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Post Reply are we in the day and age women have to make the first move?
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are we? I have had to make almost every first move, messaging, anything.
and when I do, I don't get a response

honestly im tired of taking the intuitive...

and not getting a response
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no
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Posted 4/12/16 , edited 4/12/16
Nope. Plenty of men are willing to make the first move. There isn't anything wrong with a woman making the first move either. Here's the thing. Men and women alike can be scared to make the first move. We just have to be patient. I think that's ok.
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I don't think it really matters who makes the first move, also I think you meant to say "initiative".
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Posted 4/12/16

Iberjib wrote:

I don't think it really matters who makes the first move, also I think you meant to say "initiative".


sorry thanks lol
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Posted 4/12/16 , edited 4/17/16
Usually when a guy makes the first move he gets accused of rape and locked away in prison so we tend to avoid that.
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Posted 4/12/16 , edited 4/14/16

KiroMatic wrote:

Usually when a guy makes the first move he gets accused of rape and locked away in prison so we tend to avoid that.


im talking about messaging someone or making plans for a date...not sex
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Posted 4/12/16 , edited 4/12/16
Well in some areas guys could care less, but I can't really go on with that the guy has to make the first move even if its out of bounds while if the girl does it... its all fine -__- yuri to the max!

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atleast having a better tolerance if a female doing it #femalefriendly
I guess thats why they use that term on stuff
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Nope.
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I had to encourage daughter to make the first move.

Some guys are unwilling to take that first step, for a variety of reasons.
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Posted 4/12/16
Nowdays, I think both gender are too scared to make the first move or cba to having a relationship (see no incentive having a significant other or until later in life to seek companionship).

But I usually make the first move, I think a lot of guys appreciate this. If they don't reciprocate feelings or continue to message you. Don't waste time cause he's not into you.

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Posted 4/12/16 , edited 4/12/16
Things slightly change depending on the country, culture etc. I've been in other countries where women actually approached me and offered me a drink and showed interest. I am assuming we are discussing America so what pretty much what everyone else said.

Most women, the majority, "not all" usually expect the guy to make the first move. That is from my experience. From what women have told me, in most cases when and if they make the first move and show interest their concern is that the guy will see them as a easy lay “sex”. So most American women want the guy to pursue them, they will throw off hints to let the male know they are interested. The guy just needs to be skilled enough to see the hints and bold enough to act on them.

It's a strange game of cat and mouse. I say, go for it. Don't pour out everything at once but let the guy know you are interested.

This varies on person to person, to the situation, to a lot of other variables. If you are not getting responses, analyze and interpret the situation and have a new plan of attack. I am just speaking on the majority of people I see in american culture, and this society. Of course not everyone is like this, but a lot of people seem to be accustomed to men talking the dominant role in making the first move.
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Posted 4/12/16
It varies from person to person. Some guys are put off by girls making the first move, some aren't, and some prefer it.

I'm guessing this is about some dating app since you're talking about a lack of responses.
Depending on the site you may be messaging inactive accounts, guys who are already dating someone else or otherwise not interested, or otherwise just getting lost in the crowd. I doubt going passive will up your chances at a response.
Posted 4/12/16
Not necessarily. I think it just depends on the individual.
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qwueri wrote:

It varies from person to person. Some guys are put off by girls making the first move, some aren't, and some prefer it.

I'm guessing this is about some dating app since you're talking about a lack of responses.
Depending on the site you may be messaging inactive accounts, guys who are already dating someone else or otherwise not interested, or otherwise just getting lost in the crowd. I doubt going passive will up your chances at a response.


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