. It all evens out on the cosmic balance.

yes his statement was sad.
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