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Posted 4/29/16
Let me know if a thread like this one exist or not.
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Here I go again peeps;

Your mother contacts you out of nowhere and wants to see you. You have not seen your mother in five whole years due to a terrible argument that happened between you and her. When she visits you, you ask her why she contacts you. She says because she wants to make up and become a family again. But your mother would never call you and she made sure of that. But out of nowhere she calls. What do you do? Do you let her back into your life or turn her away?

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Posted 4/29/16
I would want to meet her face-to-face to see how she is first before I make a decision.
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I'd let her back into my life. It honestly depends on what the argument is about and what she is like as a person.
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She obviously wants my money. Go away mum.
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What did we argue about? If it wasn't truly as terrible as I thought it was five years ago, it'd be alright. I'd probably feed and cloth her and give her shelter too. I think I've been reading too much manga, but she could be near death's door and wanting to let things go before she dies... (Since you've given us such a tough scenario). Also, it depends on how close I am to her....

HOWEVER, IN REALITY, I am very close to my mum. She has ALWAYS, always, always, always, made sure I had enough food even when she went to work without any breakfast or lunch, and with not even enough coins to buy herself anything more than a snack... I may be boasting here, but to think I would overlook her years-of-support over one fight? No. Good thing this is just hypothetical. I'd come out of the book and strangle my author otherwise.
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That would never happen to me. My personality is like fire, but my mom's personality is like water, she knows how to calm my anger even if I get angry at her.
Some people arguments are like fuel and fire, but not her. She's like water to everyone's fire. It works because she doesn't retaliate. When you retaliate someone's anger, it only makes it worse. However, I don't have the same virtues as her, not many people do.
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Whoa, this was actually a situation that had happened when I was younger. My parents divorced, and I wasn't old enough to go off on my own yet. I stuck with my dad, since my mother had a few issues in her life that she needed to sort. We had a few arguments, she would call and ask how I was, and tried to justify her behavior. Eventually I stopped answering her, and we didn't talk for seven years. I won't go into detail, but there was a very complicated reason for the divorce and keeping distant. Something no one could have stopped, and after a very tiresome life of trying our best, as a family, to work it all out. It was inevitable and understandable.

I was going through college, trying to find my ideal profession, when she came back into my life. It was strange at first. She sent my aunt a letter, and my aunt gave it to me. It was three pages long, with her number at the end of it. Asking if we could meet, and that she would understand if I didn't want to. A month went by, and I found out that my father was back in touch with her. So, I told myself, why not? Just to see how she was, what she wanted. We decided to meet at a cafe. I remember walking around when I got there, looking for her. She came up to me. She looked so different. There was a lot of silence at first, we ordered tea like it was something we did every weekend though. Then she cried a little, talking about how tall I had gotten and it was very emotional after that. We got to know each other again, over the span of three years. Her and my dad remarried. We started going out and doing things, making up for lost time. Things are good now, my parents look very happy. Sometimes everything around you deserves a second chance.

But anyway, that's what happened.
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UnLukieTac wrote: Then she cried a little, talking about how tall I had gotten and it was very emotional after that. We got to know each other again, over the span of three years. Her and my dad remarried. We started going out and doing things, making up for lost time. Things are good now, my parents look very happy. Sometimes everything around you deserves a second chance.

But anyway, that's what happened.
Cool, so why did they get remarried?
Like if it was that long and such, did she have some personal problems or her own family related stuff?
or was it more of meeh it was a bit of a mess for a while then my father and mother did some "I miss you" or something to find a better tone?

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Freddy96NO wrote:


UnLukieTac wrote: Then she cried a little, talking about how tall I had gotten and it was very emotional after that. We got to know each other again, over the span of three years. Her and my dad remarried. We started going out and doing things, making up for lost time. Things are good now, my parents look very happy. Sometimes everything around you deserves a second chance.

But anyway, that's what happened.
Cool, so why did they get remarried?
Like if it was that long and such, did she have some personal problems or her own family related stuff?
or was it more of meeh it was a bit of a mess for a while then my father and mother did some "I miss you" or something to find a better tone?



I guess you could say that they found each other again. Like her and I did. She had a few problems, something a lot of time to herself happened to heal. I think when people love each other enough, they try and reconnect somehow. They just happened to start over, we all did. She did what she needed to, for herself. It's kind of weird. You never think things would ever fall into place the way that they do.
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UnLukieTac wrote:
I guess you could say that they found each other again. Like her and I did. She had a few problems, something a lot of time to herself happened to heal. I think when people love each other enough, they try and reconnect somehow. They just happened to start over, we all did. She did what she needed to, for herself. It's kind of weird. You never think things would ever fall into place the way that they do.
yeah, I guess they did feel a bit "empty" without the partner aside really when you are the son of that is the mother or wife for him?
As I would think the father also though about her when he saw you to a degree he would.. maybe more reminded of her (as a image in his head or who she are, but I dunno how long they where together before the split?)

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Something similar is happening to my sis and dad.... I'm sure my sister will never talk to him again after so many years...
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Nasirei wrote:
I'm sure my sister will never talk to him again after so many years...
Just angry and fighting or something?
or the one is doing wild decisions of their own that the other person don't like and a fight brakes out?

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Freddy96NO wrote:


Nasirei wrote:
I'm sure my sister will never talk to him again after so many years...
Just angry and fighting or something?
or the one is doing wild decisions of their own that the other person don't like and a fight brakes out?



I seriously don't know... It happened a long time ago. I was very young so I didn't understand what was happening... ;/

uh...depressing.
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qualeshia3 wrote:
Your mother contacts you out of nowhere and wants to see you. You have not seen your mother in five whole years due to a terrible argument that happened between you and her. When she visits you, you ask her why she contacts you. She says because she wants to make up and become a family again. But your mother would never call you and she made sure of that. But out of nowhere she calls. What do you do? Do you let her back into your life or turn her away?


Is this before or after my father fails to die on his death bed, thus disappointing me with his survival?

These topics are starting to sound like you're assigning us homework. -.-



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