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Posted 4/29/16

qualeshia3 wrote:

Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
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"Just an observation. I never say anything to insult anyone, even if they start insulting me. I never do anything to hurt anyone. I'm not rude... I always help everyone, even my most hated enemies, without asking for anything back. I'm also not the only one, I see a lot of nice people. All we get is stepped on, used, insulted, pushed around, and when we get pushed around and we fight back, all of a sudden we're the worst person in the world.

It seems like all the mean, rude, ungrateful, immature, etc etc. people in this world have the better lives... They have plenty of money, plenty of friends, they seem to get anything they want, and above all things, they're happy. It's almost like they leech off of other people's pain to become happy. I thought being a good person was supposed to help you in life, not make it harder for you.... "


I found this on the internet and thought it was interesting. What do you think about it? Are nice and good people looked down upon? Does being nice and good have it's limits? Lend me your thoughts.







Tbh there is no one answer the the story above, but it really doesn't make sense why nice people are or can be looked down on. Now i can understand why if people do look down on them jealousy, annoyed and you also have to take into account that the being nice part may not be the part they are looking down on, they could be looking down on something else about you and you just so happen to be a nice person.

But idk i myself have no experience in such a thing i don't get out to often and only interact with a few people and i haven't come across such a situation. Well actually if i were to mention my mom i guess she would be one of those nice people who may be looked down on but the being nice part isn't what is being looked down on, she just so happens to be nice and have other traits that can be really annoyed causing me and other family members to be rude or mean sometimes.
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Posted 4/29/16 , edited 9/2/17
i don't like nice people

good people are a myth

kind people, however, are gems and are kind partially because they can take everyone's crap and still be kind people
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Posted 4/29/16 , edited 9/2/17
Niceness is sometimes seen as a weakness.
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Posted 4/30/16 , edited 9/2/17
They're probably viewed as weak and/or stupid. Or they're just pretending and want something from you, like it's all a show in order to get close to a person just to take advantage of them. I've had "nice" people do this to me countless times. That's why I've my guard up at all times.
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Posted 4/30/16 , edited 9/2/17
Because they never say how they really feel, and then it's too late, they get hurt.
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Posted 4/30/16 , edited 9/2/17
Great comments guys.
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Posted 8/31/17 , edited 9/2/17
I don't know but they shouldn't be. I moved from a place populated by insecure dicks to what feels like the nicest place on Earth.
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Stupidly, but its no surprise.
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I'm an asshole and I'm also a kind person (I hope). I don't have the best of both worlds :,(
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I think it's a matter of over emphasizing how "good" we are and under valuing how "good" the others are.

When we do nice things expecting others to be nice to us, are we really being nice or are we playing a coy game of bargaining?
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Posted 8/31/17 , edited 9/2/17
Plus one to the "be nice, but don't also be a doormat."

The cultural setting you're in can also skew perceptions. In areas with high crime, criminals might become glorified. Try to get to a place where your traits are viewed as positive.
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Posted 8/31/17 , edited 9/2/17
Be nice in your actions, not your words.
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i learned from the douchbag
Like Dr Cox from Scrubs
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Posted 9/1/17 , edited 9/2/17

qualeshia3 wrote:

Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
Thanks a bunches.

"Just an observation. I never say anything to insult anyone, even if they start insulting me. I never do anything to hurt anyone. I'm not rude... I always help everyone, even my most hated enemies, without asking for anything back. I'm also not the only one, I see a lot of nice people. All we get is stepped on, used, insulted, pushed around, and when we get pushed around and we fight back, all of a sudden we're the worst person in the world.

It seems like all the mean, rude, ungrateful, immature, etc etc. people in this world have the better lives... They have plenty of money, plenty of friends, they seem to get anything they want, and above all things, they're happy. It's almost like they leech off of other people's pain to become happy. I thought being a good person was supposed to help you in life, not make it harder for you.... "


I found this on the internet and thought it was interesting. What do you think about it? Are nice and good people looked down upon? Does being nice and good have it's limits? Lend me your thoughts.







I think the author is dishonest and dense, or they were just having a very bad day when they wrote this. You can find many of the reasons people look down upon "nice" and "good" people in how they phrase their post. They demonstrate how fake and dishonest they are by presenting themself as a saint. Even nice people have their ugly moments, so they are lying when they say they've never insulted anyone and that they help everyone. They basically tell us they are a doormat who doesn't push back at all when treated like shit, which isn't an admirable trait in anyone, even if they're nice. They come off as naive when they say they thought being nice was supposed to make life easier rather than harder. No one with half a brain believes that to be true.

They're probably the kind of person who would treat you like shit while convincing themself that it's not their fault. I would not grant them one iota of trust.
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Posted 9/1/17 , edited 9/1/17
Edmond Dantés agrees with whoever wrote that.
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