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the only problem I have is that she assumes everyone gets news from social media. Otherwise....*shrugs* So? There's nothing wrong with wanting to express herself. If it offends people...*shrugs* that's on them.

Though I dont buy the fact that her roommate didn't know about Ferguson/Michael Brown....come on now, that shit was all over the place: news, papers, internet....
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since when has fried chicken been a black people thing? everybody around here eats fried chicken. but i am also in the south so idk bout dem yankees


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also she should just be herself, not suppress "blackness" I just think she's suppressing herself. She reminds me of someone, who tried to conceal and don't feel.


exactly what i think. in the end she was trying to be someone other than herself. and if she sees herself as nothing more than her appearance, then she obviously has some identity issues.
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exactly what i think. in the end she was trying to be someone other than herself. and if she sees herself as nothing more than her appearance, then she obviously has some identity issues.


It came across as her hiding any parts of herself that was more stereotypical of her race. I wouldn't jump to say that's all she identifies with, rather than to think many parts of herself that fell under that umbrella were suppressed out of fear of it being unacceptable or unappreciated. Better said, she was suppressing parts of herself that correlated with common stereotypes.



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Sogno- wrote:

since when has fried chicken been a black people thing? everybody around here eats fried chicken. but i am also in the south so idk bout dem yankees


Pan-fried and oven-fried seem more popular than deep-fried up north. It's hard to find someone who doesn't like fried chicken up here.

Even Japan and South Korea are now pretty big on fried chicken. Fried chicken pretty much makes the world go round.
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Sogno- wrote:

since when has fried chicken been a black people thing? everybody around here eats fried chicken. but i am also in the south so idk bout dem yankees


pandrasb wrote:

also she should just be herself, not suppress "blackness" I just think she's suppressing herself. She reminds me of someone, who tried to conceal and don't feel.


exactly what i think. in the end she was trying to be someone other than herself. and if she sees herself as nothing more than her appearance, then she obviously has some identity issues.


Friend chicken is eaten a lot more in the South than up North. Of course, people still eat plenty of it! I can also say, fried chicken varies heavily depending on location. Have you ever had Korean Fried Chicken? It is AMAZING.
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Honestly, I don't tend to know much about many goings-on, largely because I don't really watch television and I don't use facebook, twitter, instagram or whatever else unholy abominations are popular these days. I do like to know what is going on, though, so I will ask if somebody mentions something; hopefully no one will feel uneasy because I ask a question.

The problem I see here is more one of a culture where social media and uninformed opinions are considered necessary. It is a shame that she then felt she had to avoid certain things, though. It reminds me of a friend I had in high school... She told me she refused to eat watermelon around people even though she liked it a lot because it was "too stereotypical." I suppose it is almost a form of social anxiety, being afraid of how others will interpret what you do... I can really relate.
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Schmooples wrote:

Honestly, I don't tend to know much about many goings-on, largely because I don't really watch television and I don't use facebook, twitter, instagram or whatever else unholy abominations are popular these days. I do like to know what is going on, though, so I will ask if somebody mentions something; hopefully no one will feel uneasy because I ask a question.

The problem I see here is more one of a culture where social media and uninformed opinions are considered necessary. It is a shame that she then felt she had to avoid certain things, though. It reminds me of a friend I had in high school... She told me she refused to eat watermelon around people even though she liked it a lot because it was "too stereotypical." I suppose it is almost a form of social anxiety, being afraid of how others will interpret what you do... I can really relate.


I can understand her nervousness, considering how racist that image is of the watermelon-eating, fried chicken-eating black person.

Honestly, if people get offended by this girl, then they probably weren't really her friends in the first place.
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the only problem I have is that she assumes everyone gets news from social media. Otherwise....*shrugs* So? There's nothing wrong with wanting to express herself. If it offends people...*shrugs* that's on them.

Though I dont buy the fact that her roommate didn't know about Ferguson/Michael Brown....come on now, that shit was all over the place: news, papers, internet....


Some people don't care or don't have time to pay attention to the news. And her roomate did know SOMETHING happened he/she just hadn't really looked into the details.

Like me I don't know much about that case because.... well I don't care. It has nothing to do with me and there is already so much hype my voice won't count for shit.

On the other hand I'm a collage student and have other things to do than get wrapped up in a news story I have zero control over.



Also it sound like it's less about her supressing her "blackness" and more about her just conforming herself to majority standards in general like pretending to care about actors and pop stars.

There is a difference between the two and it would help her if she realized that a bit more. For example I'm white and I couldn't give less of a damn about whatever celeb couple is breaking up.... again (seriously last time I went to Wallmart I clanced at the magazine rack at the check out and litterally every magazine had some divorce as the cover page... ALL OF THEM!!!) and if you ask me what I think about a pop star I'll say "meh!" and best and at worst I'll hate them because I'm so sick of people mindlessly gushing over them when they aren't even good (aka Justin Beiber).

Or saying hello instead of "hey girl"... I'm pretty sure no one would even care if she did the latter but she chose to force herself to do the former since it's what everyone else did. But again that's less about suppressing blackness and more just conforming to standards. The reason this distinction is important is if you over emphasize race then you make the issue worse than it is.

While it's true there are some behavior or habits that certain groups tend to follow. But they don't define the group they are merely a part of it.

The other problem with the way she's looking at this is she'll never be able to get along with white people if she keeps acting like she has to surpess her "blackness" in order to do so. It makes it sound like white people are some alien group that you need to adapt to instead of just another group of people who maybe have different habits and interests from you.
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sounds like she has issues
she wants to just be with black people, black collegeus -forgive me I cant spell that- in her own little "Safe" world where she can be protected
"suppressing blackness" what , just be yourself, jfc we are all different , but really?
sounds to me like someone who cant handle shit lol
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Your skin colour is different; your're still human, we're not different. For heaven's sake people our hearts beat, we're not monsters. Only time I would ever think about mentioning skin colour is to describe someone's appearance.
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Your skin colour is different; your're still human, we're not different. For heaven's sake people our hearts beat, we're not monsters. Only time I would ever think about mentioning skin colour is to describe someone's appearance.


I know right?
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GrandMasterTime wrote:



Your skin colour is different; your're still human, we're not different. For heaven's sake people our hearts beat, we're not monsters. Only time I would ever think about mentioning skin colour is to describe someone's appearance.


I know right?


It just makes my blood boil to be honest.
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