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I blame it on bad parenting. Lelouch isn't really bad guy look at Zhangief for example, they just lack confidence, sigh

P.S. Thin veil of authority makes sense
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I'm a nice guy, I just don't take anyone's shit. If you're a dick to me, fuck you, bye, don't talk to me, you're dead to me.

Like back in HS I was never bullied but one time this one guy started annoying me, I let it slide for two weeks cuz too lazy to start shit, then I got too pissed one day and called him out on his shit. I lose all my chill at those moments, no rational thinking whatsoever.
I almost got into a fight with a security guard in Las Vegas because I got pissed, totally bad idea and irrational.

So thanks to my short temper when it comes down to it, I can be nice but not a doormat.
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I don't think they are, in fact I look up to genuinely good people. I think they are fools, but I still respect that they have morals and stick to them. It beats a bendy little snake any day of the week. Maybe it has something to do with them being less exciting then bad boys?
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Subjectiveness, I'm guessing.
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qualeshia3 wrote:I found this on the internet and thought it was interesting. What do you think about it? Are nice and good people looked down upon? Does being nice and good have it's limits? Lend me your thoughts.


Y'know that old saying about "The drunk wants everyone else in the room to have a drink"?

It's true for cynicism as well.
(Optimism must be "punished" with Darwinist-unfitness for being "unaware" of the true dog-eat-dog horrors of our messed-up species, you see...)
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PrinceJudar wrote:

There's a difference between being nice and being a doormat.

It just so happens that more nice than mean people tend to be doormats.





Gotta agree with the royal highness here.
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PrinceJudar wrote:

There's a difference between being nice and being a doormat.

It just so happens that more nice than mean people tend to be doormats.





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I consider my self a good person and while I'm too shy to really make a ton of friends, I get along with pretty much everyone. Maybe I've been lucky, but I don't think I've ever lost out on anything due to my niceness. I think its my lack of confidence that holds me back.
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qualeshia3 wrote:

Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
Thanks a bunches.

"Just an observation. I never say anything to insult anyone, even if they start insulting me. I never do anything to hurt anyone. I'm not rude... I always help everyone, even my most hated enemies, without asking for anything back. I'm also not the only one, I see a lot of nice people. All we get is stepped on, used, insulted, pushed around, and when we get pushed around and we fight back, all of a sudden we're the worst person in the world.

It seems like all the mean, rude, ungrateful, immature, etc etc. people in this world have the better lives... They have plenty of money, plenty of friends, they seem to get anything they want, and above all things, they're happy. It's almost like they leech off of other people's pain to become happy. I thought being a good person was supposed to help you in life, not make it harder for you.... "


I found this on the internet and thought it was interesting. What do you think about it? Are nice and good people looked down upon? Does being nice and good have it's limits? Lend me your thoughts.







Being good doesn't make things easy. It's the hardest way to live but if you ask me. It's the best way. To make people laugh and smile is wonderful. It brings me joy.
You can't let people walk all over you either. You gotta stand up. Let them know you ain't gonna take it. You can't go around bein' a doormat. You need people to know you're middle name isn't "welcome". We don't let them win. We are the strong. We have suffered. Who are they to look down at us. We're all human. Demand respect. Stand tall. Stand proud. You can do anything.

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Posted 4/29/16
Because no one likes a yes-man/woman. If your only defining trait is that you're nice, you're a boring person.
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It's because being a nice, good person makes it easier for people take advantage of you.

You can still be a nice, good person, but don't be a fool.
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Life is not about being nice or mean. It's about how much you want something. It's about being confident and assertive. It's about receiving a bad hand and making something of it. It's about skill, and what you can do with yours. It's never been about being nice. It's never been about being mean.

It's all about being strong and how willing you are to fight for what you want. Though, I'm not saying you should just abandon your morals and philosophies to get what you want. I'm saying you shouldn't be afraid to bare your fangs. My limited and small amount of experience tells me that most good people don't have the strength necessary to do what they want. And most mean people don't have the courage necessary to try to be helpful and altruistic. Finding the middle ground between good and evil is a difficult task, but it's rewarding.
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Nice speech.
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stars201 wrote:
You can still be a nice, good person, but don't be a fool.


Or as someone else put it, "Be as innocent as doves, but as cunning as snakes."
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I am a VERY nice person. I always say yes or no ma'am, thank you, excuse me or hello. I try to help anyone out. I love animals and I will not hesitate to put my foot in someone's freaking face! Hmm, maybe there's a big difference between nice and having manners?. I also love saying no lol. Like people above have said there's a big difference between being nice and being a doormat. I don't know why anyone would look down on someone for being nice. Maybe they're looking down on them for other reasons? I've occasionally encountered some really "fake" nice people. People who are courteous and seemingly kind until you turn your back on them and then they'll rob you blind. I don't know if I would trust someone who's too assertively nice though. A lot of people usually have ulterior motives. Notice how most women who are abused by jerks always say they were SO nice in the beginning? So maybe it's just that people are naturally distrustful and rightly so. I'm extremely nice but I can also be a jerk. Moderation in all things.

Personally I prefer honesty to niceness. I don't care what someone says, it all depends on where it's coming from. Obviously I don't want to hang around hateful jerks but people can say a lot of hateful things without an ounce of hate behind those words. Plus actions do speak louder than words. People who say rude crap then go and help an old lady across the road = nice in my book.
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