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So, tell me how important is acceptance in society? Should we accept ourselves or be accepted by society? Is it wrong to want someone to accept you for who you are when you should accept yourself?

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If you don't accept yourself, you shouldn't expect to be accepted by others.

I don't know how important acceptance is to society, but that desire seems a bit trivial, as being accepted is never 100%. You can't please everyone's standards, nor should you attempt to.
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If you don't accept yourself, you shouldn't expect to be accepted by others.

I don't know how important acceptance is to society, but that desire seems a bit trivial, as being accepted is never 100%. You can't please everyone's standards, nor should you attempt to.


You can always try and get others to accept you even though you can't accept yourself. It will become very difficult but something worth trying. It's strange how being human works.
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You can always try and get others to accept you even though you can't accept yourself. It will become very difficult but something worth trying. It's strange how being human works.


That would be a hard feat. As an example, those who are constantly putting themselves down and telling everyone else what a loser they are. That's all they talk about. Would you want to associate yourself with that on a regular basis?

Your answer would probably differ from mine, I guess it's from being business-minded, but I can't accept anyone that won't accept themselves. That's like asking for negativity to come in to my life.
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1stladyent wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

You can always try and get others to accept you even though you can't accept yourself. It will become very difficult but something worth trying. It's strange how being human works.


That would be a hard feat. As an example, those who are constantly putting themselves down and telling everyone else what a loser they are. That's all they talk about. Would you want to associate yourself with that on a regular basis?

Your answer would probably differ from mine, I guess it's from being business-minded, but I can't accept anyone that won't accept themselves. That's like asking for negativity to come in to my life.


Huh, I see. My guess is that people like that don't know how to change for the better. They want someone to accept them for who they are rather than be accepted for something their not. I don't know how to word it exactly. It makes sense that you wouldn't want to be around someone that negative. I probably wouldn't want to be around someone like that either. But that person has his or her reasons for why they refuse to change.


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Posted 4/25/16
Accepting yourself and being accepted by others is both important. Although 1stladyvent says accept yourself first and then expect others to accept you, I think it is irrational to expect others to accept you. People only hang around for as long as it suits them. But being accepted by others and being given recognition of the bond between you and them is important... It's probably the reason why we put some thought into greetings as well. There are multiple ways of saying hello.

I might be wrong and "importance of acceptance" tends to differ from person to person. Everyone has their own unique sense of being.
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qualeshia3 wrote:


1stladyent wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

You can always try and get others to accept you even though you can't accept yourself. It will become very difficult but something worth trying. It's strange how being human works.


That would be a hard feat. As an example, those who are constantly putting themselves down and telling everyone else what a loser they are. That's all they talk about. Would you want to associate yourself with that on a regular basis?

Your answer would probably differ from mine, I guess it's from being business-minded, but I can't accept anyone that won't accept themselves. That's like asking for negativity to come in to my life.


Huh, I see. My guess is that people like that don't know how to change for the better. They want someone to accept them for who they are rather than be accepted for something their not. I don't know how to word it exactly. It makes sense that you wouldn't want to be around someone that negative. I probably wouldn't want to be around someone like that either. But that person has his or her reasons for why they refuse to change.


Does this make a lick of sense?


A little bit! But I think I kind of get what you're saying. It could be a cry for help? Who knows. If they don't want to make changes, they can't move forward. They'll be stuck in the same rut. They have to take the initiative themselves to make the changes they want (attitude, perception), or else there'd be no point in having others try and help them.
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qualeshia3 wrote:


1stladyent wrote:

If you don't accept yourself, you shouldn't expect to be accepted by others.

I don't know how important acceptance is to society, but that desire seems a bit trivial, as being accepted is never 100%. You can't please everyone's standards, nor should you attempt to.


You can always try and get others to accept you even though you can't accept yourself. It will become very difficult but something worth trying. It's strange how being human works.


IOW, "Always be sincere, even if you have to fake it"?
Why do you ask us to help you with your psychoanalysis, if all you do for the rest of the thread is disagree if we don't give you the "right" answer?
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Accepting yourself and being accepted by others is both important. Although 1stladyvent says accept yourself first and then expect others to accept you, I think it is irrational to expect others to accept you. People only hang around for as long as it suits them. But being accepted by others and being given recognition of the bond between you and them is important... It's probably the reason why we put some thought into greetings as well. There are multiple ways of saying hello.

I might be wrong and "importance of acceptance" tends to differ from person to person. Everyone has their own unique sense of being.


But accepting yourself just like being yourself is never the easy thing to do. We look for people to accept us for who we are because we want someone to like us. We want to know that we have a purpose in life and can make someone happy. It sounds like we're trying to please people but in reality we just want to be accept for who we are.
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qualeshia3 wrote:


1stladyent wrote:

If you don't accept yourself, you shouldn't expect to be accepted by others.

I don't know how important acceptance is to society, but that desire seems a bit trivial, as being accepted is never 100%. You can't please everyone's standards, nor should you attempt to.


You can always try and get others to accept you even though you can't accept yourself. It will become very difficult but something worth trying. It's strange how being human works.


IOW, "Always be sincere, even if you have to fake it"?
Why do you ask us to help you with your psychoanalysis, if all you do for the rest of the thread is disagree if we don't give you the "right" answer?


Sorry, but I'm trying to make sense of things.
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The person has to want to change for themselves. But some people change in order to please others.

Why is that?
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The person has to want to change for themselves. But some people change in order to please others.

Why is that?


They had to take some initiative to gain acceptance. They needed some level of desire to change to force themselves to change to please others. One couldn't make that move purely against their own will.
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1stladyent wrote:


qualeshia3 wrote:

The person has to want to change for themselves. But some people change in order to please others.

Why is that?


They had to take some initiative to gain acceptance. They needed some level of desire to change to force themselves to change to please others. One couldn't make that move purely against their own will.


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I guess its as important as it is to the individual. I'm not one to care if I'm accepted or not, but if you want to be accepted, and to change yourself, that's on you.
Posted 4/25/16
It's more important in the early stages of life, but throughout life regardless. A person has to want to change, and allow themselves to be changed. It also has to be appealing to them so as not to feel like brainwashing or forced conditioning. Acceptance and conformity always go hand in hand; anyone who has been raised in a strict religious upbringing can attest to that much. Be it in their 'best interest' to 'keep them alive' or "from going to hell' , so many ways to make an example of this , and to make an example of nonconformists. The answers are never absolutely grey or black and white with so many alternate viewpoints to consider..
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