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Posted 4/14/16

Em0SceneStabr wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

Then don't date someone who wants to get married quickly.

You don't always know what a persons long term goals are especially now a days. I was in a relationshion with someone, we were dating for over a year before i finally figured out that to this person not only were we NOT a couple, to them we weren't even dating we were "Hanging out" I stayed with this person for 4 months after they told me this. why did I finally just cut them out of my life cold turkey when they said, and i quote "Even if me and you were married that would't stop me from leaving you or anybody else" ??!!?!?!?!?! byeeeeeeeeeee


As for someone using peer pressure to get me to say yes to marriage if they fully knew that i didn't want it, i told them multiple times that i didn't want to and then they do some "fuckery" infront of there family i'd DEF say yes and then the moment we leave curse them out, just because i said yes infront of your family doesn't meat that i can't "change" my mind the second we leave


True.
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Why would I say yes to something I didn't want? It would be immediately off-putting for someone to do something as manipulative as that to me so it'd likely cause a lot of issues if not end the relationship. Looking like the "bad guy" is infinitely better than getting caught up in something you don't feel is right for you.
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Freddy96NO wrote:

Could we make that 4?

Would you Marry Me?
Me!Me!Me!



I must respectfully decline your kind proposal. I'd have to get to know someone IRL before I could ever agree.
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I must respectfully decline your kind proposal. I'd have to get to know someone IRL before I could ever agree.
I only did it.. 4 you!

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Refuse carefully, then ask to have a word with him, in private. What happens next depends on how our conversation goes, but this incident likely means the end of the line for us. It appears that he had deliberately put me on the spot, intending on pressuring me with his parents' presence. I would feel betrayed, insulted, and suspicious. I don't like that the rhetorical man thought me so weak-willed and naïve.
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Posted 4/14/16

Freddy96NO wrote:


Razor_Girl wrote:
I must respectfully decline your kind proposal. I'd have to get to know someone IRL before I could ever agree.
I only did it.. 4 you!



And what would you do if I said yes and started pestering you for your real name/address etc...
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Razor_Girl wrote:
And what would you do if I said yes and started pestering you for your real name/address etc...
What you would?!

oh damn.. would just put the kitty back in my bag with the rest of the cats!

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i would say yes because i don't mind marrying someone if i'm dating them in the first place.

I wouldn't be dating them if i didn't like them and intend on marrying them in the long run
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ZavinRoyalheart wrote:

Let's say you're in a relationship with someone who wants to get married. You've told them you aren't ready for marriage. One day when you're at their family's house for dinner. At this dinner they pop the question in front of their family.
Personally I would have to say no. I would look like the bad guy but I'm not going to be trapped like that.
Do you say yes?
What happens next?


=}} Why where you not honest with person in the first place? you quoted saying you're in a relationship?
what you do not share info with your said partner, this makes no since wtf ever.
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Honesty is the only way to go in a situation such as this. If you accept in a moment of panic, it is only going to cause more hurt and embarrassment further down the road. And well, you have already told them you are not ready. Who wants to marry someone who is not listening to your own needs and feelings. Popping the question in an awkard situation after being told someone is not ready seems manipulative to me
Posted 4/14/16
just say no what's the big deal
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Said no 6 times, different people.

No regrets.

It helps to have a speech memorized as to why you're not ready for such commitment, and make it family friendly. Then gracefully bow out. If the family members or friends attack you in some way, just be glad you already said no, and that you are not obligated to please them because you have not decided to marry into their family.

Easy as pie.
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It seams what I wanted to say has already been said.
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Posted 4/14/16

sah36ila wrote:


ZavinRoyalheart wrote:

Let's say you're in a relationship with someone who wants to get married. You've told them you aren't ready for marriage. One day when you're at their family's house for dinner. At this dinner they pop the question in front of their family.
Personally I would have to say no. I would look like the bad guy but I'm not going to be trapped like that.
Do you say yes?
What happens next?


=}} Why where you not honest with person in the first place? you quoted saying you're in a relationship?
what you do not share info with your said partner, this makes no since wtf ever.


I have no idea what you're trying to say.
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Say no. I would have no problem with what ever her family thinks, because I don't care what they think, family relations are great and everything but I enter a relationship for the person not a package set. And if it doesn't happen inevitably from that moment, start seriously consider if the relationship should end soon as she already doesn't listen to me or respect what I have to say.
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