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The friend zone, the battle between both parties desires that leads to questionable emotions. I understand both sides, and I am looking towards to constructive opinionated feedback.

A guy confesses his romantic interest towards a female, and she rejects and wants to remain friends. The guy may decide to disappear from her life or need space away from her before accepting being just friends; on the other hand, the female, depending on the guy's reaction, may think he was "never" a friend to begin with due to being just a friend for an opportunity to date or accepts the guy's need for time way before continuing the friend on a comfortable level. In this basic scenario, if a female has the choice to reject a guy's romantic interest, then the guy has the choice to reject the female's continuing friendship interest; vice versa.

A step further into a deeper discussion. Once the rejection occurs, emotion stirs up for both whereas the guy feels uncomfortable being around her after the rejection. The female feels angry and mad about throwing away friendship because of rejection which eventually leads to the thought he or she was never a friend.

Let's take a moment to a discuss a friendship. A friendship is a mutual bond of similar interest , history (like childhood friends), common values, etc. In addition, there are various types of friendship such as the friend who you call to have a good time, the friend that shares your inner most thoughts (a best friend), the self-esteem friend that provides emotional support, the casual friend just someone to talk, hang out casually, and friends with benefits, etc. A friendship is similar to like a job that qualifies to meet a certain criteria. What codons a true friendship? Is it easier to think of a true friend of the same sex versus applying that same concept to the opposite sex?

Face it, rejection hurts emotionally; period either through romantic interest or lead on to believe was a friend, then disappears.

Discuss your thoughts.

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I wrote this because I get friend zone a lot because I have the nice guy persona; keep it simple. I also provide the self-esteem and have fun friendship roles. I have been rejected, and I simply disappear or fade out. They get mad about why I would throw away friendship because of rejection? It is simply due to there are other friends to fulfill those roles, and I do not feel like providing all of her desires while I am left to suffer in an emotional way. Lastly, I have friends on understandable terms like we will never be romantically involved because of different religious beliefs, complete opposite personality, etc.

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Here they come.
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There is no "Friend zone" it's just fuckboys and little bitches whining they can't get laid.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Here they come.


Hahaha, it is about to get interesting


D4nc3Style wrote:

There is no "Friend zone" it's just fuckboys and little bitches whining they can't get laid.


I will disagree because not every guy is out there to chase girls just for sex. A step further, I think of this attitude of a manipulator of her feelings just to get inside of her pants. A devastating way to fulfill one parties' sexual desires as well as devastating her emotionally such as developing trust issues.
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Awaken_Riceball_ wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

Here they come.


Hahaha, it is about to get interesting


Indeed.
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If you're too mentally fragile to handle rejection, you probably shouldn't bother in the first place.
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Friends > Date > Lovers > Marriage
Friends > Best Friends >Date> Lovers > Marriage
Acquittance > !@#%buddy > Enemy

Edit : I have no idea how it works. I don't give a flying f.
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Thank God I'm alone
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geauxtigers1989 wrote:

If you're too mentally fragile to handle rejection, you probably shouldn't bother in the first place.


I can handle rejection, but the difference is that I "choose" not to continue friendship. I have no problems with remaining friends, but I honestly see no point due to reasons stated above. If I did not have any friends, then I may choose the friendship path.


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Thank God I'm alone


Being alone is awesome, no denying it. More time to yourself to fulfill what makes you happy versus fulfilling what makes others happy. You and you alone makes your choices and not dealing with "we" during decision making.
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> Really I never thought friend zone was in existence lol
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mel3b wrote:

> Really I never thought friend zone was in existence lol


It is basically slang for rejected. In phrase terms, "I like you but only as a friend."
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friend zones feels like the most harsh rejection TwT
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Friend zone is not synonymous with being rejected. Friend zone is putting yourself in a place where a person can only see you as a friend, where, if you had acted differently (namely, confessed before a friendship developed) you may have had more of a shot. An easy way to explain this would be with "childhood friends". Say you've been friends with someone all of your life and you think of them like a sibling. At this point, it is difficult for you to view that individual romantically. If that relationship was not developed, you may have thought of them differently and not "friend-zone"d them.
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sundin13 wrote:

Friend zone is not synonymous with being rejected. Friend zone is putting yourself in a place where a person can only see you as a friend, where, if you had acted differently (namely, confessed before a friendship developed) you may have had more of a shot. An easy way to explain this would be with "childhood friends". Say you've been friends with someone all of your life and you think of them like a sibling. At this point, it is difficult for you to view that individual romantically. If that relationship was not developed, you may have thought of them differently and not "friend-zone"d them.


What you stated is one of the reason online dating strives because friendship is out of the equation, and it is dating where both parties talk to find out if they are compatible or have a chemistry through communication before meeting in person to begin building upon intimacy. I will disagree on the friend zone because both were friends to begin with due to fulfilling a certain type of friendship role. Lastly, indeed that childhood friends would definitely be hard to confess if romantic feelings develop.
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and another friend zone thread/.
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