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Post Reply Is it selfish of me to not want my parents to become future grandparents?
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Posted 4/15/16
if you don't want babies, you don't want babies, nothing selfish about that.

people pushing/expecting you to have children are the ones truly selfish.
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I don't want children either. I am selfish and me and my fiancé have discussed it and we both decided that if we do have kids it wont be for a long time. I understand how you feel. I always hear from my mom about how she wants grandkids but its your life not theirs. They will have to deal with the decision you have made and support you. There is nothing wrong with not wanting kids if you know that you would not be happy having them. You are making a good choice based on how you feel.. it would be terrible if you had kids to only feel unhappy and trapped all the time. This would also be bad for the kid.

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I want to start of by stating that I do not find having children or a family cliche. One of my proudest accomplishments is my family. However, with that being said it is your life and you have the right to decide what is best for you. Those choices should not be based on what your parents or anyone else wants. If you are happy with your life the way it is, then that is how it should be. Everyone deserves happiness and it can come in all forms. I do not believe choosing to allow yourself to be happy should ever be considered wrong or selfish, and your needs should never be sacrificed for another's happiness. We owe it to ourselves as individuals to be aware of our own needs and accepting of those. I know plenty of people who have chose not to have children and live very fulfilling lives. I find it completely insane for someone else to ever believe they know what is best for another individual. Just do what you truly want with your life, and the ones that truly love you will come to accept that when they understand you are happy
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